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by Franklin on June 8th, 2009
I would mention that her daughter is not just a bunch of cells, she has human DNA, making her . . . a human being, albeit a tiny one. Therefore, she would be ordering the killing of her own human daughter. I would not, under any circumstances participate in the killing of another human being, no matter how young. I would instead offer to help her select baby girl names.
by Mikelbf2000 on June 7th, 2009
She wants an aborions because she wants boy instead of a girl? Thants sick. I am dead set against abortion and I will not help her in the least. If she is so self centered that she would kill an unborn child just because it wasnt the gender she wanted then I dont her to be a friend anyways. I would lose repect for anyone who did that. That is no reason to have an aborion even if I was pro choice.
by Alan on June 8th, 2009
If you weren't pro-choice, she wouldn't ask. If you're pro-choice, you would have to support her. It would be very hypocritical not to.
by Jade on June 7th, 2009
To begin with, I don't agree with abortion. If there are medical reasons, that's different. Anyone who would get an abortion because they are not happy with the sex of the child is, in my opinion, worthy of judgment. No, I would not help her and I don't really think I would want to be friends with someone who could throw away a life over something as trivial as that.
by Larry on June 7th, 2009
I see that there are almost no pro-choicers here, or they're only pro-choice on their terms. If you are truly pro-choice, you must take her without judging her reasons.
by Balance on June 7th, 2009
As long as it's not illegal, it's not my place to judge anybody for exercising their legal rights.
by therapist on June 8th, 2009
I can't support any person who continues to commit murder just because the baby is the wrong sex or they are using it for birth control or whatever. I believe abortion is wrong in any case and no I wouldn't support her
by Curtis on November 28th, 2009
Abortion based on gender preference is perfectly legal so how could it possibly be wrong?
by Alan on October 1st, 2009
If there's nothing wrong with abortion, what difference does it make why she wants it? If you're pro choice, you're pro choice.
by Jimmy66 on September 12th, 2009
Pro choice is pro choice. If you're pro choice, you have to go with her. Only a pro choice hypocrite would judge or refuse to support her.
by Bee on July 4th, 2009
Isn't the basis of the abortion rights argument that the fetus is not a person, a human being? They argue that a fetus just collection of cells. So, how could this be wrong? You can't wrong or discriminate against a collection of cells. So, what difference does it make what her reasons are?
I don't understand how one can be "pro-choice" but anti her choice if a fetus is not a human being, which is the basis of the abortion rights argument. Isn't this what the abortion fight was/is about - to be able to legally abort for whatever reasons she sees fit?
by zeds_dead_baby on June 7th, 2009
i'd judge her. having kids like they are materialistic things to show off to friends, i understand people getting an abortion if they are extremely young and just can't financially support the child, and it really would ruin their life, but for someone who already has kids, and i assume loves them, how could she then just end the life of another one of her own children, because it's not a boy.
humans are a very sick race.
by Bee on July 2nd, 2009
Her body, her choice.
by Universe Of Life on June 7th, 2009
I would try to help her understand >>> that the little soul within her, has the same right to live a wonderous life to enjoy ... just as she was gifted from her parents.
I would tell her ... I am not a murderer and I will not involve myself in such an act >>> sorry my friend, but this little girl has done nothing to harm me or my life, the later regret of guilt to commit this decision to terminate her life will be yours and yours alone.
Goodluck!
May Karma be kind to you ... Peace.
by bagicide stayed 10 months too long on June 8th, 2009
I don't think I have any friends who think like that, but I couldn't have anything to do with killing a child because it didn't have the right genitals.
by Hunter on October 1st, 2009
She wouldnt be my friend, I cant be friends with someone who thinks murder is okay when she doesnt like what she has been given.
by Anonymous on June 8th, 2009
Too bad her mother did not abort her. She sounds like a pathetic, loser, uneducated fanatic or freak. And no, I would not support her or go with her. By the way, I am an atheist too.
by Still Standing on June 7th, 2009
That's a stupid reason to get an abortion. I couldn't go with her... it would tear me up and I know I wouldn't forgive myself for taking part in that. And if she's my friend, she would know me better than to even ask for my help.
by Kenny on October 19th, 2009
Pro choicers say that it is just a bunch of cells and/or a parasite anyway. So, the mother's reasons shouldn't make any difference.
by Kensum1 on September 12th, 2009
I am very sorry about this answer.
