I feel so sad as the man i love told me that i was overweight. Sad, but still not very motivated to lose weight. What's wrong with me and how can i get motivated to get thin?
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You've probably taken his comment negatively, which has led to depressed feeings. You should try and take it as constructive criticism, if thats the way he meant it. If he was only trying to tell you how he felt about your appearance, and your health then take it positively. If he said it as an insult, then it was completley unnecessary, and he is totally out of line. You should really try and take the comment in a good light, and seek to improve yourself.
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Oh, dear. Is it possible that he mentioned your weight because he has concerns for your health? Or do you think that it was more of a nasty remark, made to make you feel bad? You say you love him, but does he love you? Or, at the very least, respect you? If he's capable of making hurtful remarks about your personal appearance, I would question that, for starters. Secondly, no one can force, push, or pull you towards wanting to lose weight. It's something that will only work out - long term - if your heart, mind and soul is in it, 100%. For many people, it involves a fairly drastic lifestyle change that they must stick to for the rest of their lives. That is challenging, not to mention facing exercise, eating less, and eating less of "yummy" foods. Motivation has to - and can only - come from within. Do it for yourself, for your health, and because YOU want to. Not for anyone else, or any other reason.
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Firstly, I don't think this is properly categorized as "Astrology, Compatibility". Secondly, why does there have to be anything wrong with you? If you were unhappy, that might be motivation enough; being sad that your boyfriend made a callous remark is not the same as being unhappy with yourself. Whatever you look like, remember that you are perfect just the way you are, and that guys don't always or even often think before they make offhand remarks. He probably didn't mean to hurt your feelings, and if he did, he's not a nice person and doesn't deserve your love, respect, or the effort you put into making him happy.
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I'm not sure but whatever you do, don't lose weight just to keep a man. Lose weight because YOU want to do it. Because your health matters to you, not because of how it will make you look or how others will see you. If you are expecting motivation to come from outside, you will start and fail many times. Seek for this change to come from within yourself and set realitic goals like achieving a level of fitness rather than a number on the scale. Train to run a marathon for charity or to be fit enough to climb a local mountain and then see what your body does all on its own when presented with the challenge to come around from an idle state. Good luck.
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Losing weight is against our instictive imperative to survive. Its not easy to do - hell close to impossible. I suggest cardiovascualr activity (At hte gym) for 1 to 3 hours a day. Oh yah - dump him.
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Perhaps, when he finally is able to give you the marital sex that you are entitled to, then maybe you will find the motivation to exercise more or eat less.
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The question should be how can your guy get motivated to accept you the way you are?
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Remember, you only get one body. Its up to you to keep it as fit as you can.
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Its psychological. the brain tells the body what to do and when. you need to sit down and have a serious talk with yourself. seriously, i did this and lost 30 pounds. i went on a "no white food" diet and did only medium exercises. It worked for me. No "white food" means, no white bread, no potatoes, no starchy foods at all. you will get use to it. Your brain tells your body what to do. remember this.
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You do what's right for you and you do it when you're ready to. (And tell him to shut his stupid mouth - better to be overweight than to be an insensitive jerk who hurts people's feelings).
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That is a horrible thing to tell you unless it was said out of concern for your health because you are morbidly obese. I had a boyfriend like that and believe me I am no where near overweight, by doctor's standards I'm under!!! My advice, get a friend, join a gym, eat healthier (I have a kielbasa and roasted pepper recipe that is AWESOME and low cal), lose the weight IF AND ONLY IF you want to and then...Dump his sorry butt and find a man who will love you for who you are! Thats exactly what I did!
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Just out of curiosity is Mr. Perfect still as perfect as he was the day you met? