Sounds like you're better off without him. That wasn't a very supportive thing for him to say, even as a friend. And why would you want an unfaithful yutz for a friend anyway? Why did you do it? You had to. It had been boiling under the surface for too long, and you couldn't hold it in any more. What now? One day at a time, sweetie.

It's not what you did, it's what you didn't do. And he's right - what you didn't do is unhealthy. You didn't move on. You allowed something he did wrong to define you, and you stayed civil and friendly with a guy that cheated on you. So? What did you expect? Next time a guy cheats on you, maybe you'll have more self-respect and move-on.

Like people often do with a breakup, you are letting your pride get involved. You're thinking that your ex is making a statement about YOU by leaving and forming another relationship. It wasn't about you. It was about HIM. Once you accept that it's a lot easier to let go, move on, heal, regroup, start liking yourself again. It hurts, I know. Lots of things hurt, but that doesn't mean you can't have a great life full of love and laughter.

He was unfaithful to you and you lived a lie with him for a year. You released your feelings. He released his. You're clearly toxic for each other. Feel sad but both of you move on and find healthier relationships.

i can relate, ive done this before got in good with my ex then let him have it expressing built up resentment... first off its not healthy or a good idea if you create a freindship with an ex without forgiving him/her for the past completely... but i did that to. becasue i loved him so much and wanted to be in his life one way or another, however that is probably why you feel bad now, you wanted to express yourself and maybe for him to have responded differently than saying he was glad he wasnt with you... like maybe something like how he has been stupid for not being with you all this time instead of just being " friends"... i think he let his pride get in the way to, a lot of men would rather save face and lie in the process put you down after you have " told them off"... their ego cant take it... but the best thing to do, is get over feeling bad, and it is hard... but once you put the foot down, it needs to stay down, because that is the only mistake i made putting hte foot down and trying to make ammends later with the same guy... he must htink im crazy, but i just wanted understanding and for him to love me and want me... maybe you dont feel like that about your guy...but that is what i got from it... hope i helped...

If you have been civil for a year and only just now 'lost it' in a moment of weakness, he probably got a real shock. His comeback about being glad about not with you and you being unhealthy is just him being caught off guard and making you the bad guy. He was the unfaithful one so why should you be the one at fault here? Okay, so you let him have it - you got it off your chest and are unlikely to do it again, right? Don't beat yourself up - move on and resolve not to let the past be such a big part of your future. If not, he still had a hold over you and you don't want that, do you?

okay, so im not sure if the comment i just left posted or not but basically, you were his woman in waiting... back burner chick so to speak, you know, that is why he wante dto keep a close firendship with you.. to keep a close eye on you... but you are in a better position than i am... just wait it out, let the smoke clear, and stick to your guns... when he calls which i think he will eventually..still stick to your guns but just not so violent... and try to make him understand you more than anything... because men dont understand us.

He made you feel sad and took a cheap shot at you. He was at fault and lashed out at you when you called him on his past bad behavior. I will never understand the desire to remain "friends" with exes. It's so popular today, as if somehow if you cannot, it proves you are bitter or a bad person. I say, who needs a friend who lies and betrays you? It's a pretty low standard for friendship, in my book. Move on with your life and leave him in the past, is my opinion.

You've been holding this all in for the last year and you got the balls to tell him how you really feel. Probably subconsciously you wanted to move on and get past him and this is how you did it.