Mom paid her dues. Now pay yours.

I agree with her to a point....You should has respect for ur mom and also adults. But what mom needs to understand is that she cant tell u do as she says and not do as she do. In order for u to have some sort of respect for her she has to have respect for u too. Parenting is a team effort. In order to gain respect u have to give respect.

I think you should respect elders. But at the same time...your mom is setting a bad example.

I respect my parents because of the fact that they are my parents, but what you mom is doing is just stupid to me. Sorry, but she just seems to be setting a horrible example in my opinion. I have a friend that kinda had the same situation.

I think it's kind of a double standard. She shouldn't be portraying to you what she doesn't want you to do. +4

No she isn't right, but she is in charge. What she is doing is just teaching you to resent authority. Probably not the best thing to teach your kid. I hope, for your sake, that you see her mistake as her problem and don't hurt your own life trying to get even.

No I don't agree and she is not right because she should lead by example and I call her behaviour as having double standards.

Parents should set good examples for their kids, but sometimes you can learn just as much from their bad examples. If you don't like it when she says it, that tells you that you shouldn't say it. Another thought is that maybe when she says it she means "I don't know what else to say" and when you say it you mean something entirely different.

No I don't agree. If she doesn't want you saying it then she shouldn't say it herself. The "whatever" answer is one that I personally can not stand, either answer or simply say I have no answer to that, saying whatever is just rude. But, you have an opportunity to learn from her mistakes.

It's not right.

You shouldn't say it to your mother but she shouldn't use it on you either. Its disrespectful either way. Children learn by example, what kind of example is your mother showing you? Sometime when you are not fighting and both in a good mood, Try asking her in a nice way, Why she does it. She may just be giving you a taste of your own medicine. But maybe when she's not angry she will realize what she is doing is just as wrong.

1) This kind of things happen when parents reach their limits. It would be better for you to respect those limits then. Also, it would be one of the rare occurrences where you are supposed not to do the same thing (you might choose to do it later with your own children, though). 2) Parent have different styles of parenting. They usually choose them uncounsciously, due to their own education and experience. "One of the best known theories of parenting style was developed by Diana Baumrind. "Baumrind believes that parents should be neither punitive nor aloof." Rather, they should develop rules for their children and be affectionate with them. In her research she identified three main parenting styles in early child development: authoritative, authoritarian, and permissive. Maccoby and Martin expanded the styles to four: authoritative, authoritarian, indulgent and neglectful. "These four styles of parenting involve combinations of acceptance and responsiveness on the one hand and demand and control on the other." These four styles are described below. These parenting styles are meant to describe normal variations in parenting, not deviant parenting, such as might be observed in abusive homes. - Authoritative parenting: Authoritative parenting, also called balanced parenting, is characterized by a child-centered approach that holds high expectations of maturity, compliance to parental rules and directions, while allowing for an open dialogue about those rules and behaviors between the parent and child. "Authoritative parenting encourages children to be independent but still places limits and controls on their actions." "Extensive verbal give-and-take is allowed, and parents are warm and nurturant toward the child." Authoritative parents are not usually as controlling, allowing the child to explore more freely, thus having them make their own decisions based upon their own reasoning. Authoritative parents set limits, demand maturity, but when punishing a child, the parent will always explain his or her motive for their punishment. "Their punishments are measured and consistent in discipline, not harsh or arbitrary. Parents will set clear standards for their children, monitor limits that they set, and also allow children to develop autonomy. They also expect mature, independent, and age-appropriate behavior of children." They are attentive to their children’s needs and concerns, and will typically forgive instead of punishing if a child falls short. This is supposed to result in children having a higher self esteem and independence because of the democratic give-take nature of the Authoritative parenting style. "Children whose parents are authoritative are often cheerful, self-controlled, self-reliant, and achievement –oriented; they maintain friendly relations with peers, cooperate with adults, and cope well with stress." These children also do well in school and have a high academic competence. These children are usually liked by teachers and peers, especially in cultures where individual initiative is valued. This is the most recommended style of parenting by child-rearing experts - Authoritarian parenting: Authoritarian parenting, also called strict, is characterized by high expectations of conformity and compliance to parental rules and directions, that does not allow for open dialogue between parent and child. "Authoritarian parenting is a restrictive, punitive style in which parents exhort the child to follow their directions and to respect their work and effort." Authoritarian parents expect much of their child but do not explain the reasoning for the rules or boundaries, unlike the Authoritative parent. Authoritarian parents are unresponsive to children’s needs, and are most likely to spank a child as a form of punishment instead of grounding a child. They also expect children to comply with their demands no questions asked. The resulting children from this type of parenting are thought to lack social competence as the parent generally predicts what the child should do instead of allowing the child to choose by him or herself. The children also rarely take initiatives. Studies show that children tend to be socially withdrawn and look to others to decide what's right, thus lacking social independence. These children tend to have low self esteem, low self confidence and lack of social academic competence. "Children of authoritarian parents are often unhappy, fearful, and anxious about comparing themselves with others; they often tend to fail to initiate activity and have weak communication skills." These children lack spontaneity and lack curiosity. It is noteworthy to mention, that some children might also rebel by openly defying the parents by leaving home at a younger age, partaking in drugs, alcohol, and sexual behavior at a much younger age than some of their peers as well, dating and/or marrying a partner whom they know their parents would disapprove of, and often might be estranged from their parents during adulthood. Further, boys are often more negatively impacted by authoritarian parenting than are girls. (In some cases the girls might end up developing a stronger and more independent personality in adulthood as a result.) Many people who grew up with authoritarian parents have sometimes mentioned feeling a sense of relief whenever one (or both) of their parents died. Nonetheless, researchers have found that in some cultures and ethnic groups, aspects of authoritarian style may be assiciate with more positive child outcomes that Baumrind predicts. "Aspects of traditional Asian child-rearing practices are often continues by Asian American families. In some cases, these practices have been described as authoritarian."" Source and further information: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Parenting_styles