Parent don't have to abide by the same rules as their children. Parents make the rules, children obey. It's OK to respectfully ask your parents about the rules, but in the end, they are your parents.

my parents always try to break their own rules and then they change them so they can make it seem like i did something wrong and they are the ones who told me before thats what should be done. how is it that that is in a parents right? they are not absolute so rules are not play things. and life is not a play thing. they supposedly teach you things in life but my parents try to play around with it. they make rules but then break them as if they were lies.

CAUSE PARENTS RULE! THEY KNOW WHATS GOOD FOR YOU! THEY BEEN IN YOUR SHOES AND WANT YOU TO DO BETTER THEN THEM!

Because, adults and their children aren't on the same playing field

Because They are making the rules and They can change Them whenever They want. You're being supported financially. If You allow Them, They'll take Your things away or if They're mean, They'll beat You. And You can't do anything much about it. Defend Yourself, if You know how.

They are older and know more. Do what they say, not what they do. (Unless morally/ ethically wrong)

Your parents, all parents, are imperfect. As some others here have mentioned, they have your best interests at heart. . What I'm getting from you is that they cut themselves some slack now and again but don't cut you any. It could be that they are deceiving themselves or that one of them gives you a rule but other one doesn't take it very seriously (parents don't always agree with each other - try not to take advantage of this fact because it's extremely not good). . Another thought: they may change rules on a whim because they weren't working well. Parents make up rules all the time to cover situations they feel are important but later discover that the rules don't actually help anything. Sometimes they find that rules they made actually make things worse or are too restrictive in general. . Congress does this all the time but they are rather poor at changing the rules back. . I suspect they are doing the best job they can with the skills they have. They really want you to succeed in life. They want to brag about you to their friends and would probably like it if you came up with a grandchild somewhere down the road. Know that they DO love you. If they didn't there wouldn't bother making rules and setting limits in the first place.