Pls help. I'm finding hard to live & work with my dad. He gets uptight pretty easy & every day ends with me crying. I want to quit badly but I want him 2 b proud of me. I'm trying. pls give me some tips on how 2 work faster. I'm his personal assistant.
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Honestly, working with a relative (especially parents) puts a major strain on the previous relationship. My dad, for instince, wanted to remodel a house then sell it for profit and had got his mother to help him out financially. They were fighting constantly until the stupid thing sold. They fought over every little detail and it lasted for atleats a year. So my advice to you is to make the decision to quit and try to find a new job. Or try to find a new job while still working with your dad and then when you finally find one then resign. I know you said you want him to be proud of you but he should be proud of you even if your decision is to quit. Just explain to him that working with him has changed the bond you had once had and that now instead of blowing up at each other you can maybe go back to getting along without tears.
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You need to find another job. Period. Life is to short to be feeling this way. I'm sure if you find something else, you will find that you are lot better than you give yourself credit for. Parents can be harder on their kids than they would on others. I know I couldn't work with my mom. I love her dearly, but we'd drive each other nuts!
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I think he would respect that honesty you are showing us. Be honest.. make the change and it may very well strengthen your relationship after you have moved on away from the unhappy situation. Best of luck
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How old is he and you? When he behaves mean way with you, just go inside your room and be calm, till your dad will get calm too. Just behave youeself or go out(like library or calm places to clear your mind and heart) till he calls you or talks nice way with you then talk to him. I heard that when peolpe get older, their behaviour will changes or work tensions will also makes them to behave like that way to. If you're teenager try to figure it out, what causes or reasons to behave like that way ok. take care and bless you.
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I agree with the others who say to find another job, but that might not be easy in this economy. In the meantime, get a copy of Cheaper By the Dozen and read it. I'm not talking about that piece of garbage movie that had nothing in common with the original story except the number of kids, I'm talking about the original book. The original book was the story of the pioneer of the field of time and motion study. Frank Galbreath took a hand cranked movie camera into early factories, surgical theaters and his own home to figure out exactly how people worked and how to remove motions in order to make their work both more efficient and less tiring. I read the book when I was a kid and have been applying the principles all my life. It stood me in good stead when an employer was trying to force me to quit. No matter what he did, he couldn't catch me leaving work undone. In fact, I was always out on time and often wasn't even there when he came to check on my barn. Everything was done, clean and orderly and I was gone on time every night.
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You definitely need to find something else. I am sure your dad will still be proud of you if you do something better and without him.
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