IF YOU ARE KILLING YOUR KID BECAUSE OF THE SEX SOMETHING IS SEROUSILY WRONG WITH YOU.
Sorry just my thoughts. I know not everyone will agree
by harlekkin on June 7th, 2009
I would not support her.
You don't have to be nasty to her but clearly make her realize that you are not condoning her actions and that she'll have to be solely responsible and liable for what she is doing.
Just because you are someones close friend does not mean you need to be "cool" with everything they do. Quite the opposite, I think you'll help her see herself and actually teach her to judge herself.
Tell her how you feel and let her feel guilty because what she's doing is selfish.
What if her little boy (if she ever gets one) will not live up to her expectations? He's gay? He won't want to do the boy things she wanted him to do?
I find it very irresponsible of her to try and choose her baby - and clearly discriminate on the basis of gender.
by Princess Garnet on June 7th, 2009
wow that worng just becuase she wants a boy? I wouldn't go with her, no way.
by Anonymous on June 19th, 2009
No, probably not. A child is a child, it's not like returning a shirt you didn't like once you got it home. If she wants a boy so badly, she needs to adopt, not be using abortion as a form of birth control.
by Anonymous on October 18th, 2009
I don't particularly care for her reasons, but I will defend her right to an abortion for any reason at all.I have escorted many women, friends or not, to the clinic past the gauntlet of screaming whackos. I will continue doing so. I am prepared to use deadly force to protect her, if necessary. +5
by Trent on December 6th, 2009
I'd stand guard.
by Tracy on December 1st, 2009
It's none of my business what her reasons are. She's going to do it with or without me. I might need a favor from her and she'll remember that I helped her, plus it will be easier if she doesn't have a baby to take care of.
by Qmasta on October 1st, 2009
I'd tell her to save her money, then push her down the stairs
not to save her money but to tell her that shes ignorant...
by jazzlady1028 on September 15th, 2009
The help I would give would be to try and get her to an adoption clinic where she can plan to give the baby up!!!! That is a terrible reason for an abortion - not that there are that many great reasons. I would never "enable"/"facilitate" her getting an abortion, of a (probably) perfectly healthy baby that some couple unable to have children might like to have!!
by bye bye on September 15th, 2009
I wouldn't take her.
It was anticipated that I would be a boy myself but I turned out to be a girl. This question springs the possibility of my mother aborting me because of my sex.
I wouldn't exist today answering this question.
But then, I also wouldn't have a close friend who would be so selfish.
by ladyshakespeare on June 19th, 2009
not a chance in hell! Although Ive often heard of people considering abortion due to a female child (never heard of the opposite) ive never known anyone who actually DID IT! Is this her decision solely, or is she receiving pressure from the father?
by deferfergre on June 11th, 2009
I'm pro choice but that is just wrong ,,,,,, its people like her that make women with a real reason to have an abortion with a choice you can support due to bad situations look bad and heartless .
by Anonymous on June 8th, 2009
I think that she is your friend and you should support her. It probably was a very easy for her to come to you, keep that in mind as well. Your friend needs you.
by raindancer on June 8th, 2009
While I am pro-choice, I do not think I could be a party to that. I would simply say that I cannot go. If she asked for a reason, I would explain my feelings on the matter.
by merry1 in a Texican COAT on June 7th, 2009
I'd give her the facts: some men can produce only boys or only girls. As long as she stays with this girl-producing man, they are only going to get girls. Getting rid of this girl will not help them get the boy they want. Genetic counseling would be the key to getting the couple to understand they can not get there from here.
