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by RC loves ice cream on June 29th, 2009
Possibly. It depends WHY you won't date people from other "races". You make it sound like a conscious decision you made, in which case I think it would make you somewhat racist, as opposed to simply not feeling attracted to people of some particular race, which is generally not something we can choose.
by ACCOUNT CLOSED on June 29th, 2009
It's fine to have a 'preference' in terms of your partners' race/ethnicity...but if you're saying that you won't even consider dating anyone of any other race, regardless of the kind of person they are, or even if they have the exact qualities that you would find attractive in someone of the same race - that does seem to be beyond mere preference.
by evil evil on October 5th, 2009
not dating someone cause you arnt attractd them is fine, as each race has differnt looks to them, but if you find someone attractive and choose to not date them only cause of their race, then thats racist.
by Wyn the Doll on June 29th, 2009
I think that makes you pretty closed off to other possibilities.
by Tallyman on June 30th, 2009
Doesnt sound racist. Just sounds like you have a preference.
I knew a guy who had a dark haired girl interested in him. When somebody told him he said, "I like blond chicks."
A moderately crude answer, but I dont think he was a "brunettist"
by Nice Guy In Bay Area on June 30th, 2009
I don't each spinach. You don't date people from other races. Some would say that you are correct and would quote the Bible where it says to be equally yoked. I am white and married a black woman. I have never been happier. If you want a mate who has certain attributes, then go for it. Beauty is only skin deep and you want that skin to be a certain color. That is your preference. I prefer women who are shapely and take care of themselves. I prefer women who dress and make themselves up. It is just my preference. Now, if you go around calling other people of other races names, then you are a racist. If you deny people of other races common courtesy, then you are a racist.
by Talimze on June 29th, 2009
No, that doesn't make you racist. Don't be surprised if people think you are, however.
by three cousins from the 313 on June 29th, 2009
In my opinion nope. a I know someone people who date outside the race who still have racist ways not the ultimate determing factor for who's racist and who's not
by Wide Awake @ has closing date woo hoo on June 29th, 2009
Seems rather ignorant to me.
by Anonymous on October 5th, 2009
No I don't think it does. Just because you have your preferences doesn't mean you're racist.
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by boogysplit on June 30th, 2009
some people just arent attracted to others outside of their race....but ill tell ya, Ive kinda always wanted to bang a black chick!
by LarryH54 on June 30th, 2009
I refused to date smokers.
I may have made a silly mistake.
Limiting your options doesn't necessarily make you a racist, but it can affect your happiness.
by Jadey - Vive la difference on June 30th, 2009
No.
It is your reasoning for not dating other races which could make you racist. At the most, you just may be closing yourself off from new experiences, and from finding the love of your life.
by The Mess on June 30th, 2009
No... and if people attack you for being a racist because of that, let it roll off. Seems like everyone gets called a racist now and again, and it hurts, and I believe being called a racist based on your race is a racist remark. However if you legitimately harbor hate for people because of that than you are a racist. I think most people don't date other races more of just a cultural difference. I think sometimes it's tough to be compatible with that. Some people get along fine though, I prefer certain races, but wouldn't object to someone I really like just because of their race.
by Silverlight on October 5th, 2009
Considering you're willing to admit it, and you are subconscious about it you are indeed not racist. However, you do deprive on looks rather than heart and personality, even though you mean not to.
by LustxOverxLove on October 5th, 2009
Yes. You won't give them any chance just because of their race.
by LisaJoy on September 11th, 2009
I wouldn't say necessarily 'racist'. However, you are really missing out on dating other races. Being close-minded sometimes or stereo-typing other races could be a huge loss for you. You never know who you will meet in life that can make you happy that's outside of your race. Just because you choose to date certain races does not mean that you will end up happy with them.
You should "spread your wings and fly"!!!
by novemberain on September 7th, 2009
yes.
if you don't date someone just because of their race i think you are racist..
by Spirit Dancer on September 3rd, 2009
No, I don't think it makes you racial. You're just exercising your right to your own personal choice in a partner.
by Pandoras out of her box on August 10th, 2009
nope, Im white and respect other races but I wouldnt be caught dead with a black woman as a gf, (bad experiences) they scare the begesus out of me
by MisterKnowItAll on August 10th, 2009
Yes. Clearly the people who are answering here have no concept of what racism is, so let me break it down real easy.
