I think you will die before she will by 50 years , do you think it would be wise to put her trough that?

There is something wrong here. #1 you are old enough to be her grandpa. #2 a 19 year old wouldn't be doing this unless she was going to get something out of it (think Anna Nicole Smith). #3 you are at the age where you are going to start needing medical care. Do you really see her wiping your ass for you or going out and enjoying life like a normal young woman?

i see nothing wrong at all. happiness is really important, and seems like you both will be. she is of age. whatever you do, i wish you both all the best =)

To each their own. I see nothing wrong here. I am 34 and I find it hard to have a adult conversation with anyone under 25, but if you like it go for it.

Ok Thinker I am not known for holding back my thoughts and I am typing this with the hopes that you realize I am taking this very serious. . I am 43 my husband is 68. I have a 21 y/o, 19 y/o and lastly a 17 y/o all girls. So I sat my 19 year old down and asked her about this question. She told me there is no way she would entertain the thought of dating or getting seriously involved with a man of your age. Actually she said, "Mom your kidding, thats like rocking the craddle and it tips over and rolls into traffic." I took it a step further and asked her to give me logical reasoning (as logical as a 19 year old can reason). Her reply was this: 1. His kids are old as you Mom! 2. Where do we hang out and with what set of friends? 3. What about the music difference not to mention the techniology difference. 4. I am learning in College in my History class all about ancient History which Mom its like I would be living that with a man of 70. 5. No matter how mature or how much in love this 19 year old is with this man, it won't last because girls my age "just really do wanna have fun." 6. It's hard enough to make it in this world with a person just a few years older or younger, "hooking" up with a 70 year old is like raising a child I would have to take care of him as he got older and he is already OLD! 7. Heck Mom it be like dating Dad, well ok minus a year or two. . This is a 19 year olds logic. And I am not so sure given a few word changes and her lingo structure that I disagree with her. I know deep inside me it is probably incorrect of my heart to feel this way as I do believe we do not control really who we fall in love with, yet given the huge age difference, mentality difference, social differences I can honestly say this is the correct path to take a 19 year old down. Let the child live life first! . Sorry if its not the answer you wished to read none the less I do wish you both well. Gotta add I am glad its not my daughter the conflicts this possible could cause and stress on this childs family is probably huge as well.

Well I'm 19, and I find the thought of it pretty nasty... I had a bad experience with a 54 year old and that was bad enough. I think you will die before she is much older (no offence) and that if you were to have children now you wouldnt be able to bring them up very easily because of your age, and it's just not a good idea...but if you love eachother I guess I cant really say much. I dont mean any of this offensively...

Go for it! Why not? It's just that the thought of honeymoon night will bring me nightmares for a couple weeks.

No way dude! The color of your cash must be extremely green. Remember Anna Nicole and that old dude she married - they never had sex, she just displayed her boobs and she got some serious coin out of it right? I heard someone say - he knew what he was paying for and he didn't have a problem with it. So the question is do you?

Dear Sir, My father is 81 years old. He has led an extremely full life. He has his thoughts of girls and things. But he has a wife. A good wife. I don't know why a girl of 19 would want to be with a man of your age, maybe you are attractive to her. But I can't imagine it. I think that you are trying to be younger than you are (which we all do) but you need to find is a woman closer to your age that will love you for who you are. There are many online sights full of real women who are lonely like you that are not out to get anything but companionship. Give it a try. If you didn't have doubts about this relationship you wouldn't have asked the question, am I right?

You are not doing the right thing unless: You are a genius like Picasso. --It did work for him. He accepted the fact that she would have lovers, and she accepted the fact that he wouldn't be able to satisfy her every time. They did have a child. Picasso left this woman after a few years.

Hon, I wish you all kinds of happiness. BUT, you know a 19 year old does not see life as you do nor as you have experienced. If I were you, I would put an air-tight pre-nuptial in place and see if she's into marriage then. If you have a life insurance policy, be doubly wary....sorry-someone had to say it.

Have you two actually met face to face or is your relationship online so far? I'm not being mean or nosy, just curious. Sometimes online relationships can seem so wonderful and beautiful and we think the one we have fallen in Love with is as close to perfect as anyone on this earth can be. Then you meet and it's still wonderful for a while. They tell you they Love you and everything else they know you want to hear and then out of the blue they drop you like a hot potato and you are left wondering what happened? I've been there and had that done to me a couple of times. People can be whatever they want online and on the phone. Actions speak much louder than words. I wish you the best but please be careful. I don't want to see you get hurt even though I don't know you.

I personally feel that the gap in the age is quite wide and it is alright ,but you have to keep that your way of thinking and her is different ,and i wish you best in your marriage ,but you have to give her whatever she desire in her life.hopefully that you will able to fullfill. Good luck.

