You can't let this get you down, I'am a real person, I know you feel like as if your world may be crumbling and there's nothing left, but you have to stay positive sweetie !, you have to turn the negative in to positivity, take this time to let her collect herself and really make up her mind on what she seriously want's to do, as for YOU !, you have to think about your health and your son, you have to be there for him, his back bone, you have to take up a hobby so that you don't get so sad an down, and start doing thing's for yourself again,l like hitting up the gym again or taking your son to the park and playing with him, and you have to make a new list !, a goal list of everything new you wish to accomplish in your life, this is not a set back honey !, this is a way of making a new set of thing's you want to complete for you, yourself and your child, it's your time to shine and become who and what you've always wanted to, go out and do thing's you've never be able to because of her holding you down ! Good luck ! - nina :)

I know exactly what you mean, and I know how the arrogant cocky little attitude ad the pridefulness card is played, it's hard to go throw this, but you have to let her do as she pleases, you have to let her have her wild hair time, that's what it's so called, when you hit those years of wanting to party and still have your freedom, she may not be ready to buckle down just yet and commit to being a wife, and a mother, being a mother in a big step, you have that responsibility of pleasing your husband and being there for your child, she may be scared and just be acting out because she's scared, you just have to reassure her, that no matter what she is going through, she is not alone, your there for her 100%, and honestly, no matter what your never going to lose her :), she's the mother of your child, she chose you to have a child with, that's a big thing, not just any woman will allow any kind of man to make her a child, and damage their pretty little figures for nothing, trust me your always going to be in her life and her in yours, you just have to calm down as for now and let what's going on happen, don't go out telling your family about anything just yet, give her time to come back to reality hun, give her time to be alone and miss you and her son, and have a taste of fantasy, everybody get's scared every now and then, and has to face their inner child, this is just a obstacle, the way you make it sound, you really love her, and if it's really ment to be you guy's will pull through the hardest of times, this I promise...

You still have plenty to look forward to... Your son starting day care and bringing you pictures he's drawn there. Your son starting kindergarten and bringing you pictures he's drawn there, and grade cards. Your son LEARNING, in general. Your son, going to high school, maybe getting into sports or music. Your son working his first job. Your son falling in love the first time. Your son devastated by the loss of that love. (VERY few people stay together throughout their lives.) Your son getting into college. Your son becoming a success (hopefully) in his chosen profession. Your son marrying a beautiful girl, and having YOUR grandchildren. And having to talk to YOU, his real father, throughout all of that. You will have (probably) every other weekend, summers, and many holidays to look forward to being with your son. You will find new women to fall in love with. (It doesn't seem/feel like it, right now, but it will happen.) You may "fall into" a new hobby. The above may be in a relative order, but some of it can happen in almost any order. Stay away from alcohol. You don't need it to cope. You just need someone to talk to. Find someone. Male, female, professional (psychiatrist, minister/priest/rabbi), someone. WRITE. Write songs, poems, thoughts, journals, your history, your family's history, etc. ANYTHING. If you write about your feelings, try to make it as cathartic as possible. Don't ever burn what you've written. If it's too hard to take, right now, then just stick them in a file, and don't open that file until you KNOW you can handle it. DO NOT allow your emotions about your wife's leaving to ruin your life at work, or with your son. DO NOT ever put your wife (or anyone she becomes involved with) down to your son. It's new. You must grieve the loss, first. When that's over, you will come out of it stronger. And always remember that whatever you do, your son will see it with more matured eyes at some point in his life. You will probably be an emotional wreck for a while. That's ok. Everyone has, at some point in their lives, lost someone they thought they'd have around forever. Remember that you HAVE NOT "lost" anything but them living with you. Try to be as amicable as you can with your wife/ex-wife through the divorce. That doesn't mean you will like it, but that you accept that you'd rather have someone you love(d) be happy with their choices. You will make it through this. I did (I was 25-26 when my first girlfriend left me, and was 40-41 when my wife left me with my two sons), and so did many others. You are NOT alone, and you are NOT the first and only person to which this has happened, though it will feel like that to you. Remember that others have made it through the whole process and come out better, and allow yourself to do so, too. Find a way to separate your work from your home life. If you don't, you may have more problems at work. Force yourself to eat, healthy if you can, but eat. Don't start any bad habits while you're in this state. It's not going to do you any good, won't be a good example for your son, and may cost you more than you believe. (And you KNOW what "bad habits" I'm talking about, I'm sure.) Sleep will come, slowly, at first, but it will come. Learn to blank your mind when you lay down for bed. Don't LET any thought into your mind, but going to sleep. It will work better and better as you practice. Remember that YOU must be strong through this for yourself and for your son, and do the BEST you can at it. Again, you will make it. It doesn't feel like it right now, but if you don't do anything stupid and let yourself grieve, you will be fine. It will take at least a couple of months, but you will, I promise. See my answer at http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/6518098 and it's link for more. Good luck! ;-)