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Lucybell
ANSWERS: 4
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Using anything other than your hand on their bottom disciplining your child. I would suggest not spanking your child when you see red either, that could go a bit overboard too.
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leaving a bruise. My husband recently got custody of his daughter and her sister because the little 2 year old got beaten by the mother's bf. she was all solid black and blue from the middle of her back to the middle of her legs.
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Great Q, Lucybell! If we had the answer to that, it would solve a ton of problems. I can tell you what the difference is to ME, and that's about all. If I spank my child, if it comes from anywhere inside me that does NOT hold my love for the child, then I am making a HUGE mistake. Everything having to do with the child MUST come from the place of love I have for them deep inside me. It's what keeps a person from hurting them, just as an anger release. It's the differnece between a well-timed swat on the butt, to teach a heretofore unheard lesson, and abusing a child to the point that it fractures their delicate psyche. +5
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To me it seems that spanking a child, which I condone, is premeditated and is clearly communicated to the child before punishment is rendered. It should also respect boundaries. For me that would be confined to the buttocks. Abuse, on the other hand, I would guess comes from anger and the desire to hurt the child. Hitting a child is wrong, swatting there butt when they misbehave teaches the child there are consequences to our actions. A lesson that needs learned.
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