Guys, if you know that contact with an ex bother's you current girlfriend or wife why don't you stop contact?
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laaayla
ANSWERS: 4
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contact with ex girlfriends shouldn't occur if your in a new solid relationship. on the other hand if there are kids involved it is something that must occur. and for the kids sake the relationship must be good, friendly and often. thats hard for some women to accept but the kids come first.
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Just because my current s/o doesn't like them, doesn't mean I'm obligated to discard one of my friends. There are 2 people in each relationship, what makes you think your desires are automatically more important than your partners?
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If it BOTHERS my current partner, I will sever the relationship with the ex. My current partner may not be right, but it is more important to keep the current relationship than to maintain the old one in which I am probably just a footnote (she now has a new relationship or about to enter a new one). Afterall, I can also tell her I don't want her to keep in touch with her ex and I will expect her to respect my sentiment. However, an ex can be an ex for several reasons unrelated to incompatibility. Eg losing contact with an ex (there is reason for Facebook). My friends from school remain friends (ex or not). Parents, cultural, religious differences can prevent an ex from becoming a wife, but they may still be friends who can help you - we need contacts to do business in life. But the relationship should have now gone beyond physical desire and remain so.
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Women need security. Contact with an ex raises issues of doubt about your commitment to her. She is no longer secure in the reltionship in her mind. If you choose to be stubborn and continue contact over her protests, expect her to get fed up. unless she is so damaged that any morsel of kindness and attention is welcomed by her in which case you are as broken as she is. How would you feel if you got the phone bill and notices that there are lots of long calls between your g/f or wife to her old boyfriend while you're at work. Get a clue! She's an ex for a reason!
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