Throw caution to the wind. Who gives a (fig) what "we" think? Go and be at peace. :)

Nope. The suffix -teen at the end of nineteen indicates she's still a teenager. No matter HOW mature YOU think she is, you may be biased; you're the one who wants to marry her. The human brain takes approximately 25 years to fully mature. A person changes their personality, values, morlas, etc during the formative years, which is why it's a dangerous time to make decisions that will effect the rest of their lives. Nineteen is too young for her to make this decision, as I said above, no matter HOW mature YOU think she is. Once her brain stops cooking at age 25, she may she life itself completely differently, and her plans may or may not include YOU. Being old enough to be her grandfather, you'll most likely do more parenting than husbanding. In 2009, she'll REALLY go for that, won't she (sarcasm intended)? Your impending death, even if it takes another 40 years to come about, will most likely take place before hers, leaving her a widow prematurely. A 51-year age difference leaves you two with very little in common. And as for those who say that age is just a number, I agree. It's an IMPORTANT number. Does anyone advocate marrying a 5-year-old? Finally, there's just something a little wrong with a 70-year-old man even wanting to marry someone young enough to be his own grand-daughter.

You were a teacher. I don't know if this girl was a student of yours or not but I know a Svengali situation when I hear one. You should be ashamed. Get out of that girls love life.

She's an adult and can make her own decisions. Speaking from experience I didn't mature until I was around 25-30 so she may emotionally change a lot in the next few years. Time will tell if you've made the right choice but if she loves you and you love her there really isn't a question of right/wrong. Good luck ~

Um... the first thought that comes to mind is Suga-Daddy. That may not be the case, and if it's not please don't take offense. The bottom line is probably the best answer - if it makes you both happy, God bless. Gotta ask though - how does the gal's parents (assuming they are still in the picture) feel about the arrangement?

seventy, get a big life insurance policy, make sure her name is on your will. go have fun. make sure she gets your home when you die, conditional on her taking care of you at home, instead of at a hospital.

if youre strong,virile,lucid,and stronger than a 40 year old then,go for it...buts its not worth it...

She's of legal age, so it's none of my business. Do what you will.

A 70 year old that is computer literate? Well done sir. I think your young lady is probably after some money. If you love her then by all means stay with her but getting married sounds a bit much.

Go for it and best wishes to you. +5

don;t rob the cradle! you nor giving my generation a chance... i will be disappointed when i am the age to really care...

I don't think that age is something that should stop a relationship. If you are going to marry her you must understand that she will do a lot of growing and changing in the coming years, I am only 21 but a completely different person than I was when I was 19. You also must be willing to deal with the criticism you are likely to receive from the people that surround you both. If you are willing to deal with a unique set of challenges through the course of your marriage then you deserve the happiness you were lucky enough to find. Best Wishes!

I have read most of the other answers and comments. i am 65 and here is my opinion. Love comes in strange forms. People cannot help what moves cupid makes in their lives. Sometimes, what happens just happens and you have no recourse other than to accept it. Happiness is the key here. You seem to be young for your age and thats a plus for you and her. You will hear all the nasty dirty old man jokes as other readers have stated. that should not bother either of you if true love exists. Having many things in common is also the second key to a relationship. I would suggest this. both of you date for at least a year, before there is any serious talks of marriage. This will give you both more time to really understand where each one of you is coming from and if both sides of the families are willing to understand themselves. You both will have a tough road to go. Like i have always said for many years........... "If its meant to be, it will be". Good luck and keep me posted. my email address is with my avatar.

Not trying to be rude. But you are cheating that 19 year old out of life.

If you have to ask..you already know the answer,get pre-marrital conseling,and mabey a pre-nup.in place bef.the happy day?

please don't marry her-even if you love eachother trust me I have been there. My first husband was 64 & I was 17 when I moved in with him then we had a daughter when I was 20 we divorced when I was 22 and I was by him my exhusband when he passed away when I was 24 and our daughter was 4. I loved him very much and still do but it took years away from me that I only understand now at the age of 38. By the way my present husband is 67 so I did it again and I am very depressed because of all the life I have missed out on and I do not fit in with people my age as I have become what I married-much older than my years. If you really love her let her go for her own good. It was never about money with me-always about love but please do her a favor she will always remember you for it and someday after you are long gone she will be greatful to you. The love will never leave her heart though.

It depends upon so much! How is your health at the moment? I married a man much older than me and our marriage did last for 10 years. He did not tell me that he has a drinking problem. He beat me when he was drinking and called me horrible names but stupid me stuck with him because I loved him and we had two boys together. He died due to his drinking after he ended up having a major operation on his pancreas. When he wasn't drinking he was the best husband a woman could ask for. Have you been straight forward with this girl about everything? Are you compatible with her likes and is she compatible with your likes? Age does not play a major part of love or marriage if you can be opened and totally honest with each other becfore you get married. Trust and respect for each other is very important.

