My boyfriend is a little bit overprotective. I thought it was sweet at first, but now I want to strangle him! He follows me around 24/7 and even accused my best guy friend of flirting with me. My BF is driving me insane!
Help!! what should i do?
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Miss. Tandra
ANSWERS: 11
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You need to reassure him that he is the one you want, sometimes its hard for a jealous person to let go.
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You need to sit down and have a serious conversation with him. For whatever reason he doesn't trust you. It could be your behavior, or it could be past girlfriend's behaviors that are making him think you are cheating or doing things that make him uncomfortable. Or, another possibility is that he could be cheating too. Guys often tend to think that if they are thinking or are cheating, then they get suspicious and think you must be cheating too. If he goes as far as actually stalks you, maybe it's time to break up with him. This type of behavior is not healthy, and can lead to worse things in the future. You have to decide what you will put up with, and if this is not one of them, it's time to change that. Good luck to you.
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get rid of him now. it will probably get worse.
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It may have seemed like 'over-protective' at first but now you are seeing it for what it really is - possessiveness. He is not treating you like something precious becasue he wants you to be happy; he is treating you like a possession that he doesn't want to lose, not for your sake, but for his own ego. He wants to have power over you; he doesn't seem to care that it's not what you want and that it's stifling you. You see, it's not about you, it's all about him. What should you do? Explain it all to him and if he still won't back off, then let the relationship cool down considerably while you consider your options. Then you can either agree to a new try at a more equal relationship or you can say goodbye and wish each other well in your lives apart.
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its probably his past relationship that make him think that, give it a while after a conversation with him or something. Dont break up with him from. If you expect him to change for you remember rome wasnt built in a day
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I think that you are in a dangerous situation and should get out as soon as possible. If you stay you may find yourself becoming abused or worse. Get help from as many people as possible and don't be affraid to record his phone calls, document when he follows you, and call the police if you feel threatend. This is very serious and you shouldn't take it lightly. I hope he will just move on but it doesn't sound like he's the type to just let go.
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Tandra you have to trust me on this. This isn't a little bit over protective its jealously run amok. First of all he needs to be comfortable in well established friendships of the opposite sex. Secondly he shouldn't be following you 24/7. He needs to trust you enough to belive that you are being faithful to him when you arn't together. This could easily develop into an abusive relationship, this is not a place where you need to be hon, get out now.
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Dump him ASAP. That little bit of "over protection" can turn into a violent situation. Abusers almost always start with the protection part, almost sweet, then it's the nasty acusations, then the first hit comes and he's so sorry, then it becaomes an everyday thing. If I were you, I'd find someone that trusted me more, and someone that didn't drive me insane. I wish you luck.
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I hate to say it but it will probably get worse. Sounds like being overprotective has become possessive and controlling. Trouble.
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Please read some answers to "Is it possible to love someone too much?
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Been there done that! I too thought it was sweet and charming until he began choosing my clothes, friends, etc. From what I have found is - It's NOT that he's into YOU.. He's all about himself and how HE feels. Weather it be with you or the ex or the next It's a vicious circle and it's only going to get worse as time passes. DUMP HIM and change your number! What was cute at first usually turns out to be what destroys the relationship. Hope this helps
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