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Racism; noun; the prejudice that members of one race are intrinsically superior to members of other races
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In other words, if you view a race to be superior in whatever category for whatever reason, that means you are engaging in racism - you are racist. Any prejudice involving the superiority of a race is precisely what racism is. Period.
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I, myself, prefer Asian woman, and always have. It doesn't mean I don't date any woman of any race. I do. But I prefer Asian women as I find I am more attracted to the way they look. If you told me, "Hey, Joseph, you can bang any girl on this list: Black, Hispanic, Asian, or White" I would pick Asian. I would prejudge based in race and pick the Asian. That's racism. I don't see how this is even a debate.
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Racial preference = racial prejudgment = racism
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Period.
by laaayla on August 10th, 2009
Everyone has their personal preferences. Your entitled to your own preferences. It doesn't make you a racist just because you prefer you own race. It's just more comfortable to you. Like people who speak a different language from you. Even though they may be able to speak your language they may prefer to talk to their friends in their native tongue.
by oppositeofu on August 6th, 2009
Just because you are not attracted to a particular race it does not make you racist. Now if you think less of a race, that makes you racist.
by Prunesquallor on July 24th, 2009
No, it means you have a restrictive sexual preference. Nothing to do with racism.
by tempus on June 30th, 2009
No, dating/finding a potential partner is very personal and you have your free will to choose. For instance, if you won't date fat people, it doesn't mean you hate them.
As far as choosing a partner is concerned, people would have their own criteria.
Making friends is different. If you won't make friends with other races, then you are a racist. +4
by TheJoker on June 30th, 2009
As a statement it does indeed sound racist. However, there are various alternative motives that could lead you to say that. It could simply be that you've not come across anyone from another race that you've fancied. Basically it depends on your motives.
by andblack on June 30th, 2009
no it does not.
by buttman on June 29th, 2009
I cannot say it does or it doesn't, since you have not
offer an argument or the reason why you don't date
them. No one knows you better than yourself, so it is
you the only one who can actually answer your own
question. I have never dated outside my race, but not
because I have any racist issues--I'm very clear about
that. It's just that I never saw dating outside my
race as an issue of any particular relevance in my life. For the same reason It has never occurred to me
to say, or even to think, "I won't date outside my
race".
by Maul on June 29th, 2009
I can understand it in the sense that some people are only atttracted to redheads or something. But I found myself going through stages where I wasn't that into asian girls, and then all of sudden they were the only thing i was into. If depends if you have racist reasons for it, and never say in public that is why you won't date a person. Say you aren't attracted if you need to say anything.
by calicorey on June 29th, 2009
It depends why you have decided to not date people from other races. It is really your choice who you decide to date. Dont let anyone tell you otherwise.
by Yesenia on June 29th, 2009
Yes, yes it does.
by ethicalbro on June 29th, 2009
not really, but be advised true love is not determined by pigmentation.
by Arithon on October 5th, 2009
It depends on why you won't date them. If it is purely because they are from another race then I would say probably, but not racist in a hateful way.
If you don't want to date other races because you are not attracted to them on a physical or emotional level then you are just a normal person. :)
by Squirrel Face on October 5th, 2009
I guess it depends on why you don't date them. If you don't date them because you're just not attracted to other races then I think that's fine. Everyone has their own tatstes.
by Sharona Life is a Tale Told by an Idiot on October 5th, 2009
Did you ever hear that saying "honey she is the last whore"? well, honey you are the last racist.
by Death Panel litigant on October 5th, 2009
Not in the least.
by shwingman07 on October 5th, 2009
I would also say that it depends. If you don't date them because of stereotypes or because of the color of their skin in general than yes. Personally I don't date black women because for the most part, I'm just not attracted to them. If I found one that I was attracted to than I wouldn't see a problem with it though. It's all in your reasoning why!
by three cousins from the 313 on October 5th, 2009
No as long your reason for not liking other races is based in stereotypical way.
by Ray Del Sol on October 5th, 2009
Not at all, you should date who you want. People from other races may not want to date you either, do you think that makes them prejudiced?
by Robertd903 on October 5th, 2009
Depends. Is it because you think that YOUR race is superior to others? If so, then YES--you are racist. However, given the current "bouquet" of races that we have today, what makes you think that your race DOESN'T contain SOME mixture of (an)other race(s)? Food for thought...
by PaMPeR on October 5th, 2009
some ppl might b racist but others just may not be atrated by other races i date all kinds of different races i think mixed ppl are sexii lol
by Durden on October 5th, 2009
I don't know you personally, but you have maybe just don't find a person in another race who attract you.. People have the right to have 'sexual' preferences.. some people prefer people from other ethnic origin, other doesn't..