Good luck, and congratulations! Your ages will present certain unique challenges to your relationship, not knowing more about the two of you I can't infer any more, but all relationships are difficult and unique, and we turn out better for having them. Rock her world, gramps!

Are you like Benjermain Button where your aging backwards?That would work.

why did you choose to make this question?this means that you are afraid,that you are not sure?,or that you are not doing the right thing??if so,why??

They are no way in Hell a young woman of 19 can love an old man of 70. I am sorry I don't believe this is ever real. ..Unless she is homely and cant get a young man that very well my be the case then I will buy it.

I find it hard to believe a 19 year old would want anything from a 70 year old except his money

Hello Thinker, I have one question for you before I answer. What do her parents think about this possibilty?

Well, I've been reading the various comments. Gotta ask you Thinker - are you simply seeking an approval rating, or bragging? Not to sound like a dick, but to just be blunt - would you let the opinions of the people on here influence your ultimate decision? If not, why bother seeking them, if only to make yourself more comfortable with the idea. And if you need the comfort of approval, is this really something you should be doing? You keep mentoning the lord - but really - that sounds like a religious copout. If you had a 19 year old daughter, how would you REALLY feel about her marrying a 70 year old?

NO. but if you insist, make sure you protect your money and make sure you are not alone with her so she can do you in for your money.

Where do I start. Well for one, she is 19. I was 19 once and knew lots of 19 females and not a one can I say is still the same person, ten years later. Shes still growing and you are mostly growing old. Two she is probably in need of a grandfather figure. Three, you don't really love her because if you did you wouldn't finish your final years with sucking the youth out of her. You are in love with the idea that she makes you feel young or you are just a pervert. Bet if you had a daughter who was 19 and a 70 year old man was going to steal her youth away, you would protest. Four even if you can reproduce you probably don't want children this late in the game. (except in your bed) And even if she says she doesn't want children, somewhere down the road she may change her mind where as yours is made up. And even if you decide you want to have children, a lot of people don't realize that sperm are usually not as healthy when you are older and have a greater risk of having a handicap child. Five lets say all goes well and you have a child. No sooner does she finish having to change the babies diapers and now she is on to you. Being realistic your odds of living a healthy life every year diminish at a greater rate than a much younger man. You already had a chance to do with your life what you wanted. Don't you think she has the right as well? I know you probably think she is adult enough to make this decision and everyone matures at different rates but take into account that your age will influence a lot of decisions and she really doesn't understand consequences yet. Even couples who are close in age struggle with consequences and life as a couple. Your age however is like a grenade that at somepoint is assured to go off. You can argue that something unforseable can happen to a young person but her odds are better they won't. And if at 20 she were to have a stroke. Will your interest in her fade because you feel you are too old to take care of her?

I do not hurt any one. But according to me Your love is true I will never say no. But regarding She: Is she well to do or poor or middle class. Surly she may have a life problem. or You may be richer than her. Some difference may be there in money position. Your love should not leave her on the street if you will not settle any property on her name. Or She should not leave you and go in your old age after get all the assert. You also must enjoy your life till your death. And she also should be satisfied of all through her life. In case if my advice has not enter your both ears. Then write some of your property on her name and marry her. And not everything. In case if you are not worthy to give her at-least a house please do not marry her. And that will be good for you and good for her. Think Sincerely (for you as well as for her) Seriously and do thing. Good buy.

I give it six months - either your ticker will go or she will.

If you let her out of the cellar and she doesn't run....Go for it!

Well I'm sure you are fully aware of the impression most people get of such a union; she's after money and security and you are after a young woman. As long as you are both getting what you want, and it makes you both happy, I say go for it, you aren't getting any younger. Just remember, Caveat Emptor!

I'm 16 years old and i'm with a 23 year old. Iknow the difference is more extreme in your case, but its the same idea. Society doesn't see it right for such an age difference. The way i see it, if you both love eachother the way my boyfriend and I love each other, it shouldn't matter what society thinks. It's not their relationship, so they shouldn't be worried about it anyway. Age is just a number. Love has no limits. Hope everything works out, congrats for finding love

You'll be dead by the time she's fifty, I don't think she's going to like that very much. +5

Love works in crazy ways. If the love is true do it.

2nd Answer. I know you are 70 and i know she is 19, both adults. One question. where are her parents in this situation and what is their opinion of this relationship? Like i said in my first answer, if you two are happy and respect each other and can accept each others differences in generations, then go for it.