ANSWERS: 8
  • No,I hate you now LOL j/k. In all fairness he had the option to tell you no and to stay with that girl. I'm not condoning it but it does take 2 to tango.
  • You are young & girlfriend/boyfriend relationships don't count (to me). Besides, I rarely judge anyone. I have enough flaws of my own.
  • I would have to hear the full story because people meet all the time at different points in their life, it doesn't mean they acted right away. I was cheated on so I don't condone cheating, and you never said that you hooked up with him- just that you met him, but I also don't begrudge someone of having a connection with another person and going with it. Love is just too complicated for everything to be black and white. BTW did you ever talk to him about his incessant reminders of the ring?
  • IF he had a girlfriend and still got with you ; that makes him a CHEAT !! I don't mean to be rude; BUT it does not make you look any better ..... There are NO excuses whatsoever .... He should have BROKEN UP with her BEFORE he got with YOU !! Shame on the BOTH of you !!
  • Well, I have a few feelings on that. First, your relationship isn't my business, so I wouldn't really judge you on that, per se. But I can't really think of anything that could change the situation of someone cheating on their s/o to put a positive spin on it. I could be wrong, but I don't think so. Unless he didn't tell you he had a girlfriend, but at that point, he would have had to lie... Anyway, I digress. Honestly, your relationship doesn't effect me, so it's really none of my business. :)
  • Had this been 4 years ago, I'd have judged you just on this alone.... SHAME ON YOU.... but now, with the way my wife and I hooked up, I don't see it that way. She had a loser boyfriend, who cheated on her, lied to her, controlled her, etc.... All her family and friends always told her he was no good for her, but the one person who actually helped her open her eyes about him was me. I didn't even know this guy, but describe to her exactly how he was, because I use to be that guy, (minus the cheating,) and I guess she wanted better things for herself (including me) so she dumped him, and got with me :-D
  • When it comes to cheating, there is no full story dear. You either did it or you didn't do it. But that doesn't mean you are all "bad", either. A lot of people have what you might call "gaps" in thier abilities to empathize with others, or maybe even in their morals. But here you are on AB, and you have a 99% approval rating. That tells me a lot, too! It says that you try hard to understand the points of views of others, that you deny yourself most all of the chances you have to be vindictive, and that you don't really want to hurt others.
  • No and I wouldn't judge before or after hearing the whole story it's just the way I am, if you guys are happy together it's great that you found each other, life works in strange ways and good outcomes are always nice so congrats to both of you.

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