Only you, can say if you are racist..
by skel1977 on October 5th, 2009
I dont date fat or ugly girls does that make me sexist?
by whoami on September 11th, 2009
No!!!! it does not make you a racist, if you're not attracted to a different race.
by Alex P. Keaton on September 11th, 2009
Well, racist is a generalization, a negative predisposition toward other (certain) races. The fact that race alone would disqualify certain people from your potential dating pool is a negative predisposition towards other races. So, in that sense, by that definition, your actions imply racism.
But racism is a buzzword. And there's many degrees of racism, and types as well. Indeed, we are all guilty of some form or another to some degree, I am sure... or at least, we are all guilty of making generalizations. It is human nature to do so, or at least it is what we have been taught to do. The trick is to realize that you can improve yourself through constant awareness of how you perceive others.
by Buttercup on September 11th, 2009
I don't think so but I'm sure other people will..so just don't talk about it.
by Sarita on September 10th, 2009
I am a white female and I do not date anyone out of anything than the hispanic race. I get along with an have plenty of friends who are white, black, asian... you name it. And though I've done nothing but suffer the cultural differences among whites and hispanics, that's all I'll be with. I am not racist, Ijust have a preference (no matter how wrong it has led me) as to who I will be with... No you are not racist
by Anonymous on September 7th, 2009
Hell ya! YOu should say, I dont feel attracted by.... but to state " I WONT" , it means that you would never permit yourself.
by XenoMAN on September 7th, 2009
NO, it is biological for most people to be attracted to the same race. Would you call a tiger racist for not mating with a lion?
by Nancy on September 7th, 2009
I don't think it does. I think that's just your preference; just as some people from one race have a preference for a race different from their own.
Why did my BABY brother call Me A MUTT??!! Do you think he still LOVES me even though??!!
by Deepseas on October 17th, 2010
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What do you do when you are a 50 yr old woman and the love of your life doesn't love you or treat you the way he should? Im White he's Black
by BigSexyBootyMom on December 21st, 2009
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What do I do about my racist family cause I like a black guy?
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My boyfriend only talk five minutes on the phone and why he doesn't talk to me for a long time.
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You're reading I won't date people from other races. Does that make me a racist? Be honest please.
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good answer and right on point!
by olan black on July 2nd, 2009
I agree.
by shrinkess on July 23rd, 2009
I agree. I am attracted to dark skin; fair-skinned people look unhealthy and pale to me. I am also very attracted to tall men. I am also very attacted to a man who weighs more than me. So I don't usually date white men, unless they have a golden skin tone, and I don't usually date Hispanic men, because the majority of them are too short, and I don't usually date Asians because most of them have too slight of a build for my taste. That means I mostly date black men, but only because they fit the physical characteristics I am attracted to.
by Anonymous on July 29th, 2009
It's total nonsense to think that just because you prefer your own race that your a racist.
by laaayla on August 10th, 2009
It's not nonsense at all - racial preference - seeing one race as "better" or "worse" for whatever reason - is the definition of racism. It just is. I love Asian women; I have a racial preference in my preference of sexual partners. I'm racist. It doesn't mean I don't date women of any race; it simply means I prefer one race to another. That's called racism. It is what it is.
by MisterKnowItAll on August 10th, 2009
It's funny that people can be choosy about hair color, eye color, height, weight, proportion, economic status, education status. And we consider these "preference" choices. But...when it comes to skin color (not particularly race) people are called racists.
by laaayla on September 8th, 2009
Those are all prejudices. It's just that race gets its own "ism." Being anti-fat or anti-blonde or anti-poor is no less offensive.
by MisterKnowItAll on September 8th, 2009
The difference being that people rarely make a conscious choice not to date a person with (say) brown eyes. But some DO make a conscious choice not to date someone from a particular race.
by RC loves ice cream on September 8th, 2009
That's another really good point. There are egrees to all this - it's not this cut-and-dry concept that some people here seem to have. Saying "I prefer brown eyes to blue" is no more or less prejudicial than saying "I prefer this race to that," but make no mistake, both are prejudices and neither are exactly good things in terms of keeping your mind open. But, there's a big difference between saying "I prefer this to that" and "I only accept this, never that." The extremity of the prejudice is what makes it ultimately pejorative, I think. If someone refused to date anyone but blondes, or only girls with big tits, or only black men, or never guys under 8" long, or whatever - they'd all get lumped together in my Book O' Douchebags. It's one thing to like big dicks. It's another thing to only like big dicks. Same goes for race. Anyway, I'm beating a dead horse here - peace out.
