My great grandmother is in the hospital.its not looking well and she is 95 years old.Is it wrong that im not upset over this because i feel that she has lived a long life?I havent shed one tear and it just seems off that i wouldnt be really upset about it
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I'm like that too. If something happens that I totally didn't expect, I get very upset about it and cry endlessly but if the person has been in the hospital and you know that it's not looking good, you can prepare yourself more for their death so it's not like a total shock.
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Your at peace with what is happening. Yes it's sad but at the same time you know she's had long life and it has to come to an end sometime. Your doing the right thing by celebrating her life and not focusing so much on the death.
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No, I don't think so. We aren't supposed to live forever. She's a lucky woman to have lived 95 years and if they were full years then you should just be happy she gets to be put to rest after living a full life!
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well people react differently to things like this you could be in shock... i wouldnt b 2 hard on yourself she has lived a long life and you feel you can b strong about it! youll be ok. its a sad time but that dont mean every1 has 2 cry there eyes out! some people have to b th strong 1 2 look after people that r close! take care!
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i dont think theres anything wrong with not crying at the end of a great thing. She had a long life and it just might be her time to be done with it. Dont feel bad about it...you having the ability to understand these things isnt something to worry about.
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Time enough to mourn for her after she's gone. If she's aware, visit her and talk with her about times gone by, so that she may die content. My sorrow for your loss.
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I'm apt to agree with the other person. You may very well be in shock. Sometimes reality takes a long time to hit you. Even if it is her time, the lack of her being there once she passes on is probably going to effect you, but if it doesn't, don't beat yourself up over it.
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Not at all. In most deaths it is the unexpectedness or untimeliness of it that knocks most people off the rails. The death of an old person is neither, fond memories are the order of the day.
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There is no right way to feel in this situation - we all deal with things in our own different ways. I would be concerned if you weren't coping with it at all rather than you saying that you are fine. At this moment in time what is there to cry about - she hasn't passed yet and you may feel a sense of relief when it happens as it might release the emotions that you are maybe (subconsciously) keeping check. Not relief that she is gone - but relief that the emotions start to flow. If you can get in to the hospital to see her, you should go. It doesn't really matter whether she knows you are there or not - you can still say your goodbyes which for many of us would be a comfort later on. If she is awake and knows you are there try to be natural - she probably knows she doesn't have long; better to spend that time chatting as you always have done than people standing around her bed awkward and not speaking. Take care.
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no , it probably just hasnt hit you yet.
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Nope, its werid because i was the same way about my great grandmother. never really got to know the witch, but when it hit me i cried. When it hits you, you will cry.
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