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  • What man or woman is worth being with that openly test something like that in a relationship? Thats setting you up for failure and I wouldnt want to be with anyone that couldnt tell me the purpose of things in the first place. Your question states that you bf brought a guy back for you to sleep with. That is show that there is something that he wants you to experience or something that he wants to do to expand your sexual side. Then you ask if this is a test. That doesnt make any sense. He either brought the guy home for you or brought the guy home for a friend or whatever. So I dont know how anyone can answer tha question as it is currently stated. Could you rephrase it please?
  • If he brought someone over for the purpose of sleeping with you, maybe he is trying to justify having sex with other women. Figuring that if you sleep with this guy, he will be off the hook when you find out that he has been fooling around with other women. If this is a cheating test, it's like putting a cookie in a kid's mouth and telling him not to eat it. I think that you ought to make up your own mind as to whether or not this is something that you want to do. If my girlfriend ever brought home another woman for me to sleep with, I would seriously question the status of our relationship.
  • NO. if you love your boyfriend you shouldnt even consider it. I would think rather or not he brought this guy home that he is probably testing you in my opinion. I recently kinda had the same thing. I was making a JOKE about my best friend giving my boyfriend head so i didnt have to. well when he acually let her do it, it broke my heart and i never really ment for anything like that to happen. I think if you are attracted to this man and even consider cheating that you dont love your boyfriend enough to spend the rest of your lifes together
  • Well, since cheating is usually defined as having sexual contact with someone other than your partner without their knowledge /consent, then it wouldn't be cheating if you DID sleep with this new guy. Your boyfriend brought him home for you, so he consented to your sleeping with him. Now that the semantics are over, let me ask you a couple of questions. 1. Exactly how did this conversation go? 2. What was the second's guy's reaction to the situation? 3. Did you sleep with him? 4. Was everyone sober at the time? 5. As already mentioned in another answer, why would you want to be with someone who sets you up like this?
  • I'm not your boyfriend, but that seems a little twisted. If I loved a girl I would not be willing to share her with anyone. It actually sounds like you wouldn't mind sleeping with this other guy. If that is the case, maybe you shouldn't be dating in the first place.
  • Is this Jerry Springer?...how could you even ponder this. I don't know...people grew up differently than I did but if this is something you are considering than maybe you and your boyfriend need to find some help with deeper problems in your lives.
  • Generally guys are unlikely to purposefully encourage their girlfriend to cheat on them, unless that's specifically what they want them to do (to ease guilt about splitting up with them possibly) but that's not what this situation looks like to me. As someone else mentioned, if you were to have sex with this other guy with your boyfriend's knowledge and consent, it wouldn't really be cheating anyway. The chances are that he just gets off on the idea of watching you have sex with another guy, or maybe he's hoping it will improve your sex life in someway. This is fine, in itself, a lot of couples introduce a third party into their sex lives and enjoy it- fine, whatever turns you on. What IS out of order is the fact taht he didn't discuss it with you first - just expected you to go along with it, and I think perhaps you need to call him to task on this before he comes home with a girl on his arm and expects you to watch him have sex with her. Figure out how YOU feel about the situation, then sit him down and have a chat about it- either making it clear that no, you're not into that kind of thing thankyou, would he mind awfully not doing it again (If he does, I'd see it more as him doing the cheating- in the sense that he's disregarding your wishes) , if you are intrigued by the idea then say that yes, you might be willing to go for it at some point in the future, but you'd prefer him to have discussed it with you first, and would he please do so in future if he has some other idea about improving your sex life. Consensual three way sex is not cheating, and isn't wrong. Trying to force someone into something they don't want is totally wrong.
  • Having these sexual desires are nothing more than human, but what separates humans from animals, is our ability to reason and control our appetites. If you're still looking to explore the sexual realm, then you're certainly not ready for commitment. In my opinion, it's probably a phase. Most men get anxious or frightened in the time a serious commitment like marriage is proposed. It can be a stomach turning thought that you may never have to do the whole dating and mating process again in your life, after doing it for so long. For some perhaps a relief, in your case I'd assume the former. If you really need to release your sexual desires then you have to be honest with her before hand. Just remember two things; you could be throwing away the "one" for some momentary lust and it could take some time before you get in to a good relationship again. Whatever you decide, be honest. Infidelity is a serious issue, and can do long term damage to the other. Take it from someone who knows first hand.
