Im currently 21 and dating a girl that almost 16. I know i can get in trouble and i was wondering if there are any other ways? i mean can she become independent when shes 16? if she moves out can we do what we want? or become a legal adult somehow?

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• I know nothing about the law, but I agree totally with this answer.

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  by Brian I on March 8th, 2007

• well heres the story...shes been homeschooled her entire life. she started going to college when she was 14 and both of us have been going for 2 years now. she plans to move out probably next year after she graduates. is there somewhere i can look about that emancipation thing? if she moves out with a friend (not me another girl) does that mean she can date me? and we can do what we want?

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  by bobbysmith on March 8th, 2007

• what state?

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  by --angel_fire-- on March 8th, 2007

• oregon, consent is 18 btw. cuz right now all we do is kiss and hug, which is nice, but yesterday her sisters ex bf was saying all this stuff its not even legal to date. i've learned that you can 'date' whoever you want and its the bad, sex stuff, that isn't ok. but next year she will move out with her friend and have a job. does that mean she will be independent? sorry for the repeat

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  by bobbysmith on March 8th, 2007

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• No, its still statutory rape. AND, by the way, in some states, a kiss denotes a sexual contact and can be construed as rape. I am looking up the emancipation info though, but I am telling you... bad idea...

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  by --angel_fire-- on March 8th, 2007

• so just moving out isn't enough? it still would cause trouble for me (don't get me wrong i'd rather give it up than go to jail) its not worth it, but i really like her and am trying my hardest to see if theres somehow we could have a free relationship where we wouldn't have to worry about anything? anything that rouses sexual desire is sexual contact. kiss can and can't. theres 2 kinds and im gonna stick with the nice quick kiss...no making out. thats what leads to trouble.

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  by bobbysmith on March 8th, 2007

• the law doesnt look at there being 2 kinds of kisses. a non family member kissing a child (and she is still legally a child) is sexual contact, and illegal.

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  by --angel_fire-- on March 8th, 2007

• hmmmm ya i see what you mean. thanks for helping me

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  by bobbysmith on March 8th, 2007

• No problem. Just protect yourself. If you love her, then be friends for 2 years until shes legal, see if its something you still want, but date other people too. Protect yourself.

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  by --angel_fire-- on March 8th, 2007

• thats a good idea, you were saying they can get emancipated? that means it would be legal though right? because shes planning on moving out in a year anyways? why not just go for that? (if we were still together)

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  by bobbysmith on March 8th, 2007

• In some states, it still wouldn't release the age restriction on sexual contact. That depends on the state, and I am not sure about Oregon. However, you could get married, which would be legal if she were emancipated. By the way, emancipation isnt just moving out. It is a long and usually painful legal process, which will strain her relationship with her parents. Again, it would be bad for her. You dont need to make that kind of a decision over a boy (no offense). It is something that is usually a good path for, say, an abusive situation. But over a boy? (again, no offense) it isnt worth the drawbacks. Plus... at 16 she just isnt experiencd enough to make such a call, thats not bad, thats what 16 year olds are. Inexperienced. Its a good thing. If you are an experienced 16 year old, its usually because life has been traumatic. She needs to be 16 for awhile.

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  by --angel_fire-- on March 8th, 2007

• kk thx

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  by bobbysmith on March 8th, 2007

• Very welcome

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  by --angel_fire-- on March 8th, 2007

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• we live in oregon and the consent is 18. don't get me wrong sex is the last thing from my mind (im mormon) and next year when she moves out she would have somewhere to live and a job...but is that enough in itself to actually start a 'real' relationship?

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  by bobbysmith on March 8th, 2007

• i think the more independence she has from legal issues or anything else that could REALLY potentially cause you guys to break up, the easier it will be to see if the relationship can work. it's hard to see if you have something real if you have to worry about breaking the law or parents not approving or whatever.

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  by Icebox April on March 9th, 2007

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