Why do we sometimes think we aren't attractive even though others say it?
by 
Polly Math
ANSWERS: 8
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Low self esteem
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I don't think we see ourselves the same way others do. Also, I believe if you grew up with a lot of siblings and some were better looking than you, you might not feel you're attractive by the standards you set. I think the way you view yourself may also have something to do with the way you were viewed by others (sibling, parents, etc) as you were growing up. I've met some very unattractive people who thought they were very attractive and I personally couldn't understand how; LOL! I just thought they probably had pumped up self-esteem or they were maybe an only child and were told how beautiful they were by people who love them while they were growing up so the person chose to believe it!
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We tend to be our own worst critics. Because we are involved in every moment of our lives, we tend to make more of them. And since we see ourselves a lot (every day), we tend to notice our own flaws.
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Because we don't see it. What I think is atractive as a woman is not what I see in the mirror. So when I am told that I am, it is not something I agree with.
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Cuz we are idiots, and pick out the worst of ourselves even though most of the times...other people dont even noticed them. We look in the mirrors and see what we are LOOKING for...or try to FIND those things...while other people look at the parts they are attracted to. like...maybe you have big feet, and some flappy ears....but SO WHAT! You could have wonderful boobs, a nice set of abs...and gorgeous eyes. or maybe you could have little boobs, and a big nose!...SO WHAT! maybe they are focused on your lips, and your beautiful long hair. and on top of that...maybe they like those little boobs, and a perfect nose. We as people are our own worst enemies...and until we think of ourselves as beautiful we will never flourish and be what and who we want to fully be...and always be held behind by some..."STUPID THING" that will never change, and prolly wasnt even a real problem to begin with. IN FACT SOME THINGS can be distorted becuase we are so focused on them...we believe they really are HUGE OR TINY. Even though they are not.
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People are mean spirited and say evil shit to others to break down their cofidence, just so they can compensate for their own inadequacies, and we fall for it. It takes awy confidence. We were born smiling and these miserable fu--s want to take away the only thing we have that we don't have to pay for. That is what makes them happy. Make 'em miserable with success and happiness, throw in some love and good sex and maybe you'll kill 'em. PS surround yourself wit nice people and beauty.
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be honest we enjoy the complements and everyone likes to hesr your beautiful every once in awhile
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Is this a physical, intellectual, spiritual or other attraction? In the U.K. we have traditionally been brought up to be self-effacing and humble, although that has changed somewhat over recent years. In the U.S. children have long been encouraged to believe in themselves and been given (and accept) praise and encouragement, regardless of attainment. It seems that whilst many people 'hide their lights under bushels' there are also many dolts who think they're wonderful. Or maybe we are just plain ugly and others are just being 'kind'!!
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