  • Having these sexual desires are nothing more than human, but what separates humans from animals, is our ability to reason and control our appetites. If you're still looking to explore the sexual realm, then you're certainly not ready for commitment. In my opinion, it's probably a phase. Most men get anxious or frightened in the time a serious commitment like marriage is proposed. It can be a stomach turning thought that you may never have to do the whole dating and mating process again in your life, after doing it for so long. For some perhaps a relief, in your case I'd assume the former. If you really need to release your sexual desires then you have to be honest with her before hand. Just remember two things; you could be throwing away the "one" for some momentary lust and it could take some time before you get in to a good relationship again. Whatever you decide, be honest. Infidelity is a serious issue, and can do long term damage to the other. Take it from someone who knows first hand.
  • Having these sexual desires are nothing more than human, but what separates humans from animals, is our ability to reason and control our appetites. If you're still looking to explore the sexual realm, then you're certainly not ready for commitment. In my opinion, it's probably a phase. Most men get anxious or frightened in the time a serious commitment like marriage is proposed. It can be a stomach turning thought that you may never have to do the whole dating and mating process again in your life, after doing it for so long. For some perhaps a relief, in your case I'd assume the former. If you really need to release your sexual desires then you have to be honest with her before hand. Just remember two things; you could be throwing away the "one" for some momentary lust and it could take some time before you get in to a good relationship again. Whatever you decide, be honest. Infidelity is a serious issue, and can do long term damage to the other. Take it from someone who knows first hand.
  • Oops, not only did I post in the wrong question, I did it 3 times. My Apologies. To answer you though, If your boyfriend is using this to test you, then he obviously already has some major issues of trust with you begin with. The fact that you considered it makes me understand why. You need to find out what his intentions are. The only way I'd say go with it, is if it's something purely sexual for the both of you, and you can both agree on it. Otherwise you guys have some talking to do.
  • If he really cared about you he wouldn't want any other guy to expierence that intimacy with you!
  • I'm not sure what to say because I kind of have the same problem... My boyfriend lately has been saying that he wants to sleep with other women just for the sex and to have a relationship with me... Well before that he was saying that he wanted to bring home a guy and watch me sleep with him... But I wouldn't do that and I had made it clear to him that I wouldn't... I know this may not help at all but I kind of think that they just say that kind of thing so that they can go and sleep around... So you can't be upset with them and leave them for that reason... I'm not sure if that's it but that's what it seems to me...
  • This is called "cuckolding," and while it is uncommon, it is not that uncommon. Some cultures in places like Nepal, regularly practice "polyandry" with multiple husbands for one wife. In the U.S., there are some groups who practice cuckolding, and they claim it actually improves the relationship when a wife or girlfriend has sexual relations with other men. If you do not feel that it is right for you, then it simply is not right for you. But if you are curious and would like to try this sort of lifestyle, then do so, but do be careful and be sure you know that you are not going to be exposed to any sexually transmitted diseases.
  • if you want to- do it. if your boyfriend is testing you tell him if you wanted to cheat you would have left by now and that if he suspects you of cheating he is an ass
  • i dont know, maybe that is his thing. A lot of people do that, i dont know any but they do. Here's the question you need to ask yourself. Do you want to have sex with some other man? Also Do you want to be with someone who likes for you to sleep with other men? Good luck my dear
  • Hmm, I'd probably feel really uncomfortable in your situation. Is the guy hot that he's bringing home for you, at least? You need to decide for yourself how comfortable you feel sleeping with someone you have no feelings for. I think that i would feel more comfortable sleeping with a women while my boyfriend watched.
  • Wow! What a tough situation! I guess I wouldn't sleep with him... Why take the chance of loosing your man over it?! Sleep with him if you want to sleep with someone...
  • Are you joking what the hell is wrong with woman today? Do you not have pride or respect for yourself? Stop and ask yourself why you would consider sleeping with this other man because you want to or to keep your boyfriend happy? If the answer is to keep your boyfriend happy I m sorry but I think you need to grow a back bone. Woman today seems to depend on men to much and Concentrate on keeping them happy they forget about them self’s, but then again you could want to sleep with the guy. The way I see it either way you look at it there is something very wrong with this relationship. Have you ever thought that maybe your boyfriend wanted to have a threesome with you and this other guy?
  • It sounds to me like he cheated on you, so now he wants you to cheat on him so he won't feel as guilty or THINKS he won't feel as guilty if you do. I could be wrong.

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