A married men & strip clubs question..how many of you men can go to a strip club & just look?How many married men actually get lap dances or visit the private rooms.How honest are you with your wife?Do you consider lap dances cheating? touching? "extras"?

why does he need to go to a strip club in the first place. Ya, a lap dance is cheating, unless you are there with him

I'm allowed to go, though the wife would prefer I not have a girl grinding against my crotch.

i go, used to go more often. yes i have had lap dances and have gone to private rooms where there is more touchy feely with the girl. no its just for pleasure, not cheating. what she doesn't know doesn't hurt her. i never ask her where she has been.

most men go and do more than look if we are allowed. yes lap dances and private rooms and we don't really think about weather it is cheating or not. If we are not getting it at home then this is the next best alternative. if you are not having hot sex with your husband then you will find him with another woman or at a strip club.

we all go and touch as much as they will let us and for god's sake are not honest w our wives about it. never thought about weather a lap dance in cheating or not. we just enjoy it and dont give it any further thought. men prob would not do this if they were getting what they needed at home.

To answer your question Milady, it matters very little what others define as cheating. It only matters what YOU define as cheating. Well, with recent experience on the matter with my husband, I would have to say, more men than you would think visit the private rooms. My husband did. I knew that he was going to a strip club with a group of friends and I had no problem with that. Call me naive but at that point I thought my husband would display some common sense and decency. WRONG!!!!! Thinking that that I knew my husband better, I felt no need to have to tell him that private lap dances are not acceptable. If there's nothing to hide, do it in the open. I gave him the opportunity to exercise good judgement WRONG!!!!! He felt that telling me about it later made it okay. WRONG!!!!! Sending a text message to your wife as you're leaving the club to tell her you love her...WRONG!!! Having someone naked that close to him in a place that I would in the past have considered reserved for me, IS betrayal. And a note to all you slimy little buggers who say it's not cheating..... just run it by your wife first and if she says it's ok.... it's okay. I chose to forgive my husband and move on but it still hurts when I think about it. Just think boys, that while you're reaching into your wallet to pay for a private lap dance, is it worth destroying your partner's trust in you at the same time? I'd say not. I urge all couples to talk about this and define your boundaries.

i go to the strip club with my wife. this way she cant think anything negative and i dont like to put myself in a bad situation. we both get lap dances and try to enjoy the time with her. we even go to male strip clubs jus to be fair. lap dances are fun either wit a man or woman because we look at each other all the time. seeing sumone else excites us and makes us want each other more. every now and then you have to spice things up

A married man at a strip club? That picture seems so wrong.