If we can see how much others need to change their life, why can't we see how much we need to change our own life?
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Because as a human race (my own opinion), we tend to point out the flaws of others more than we see our own, and therefore we sometimes disregard what flaws we have, and in turn these "judgments" are what causes conflicts and wars.
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it's human nature to be oblivious to our own problems. we have more reasons to justify things that we do as opposed to the things other people do because we care about them much more.
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It's like not seeing the tree for the forest, it can be difficult to step back from yourself and have a good look. First, you need to be absolutely honest with yourself and NOT lie to you on the inside. When you can do that, then you can begin to see yourself and perhaps what changes you need to make. It is really hard not to lie to yourself or make excuses to and for yourself and to be hard on yourself without being unkind. I haven't got to second yet - I am still working on first.
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Lack of perspective. As intimately connected as one is to the back of his own head, it's easier to describe the back of another's head than it is to describe the back of his own.
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I think that most of the time we know, if even in some very small corner of our mind, when we need to change our life. But change can be painful and scary. There is a natural avoidance mechanism at play- the same one that keeps us from touching a hot stove. Focusing on the changes others need to make is another avoidance mechanism. As long as we do that, we don't have to pay attention to ourselves. We can ignore that little corner of our mind. It's human to do that. Those who successfully make changes just feel the fear and do it anyway.
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