Do you think it is selfish and ridiculous that a woman has an abortion because she says she can't bear to give her child up for adoption because that would be giving up her child?
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no!... because its her right to do what she see's fit to do with her own body
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I think it's ridiculous for anyone else to question her on it. That may be a lie told to get someone off her back about it. And even if it's the truth, it's not your life. Who are you to judge anyone else? Are you perfect?
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I think it's selfish to kill a baby period. The adoption excuse is just that an excuse. Sounds better than saying "I don't anyone to know I selfish" or "I don't want the baby to interrupt my life as I know it
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No, it's perfectly understandable. First of all, nobody should be shamed for having an abortion, and second of all, why don't you try being in her shoes and seeing how you feel.
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I think it is wrong to judge another on their choices in life.I figure once we are perfect in our own lives,and are free from making wrong decisions of our own we should not be pointing fingers at others.Obviously the ones that have never made these choices(abortion) do not know the terrible turmoil these people go through,and making them feel worse does little good for anyone.Once one makes choices for others based on their own beliefs,others loose their abilities it choose.
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In such a difficult decision, there are many factors -- and yes, selfishness is generally one of them. "Ridiculous" doesn't fit though. Unless you're actually in that woman's shoes, you're really not in a place to ridicule or judge. It's important to remember that selfishness is not evil, everybody needs to take care of themselves and look out for their needs, and in a situation like this that can be terribly difficult to do -- especially when many people will attempt to lay their guilt trips on you and you may lay one on yourself as well. But, as pregnancy progresses, additional weight has to be given to the fact that a distinct human is forming, and there comes a point at which one should give up thoughts about abortion because the fetus is too mature, too much like an independent being. So it's about balancing these factors: the needs of the woman, the rights of the baby, and the situation she's in. All absolutist answers are wrong, either for or against aborting in that situation.
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No, not at all. An abortion happens before - usually a long time before - there's a child involved anywhere.
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No, because I don't judge. What works for each individual is the right choice for them.
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Sometimes people say one thing and mean something very different. She might say exactly what you heard, but her thoughts might be about all of the commenting she'd be hearing from friends and family as her pregnancy progressed ... and then all the questions and sidelong glances that she'd have to endure afterwards about "how could she just give it up like that?" And if she's one of the many millions of women who do NOT believe that "abortion = murder", then having an abortion is not the horrible act that (it seems) you believe it to be. From the reading that I've done, I know that giving up a child after birth IS a terribly difficult thing for a woman to do, too. Being pregnant and (apparently) alone must be a difficult thing to deal with. I'm glad that I don't have to do it! I'm not going to judge a woman as "selfish and ridiculous" because I can't get inside her head to comprehend all of her thought processes. Women are complex and hard enough to understand even before they're pregnant.
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No.
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So, the logic is "Because I can't bear to have someone else raise my child, I will kill him/her instead." Is that easier to live with? Frankly, anybody who reasons that way would be a dangerous to a child anyway.
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