Yes. That doesn't make it right, though.

Yes, but it's also normal to fall in love with her, arrange a date with her, divorce your current wife, marrey this new gal, have a child, have another, and look forward to the next "crush".

Yes, it is normal. But just like if your crush was with a man, you should avoid that person out of respect to your spouse in order to reduce the occurance of these thoughts and to keep your nose clean... so to speak.

It probably has a lot to do with you seeing this person as someone of mystery. Once you're with someone for a long time there isn't much mystery...but there is the love and compatibility and lifelong devotion-which is better. I think it's very normal though.

yes...just because someone is married and in love doesn't mean feelings like this won't come up...however, how you handle this will determine your maturity and level of commitment to your marriage...just because you have a crush doesn't mean you have to act on it!

Yes. But remember, the person you have a crush on probably has some imperfect things about them. You know your wife well enough to not only see the good things about her. Just try to avoid this person.

Perfectly normal, and perfectly okay, too. Despite what some will tell you about "thoughts being the moral equivalent of actions", it's not true; they aren't. You're entitled to your thoughts, including fantasies and dreams, if you want to take it that far. It's when you actually do cross into "taking action on those thoughts" (with an eye toward making the thoughts reality) that you run the risk of moral error.

The expression goes "you can't stop a bird from landing on your head but you can stop it from building a nest". Trust me, this other woman probably has more issues and problems than your beloved wife.... focus on the committment you have with your wife and you should be able to avoid temptation to cheat. Open your Bible and read about the mess King David got into by looking at Bath-Sheba... it lead to adultery, murder, death...family problems... learn from the mistakes of others.. they were put down in the good book for a reason.

It can happen, just don't act on it.

You are not alone. all men do this at one time or another in their marriage. The key is not to cross the line. Once you do, you can never come back. You can look, but you cannot touch.

I'm a female who has the same problem as you. I'm happily married but I have a crush on another man.I also say I'll never act on it but I find myself thinking about him. The thing is, he developed a crush on me first and I guess I was flattered which led to my feeling the same way. Go figure. Btw, some of the answers from the other members helped me a little. A little friendly advice: I'd try to figure out if there's anything wrong in your marriage (even boredom from routine is a factor)and fix what's broken. That's what I'm trying to do ;)

I've felt this way a few times, but it really is just infatuation. There's something about the other woman that you are really attracted to, most likely something that you can't get with your wife. Whether it's witty conversation, the way she smells, or most likely some attractive part of her body, figure out what it is and why you are attracted to it. Does your wife have that quality or is she incapable of having that quality? Is it something you just can't live without, or is it just a toying fantasy? Then think about all of the qualities that your wife has that this woman doesn't. The most important qualities include some of the tough things that you and your spouse have been through together and survived, such as a financial crisis, birth of your children, losing a parent, etc. Your wife has probably been with you through some very trying times, which is what makes you and her a team. When I got married to my wife, a very wise man told me the relationship between love and need. Don't say, "I love you because I need you." Instead say, "I need you because I love you." If I am not painting an accurate picture of your marriage, and you truly believe that you could be happier with someone else, then maybe you've got other feelings and consequences to explore. Just remember, that we stand here today based on the decisions we made yesterday. Make sure that your actions today do not put you in a place that you don't want to be tomorrow.

I just happened to think of a song that fits this situation. its really a great song and its on Youtube. please switch over and give it a listen. "Where Were You When I Was Falling In Love"? LOBO A really great song.

Yes. Just remember it's a fantasy- She's got her own set of problems, issues, and dirty laundry- you just don't have to see it, so it seems very appealing. I think the saying goes "It doesn't matter where you get your appetite, as long as you eat at home." :)