"I hate you too, honey." - Said in a calm, pleasant tone.

Tell her you love her.

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I always say to my teenager when they say that, Well thats nice dear I still love you but I am not changing my mind :)(They hate it and dont know what else to say I usally get a door slam in response)

Break out into a rock anthem.

You arent the first, and you wont be last, now go clean your room.

I hate you to, but i won you in the divorce and now were stuck with each other.

Well honey I know you don't mean that and one day you will understand the things I do are for your own good.

That's good. Means I'm doing my job.

"OK, you're entitled to your feelings. I can understand why you would feel that way, right now, and if I was 14 and my parent treated me like that, I might have said it too, but that doesn't change what I said." I have raised 2 sons, three grandsons, and worked with countless teens in the Foster Family program.

i have one like that. i would never tell her i hate her too. in most cases they don't really mean it. usually i tell her i'm sorry she hates me but i still love her. lol that sometimes gets her angrier, but its true. sometimes if shes really mad i just ignore it. mine started this at around 13 and is still going at it at 18. one of the joys of parenthood.

Hmmm ... My daughter never says it to me. Hope she will not ever. But if she did, as a teen (she is tween now) my reaction would be: "I know you are mad now, and you actually don't hate me. Tomorrow will be a better day and you will LOVE me".

Ohhhh my mom used to drive me crazy by saying, you go right on hating me and I will just keep loving enough for the both of us. After I would get over being angry enough to say that to her, I would feel like sh#t for saying it. Kids say that stuff, they don't mean it, don't let it hurt you too much.

My teenagers have not said that to me (yet anyways) but if they do, I think I will just say "That's nice, but just remember when you have a 14 yr old daughter and she says she hates you, you will be asking my advice on what to do"

get over it

Give her a crazy smile and two thumbs up. She will be so confused.

Well no matter how much you hate me I will always love you enough to protect and take care of you. And this is one of those times.... does that help? Also, how is Macro economics going? + 5

Response: "Then leave."

Well i am 18 now and don't say that type of thing no more. But when i was about 14 15 i would. I think the best thing to do is know that your daughter doesn't really hate you. So just giggle and walk away. Or just ignore it. If you ignore it and act kind of sad..then it will make her feel bad and maybe think twice about saying it again.

"well i guess im just going to have to deal with that" i think thats from Raising Helen

i love you, too dear.

Speak to the hand! +5

You know, I'm 17 right now and in all of my teenage maybe only once did I say I hate my mom and it was in response to something that had happened. I never made a habit of this. If a teen is saying this, then it is probably because they can not articulate their true feelings and use an all encompassing word such as "hate"

tell you hate them back

i was a horrible teenager but i never actually said this (that i can remember?) but however hard it is you need 2 remember that she dont mean it - if you take care of her and stay loving her and being there 4 her she will soon relaise that she loves you really she prob tells you this during a argument? or when yout disallowing something? smile and say ok dear of course you do...

Take all the stuff you bought her away. Do not speak to her until she apologizes. I did this to my daughter and she and I did not speak for a month. Teenagers must have structure and boundaries. They need to know you will stand your ground. That is not acceptable to disrespect you this way.

good 4 u

Haha well im 15 atm. And me and my mum fight about almost everything!!But I have giving up on saying "i hate you" to her face. But you need to know that your daughter doesn't hate you. Dont react by yelling because thats the reaction she wants. either continue the conversation in a calm matter. or turn and walk away. dont give her what she wants until she has said sorry or is nice to u again. Hope this helps :)

Well, too bad, because I love you. That's what my dad used to say to me anyway, when I told him that if I had a penis he could suck it.

Just say! well if that's the case, buy your own food do your own washing & ironing, buy your own clothes, shoes, Girls stuff etc, etc!! :-/ she'll soon come crawling! If you hate someone, you want nothing from them!! Right?? :-) good luck!!

Do like my grandma did. Grab a phone with a cord, and swing it like a mace at her face... that might be illegal now, I'm not sure

get a job

Fine. I hope it doesn't last very long because I love you.

dont worry im sure she doesnt actually mean it, it might be a mood swing when she says it go and have a quiet talk with her abd see why see has said it and see if you can correct it

Say "Thank you for sharing" and walk away without showing any emotion or anything. Act indifferent about it. She's just trying to egg you on -- don't let her control you.

I blow mine a kiss and tell her I love her and leave the room...wait until she is done fuming (sometimes days) and forget it happened. Pick your battles...she doesn't hate you she just wants a rise out of you.

When my daughter told me that I slapped her so damn hard, she never said it again. She gets everything and thats why I think her spoiled little butt thought I was not going to say anything. Or maybe because her little friends say it to their parents and their reactions are like "Tommy you know you hurt mommy's feelings" Fuck Tommy, I would kick his ass if he talked like to me.