by MisterKnowItAll on September 8th, 2009
I think people need to quit apologizing for what their preferences are. PERIOD! It's really no one's business what you like or why you like it. People are going to do what they want to do regardless of anyone else's opinion. If a guy likes big-breasted women that's what her going to go out with. I've never seen a guy apologize for his preference in that regard and never change his preference just to satisfy anyone else. And if someone told the same guy, "you know your missing out on some really fantastic women by limiting what you like, he'd probably tell you where to get off."
by laaayla on September 9th, 2009
And that's what would make him a douchebag.
by MisterKnowItAll on September 9th, 2009
Yeah, that's some guys for you. Maybe most?
by laaayla on September 10th, 2009
It's entirely possible.
by MisterKnowItAll on September 10th, 2009
I have to disagree with your statement, MisterKnowItAll:
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"Those are all prejudices. It's just that race gets its own "ism." Being anti-fat or anti-blonde or anti-poor is no less offensive."
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Racism is prejudice that targets a natural trait - one which people have absolutely no control over. Those who are overweight not due to genetics, but lifestyle choice, are more fair targets of rejection, since they are likely to also turn any children, and possible even their spouse, into inactive and unhealthy people. It's a question of well-being and survival, not simply aesthetics. The same can also apply to people who are poor not due to unpreventable layoffs or inability to work, but a simple lack of ambition.
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Of course, I'll admit that hardly anyone is anti-fat for these reasons; most people are so, for purely shallow reasons. But there is at least SOME realistic justifiability behind it; there is none for racism.
by ACCOUNT CLOSED on September 11th, 2009
Anti-Semantic, You really think that it's justifiable...in any way to be anti-fat for any reason? Your kidding right?
by laaayla on September 12th, 2009
You're going semantic, dawg. Big shocker. lol
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I see your point, but I would argue that many poor people don't choose to be poor. Blonde people don't choose to be blonde. Are we really arguing what hatred is more justifiable, based in people's conscious choice to be something we choose to hate? If that's the case, where do homosexuals fall in terms of hatred?
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Now, if you choose to get 35 body piercings and then whine about how people are prejudicial about it, then I can see your point about blame. But I think when we get caught up with blaming, bad things happen. Better to look at solving the problem. Every prejudice is based in varying degrees of ignorance, and I can understand the reasons for a lot of it.
by MisterKnowItAll on September 12th, 2009
It's not about semantics, it's about causality. Nobody causes himself to be black, or naturally blonde-haired, or homosexual; some people do cause themselves to be unhealthy through lifestyle choices. And this can be bad, because these people often influence their family members to be similarly unhealthy through poor choices. [But again, I'm specifically referring to those who are overweight NOT due to genetic factors]
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"I would argue that many poor people don't choose to be poor" - I agree. I didn't say all, or even many, poor people are poor by choice. But there are SOME poor people who are poor because they don't care to put in any more effort than is necessary (i.e. they are satisfied with welfare)
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Conscious choice is obviously important. It's a vital part of the legal system: Mens Rea, "Guilty Mind". People can make mistakes with bad results, and if it is done without malicious intent, it IS more easily forgivable. Wouldn't you forgive a worker who accidentally injured a co-worker, as opposed to a worker who willingly attacked his co-worker?
by ACCOUNT CLOSED on September 13th, 2009
we all have likes and dislikes, and a mature person would avoid the dislikes. I don't like skinny women with no butts, so I don't approach or try to date them. nothing wrong with that. we are all tuned in to like what we like and if you like red headed women with a wart on the left cheek, cool!
by olan black on September 14th, 2009
But why hide it? People are so self-deceiving when it comes to "the mating game".
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Nearly all people, when asked, will say things like "I think personality is more important than looks", and any number of similar claims. But, why is it then, that the most physically attractive [according to pervading norms] people tend to have the most people looking to be with them? Is there a direct correlation between physical attractiveness and good personalities? Of course not.
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People are just liars - simple and true. They ARE looking for that certain kind of face, that certain kind of body, that certain kind of primal attractiveness. I'm not saying that is necessarily a bad thing; it's the deception that's bad.
by ACCOUNT CLOSED on September 15th, 2009