by Po etry on June 7th, 2009
It is totally f@cked up. Although, they do it in other countries in kind of that way. They have the child and then kill it because it is not a boy. Don't they know to have a boy you have to stand on your head during sex ( I had to bring some humor to a gruesome area d:)).
by J and B on October 1st, 2009
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by Lady Alathia of Vulcan on September 15th, 2009
If my friend asked me to drive her to an abortion appointment, I would do so, no question. There would be no REASON for me to know why she is making that decision. It is immaterial. A friend needs me, I am there. Period.
by celticmoonlight on September 12th, 2009
no, i would bitch-slap her and tell her to get a grip on reality.
by Prunesquallor on July 2nd, 2009
No, I wouldn't help her in any way. What a ridiculous reason to obtain an abortion! I would try to dissuade her in any way I could. But on reflection, I don't believe I would consider someone like that as a friend.
by Tenaciouscj on July 2nd, 2009
No way! I doubt I would be friends with such a dopey sort of person anyway. I wouldn't go with a friend for an abortion for such trivial reasons because it goes against my personal beliefs.
If she was so dead set against having a girl I would offer to adopt it or at least help in any other way I could but I couldn't live with myself if I went with her and would tell her in no uncertain terms how terrible I think it is.
by jeanie16 on June 14th, 2009
sadly, it is an option sometimes , in China, ; even sadder, it happens after the baby is born................so technically, not an abortion, but more, a murder shall we say.
by RosieGHM Jetpacker on June 8th, 2009
It is 100% between her and the father of the child..if it is her husband, her boyfriend, her lover, a one-night stand, whatever. A best friend doesn't belong as the third wheel in this situation. Neither judging nor "helping" is the role of a best friend....not in this situation. And if the girl is fair she will not put that burden on a friend..it is her burden, not her friend's burden. If the baby's father wants no part of it, then the girl's parents need to be involvd, or her priest, or rabbi or whomever.
by Grandma Roses - my avatar is my real dog on June 8th, 2009
'yet another girl???' Do you mean that she has done this before?
by Pixie - jeg er elsket on June 8th, 2009
Shes going to keep getting pregnant because the wrong gender??
What a bloody twat.
by Candygirl on June 7th, 2009
I would try ro talk her out of it there is adoption or maybe even a friend or grandparent would want the child I had one once it is the hardest thing to forgive yourself for and you do have regrets after you do it you feel like it was murder if she still wants one don't judge her but if she is softhearted she will be upset afterwards
by Shaunixie on June 7th, 2009
In my opinion abortions are for young mothers, people who cannot afford to raise the child, rape victims, children that are SEVERELY! disabled, and people who are not fit to be parents (Drug abusers, drinkers violent)etc.
The sex of the baby is an inhumane reason to want to get an abortion, you could always have another child after this one, its part way the fathers descision too.
Id only be there for her because shes my freind and i must respect her descision, not for the reason shes doing it, of course id talk to her about not doing it but at the end of the day whats judging and bitching going to do, she will just go on her own then you two wont be freinds anymore.
by Spud likes gravy with his. on June 7th, 2009
I would go with her if she was a very good friend, however i would inform her that this reason is selfish and a loss of a human life, not to mention an abuse of resources...... :(
But i would not try to force her to change her choice. Just give my opinion on it.
by Elias on June 7th, 2009
I do agree with abortion on grounds of health, mental or physical, as is legally required in the UK. But I cannot agree with gender selection through abortion. So I am afraid I am not sympathetic and the request itself will cast a shadow on my view of her.
by Anonymous on October 18th, 2009
I would NOT help her. That would be no different than murder. Albeit abortion is murder but...that is even worse than regular abortion.
by Merriment on September 15th, 2009
She doesn't "need" me to go with her if she is headstrong enough to abort a fetus because it doesn't match her idea of what her next child should be.
She sounds pretty determined so she can handle the details all by herself.
I would think less of her for aborting based on such a superficial reason.
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