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  • welcome to the real world
  • The more important question is why didn't you listen to your instincts. The older you get the more you realize your instincts will keep you safe. You DID listen to your heart, you didn't listen to your brain.
  • You have a wonderful gift to love. You love wholeheartedly and that is a wonderful gift. The down side is when you meet jerks who take advantage of that! May God bless you as you recover.
  • Sorry to hear, Kewl Guy! You both had different intentions, one was open the other to use. If it's any consolation, the chemicals that flood your body when you fall head over heels make you rather psychotic and not in control of yourself. The purpose is survival of the species, but it makes for some strange pairings. This is why it's good to try to not bond with someone until after you get to know them very well. Once you have sex the attachment chemicals take over. It's fighting nature to delay it though.
  • dont worry kewl guy thats life and how we learn,sorry about the pain but it makes a person stronger in lifes journey,the thing is when the next time comes to love like you have never loved before and to trust like you have never been hurt(i read something like that}and besides the saying better to have loved than not,stay strong.
  • ohhhhh sighs we are in the same boat... i have no idea why ppl use other ppl .. all i know is it really hurts when someone you love treats you like an object instead of a human being with feelings. and it hurts even more when they just "discard you" like you are just trash. as a matter of fact i wonder everyday how someone can do that[use ppl] to someone who loves them.. its just awful .. big hugs to u i hope things will get better for u take care :)oh and btw ppl like us who care are not fools .. we are kind and loving .. it's the user that is the fool to hurt ppl that care for them... just wanted you to know that.:)
  • It might help to realize that when someone "uses" you it isn't about you, personally. You are just the latest tool in their quest to get what they want and/or need. You weren't a fool. You loved someone who didn't deserve it. That's their failing, not yours.
  • Oh Kewl Guy, I'm so sorry to hear that it didn't work out. When I read that you were with someone new, I was so happy for you. If it wasn't to be, then it's better that ends sooner than later and you have no right to feel foolish. We never get too old to make mistakes and our hearts tend to blind us from things we don't want to see. Some of us give with everything we've got and unfortunately there are those that are willing to selfishly take advantage of that and use us for everything they can get. Shame on them, not on you. Chin up, big guy, someone better will come along.
  • I am so sorry that happen to you Kewl Guy. I guess they are spoiled self centered people, I have made that mistake myself a couple times, I have this bad habit of thinking the best in people, some say I am naive, I just trust until you give me a reason not to. I know it is to late to say it now, but I hope next time you listen to your instincts they are usually right.
  • It seems like you may have listened to your figurative heart instead of your mind. Most people today have been through similar things, I know I sure have. People as a whole seem to have different values than they did in the days of "leave it to Beaver" and such. Sorry for your heart ache. http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Jer17:9;%202Tim3:1-5;&version=47;9;78;15;49;

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