When we are disappointed in others it is always our own fault. We either chose the wrong person or didn't really figure him/her out or wanted to believe things that were never true. We expected what they couldn't deliver. What do you think?
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RosieGHM Jetpacker
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I respectfully disagree with the phrase, "it is always our own fault." We form our intepretation(s) of someone, based on what they project to us. If they appear to us to be a kind and likeable person, it is because they have given us that image of them, by their actions and words. But if those actions and words are deliberately deceptive (because of their dishonesty), then we can't assume total blame for misunderstanding them. I'd say that they our impressions of other people are 50% our responsibility, and 50% theirs. +5
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Interesting question, Rosie. I think it depends partly on your upbringing. If you are brought up with high standards it is often difficult for others to meet them. Recently, I offered some fresh orange juice to an acquaintance of mine who was pregnant, and she was shocked. I couldn't see why but to her it was odd that I had offered it and she kept on and on about it until I felt that I had done the wrong thing! What is kind and polite to one person may be a sign of weakness to another so people are always surprising me with their reactions. I still wonder if it is my fault but now realize that there are so many other factors that come into play.
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