"Yeah, well I hate it when I have to ground you. You don't talk to me that way. If I hear those words one more time, you'll know what it is like to hate me. Can you say no computer, no phone, no TV, no going out to see friends. Go ahead try me. Are you feeling lucky, well....are you? C'mon, make my day"

"Be that as it may, I'm still not paying for your therapist later in life."

That's OK, I love you. That's what I would say.

if you think you hate me now wait. I bless you with ten children of your own

When I said that sort of thing to my mom not only did I get slapped int he mouth but she took everything away from me. I got nothing but the cloths on my back... the sheets on my bed and and a lunch meat sandwhich for two days I think it was before I cracked. She took my curling iron, make up, cloths, and everything extra that was not a naccesity for living, including my bed room door. I hated every moment of that and got picked on at school for wearing the same cloths back to back. It was awful. Never said that to my mom again. Instead I learned how to express what I really felt.

So did your real mother but I the best you can get so deal with it!

No comeback. Just be quiet, listen, know you love each other, and look for what she really needs and how you can provide it to her.

We don't mean it! Just tell her "I know" with a sad look on your face & she will feel bad, so she won't say it again any time soon. :):)

she is probably just trying to hurt you and doesn't mean it so, just say," yeah I know I hate you too". sounds harsh I know, but by saying it back you take sting out of it when she says it , maybe it will lose it's meaning for her.

Tell her you hear her and you understand she has strong feelings, ask her to sit down with you and tell you what you did to deserve that, and really listen, don't just defend yourself. Chances are after she vents a bit, you'll both feel better. And chances are she actually meant something like "I am angered by your refusal to allow me to buy the pants I wanted."

I have never had neither of my teenage kids tell me that but if I ever hear my daughter say that to me, I would probably respond by letting her know how much her words hurt me. And then I would try to teach her how to express her anger effectively and ask her exactly what it is that she hates about me.

simple say "LOL"

Wife and i raised our daughter and two granddaughters, so i think this qualifies us to answer this question. I believe our granddaughters respected us more than our daughter. i love my daughter. its just that different people react in different ways. You must first realize that your daughter is 14 and going through puberty. you did this yourself. everything in her body is changing. if your daughter had a younger life filled with domestic violence, puberty will bring her feelings to the surface. Your daughter is trying to find herself in life and your "house rules" are restricting her. her only defense is "i hate you". this is actually not her talking. this will all change later. Give your daughter space and take everything she says with a grain of salt. taking everything seriously will only complicate the situation and give you ulcers. She will grow out of this. it will take time. Try to go along with the program as much as possible. i do say for you not to kiss her butt, but be flexible. She will have periods of rebellion. expect this and you should be able to handle her. I wish you luck. You are not alone in this situation. you have plenty of friends that are facing the same situation.

it is not my job to make sure you love me but it is my job to set limits, keep you safe, look out for your best interests, etc.

go on and do the next thing but keep it in mind. after you've both calmed and restored a sense of rationality and less emotional attachment, sit next to her and discuss the situation. explain that it hurts you when you hear her say that she hates you and that you need her to address the problem at hand rather than giving up by dispensing bolts of lightning like, "i hate you" that don't solve the actual problem. work with her on solving that problem. she'll learn by modeling how to show love, work out problems with others, she'll know not to try to hurt you.

My Mom would say, "But I Wuuuvoo" (would make me so mad)

mine only said maybe twice when she was a teen...but i just said, "thats sad, i love you, but i hate the way you act sometimes"....and walked off...it worked ,she knew she wasn't 'gettin to me '... but a neice said that to my mom ONCE when she was about 13 and she had to pick herself up off the floor! and we ALL agreed she got what she deserved....

IF MY 14 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER TOLD ME THAT TO MY FACE, I'D TGRAB HER AND PUT HER OVER MY KNEE AND GIVE HER A GOOD SPANKING, THEN LOCK HER IN HER ROOM FOR 4 HOURS.

LOL!!! I say that to my mom all the time (of corse, I dont actuactly mean it) She always says "You dont hate me!" or "I love you more!" I get really mad when she says those. I hope it helped :)

As much as I'm sure it hurts,....she's a teenager so don't reply by lecturing her with a "I know you don't mean that, take it back, etc." I would go with something more positive..."but I still love you" (maybe?)

FOR THE 2ND TIME, I'D TURN HER OVER MY KNEE AND REALLY GIVE HER A GOOD SPANKING.

You could always just sit there and ask for every single reason of why they hate you, or you could just say "No you don't" and just walk away.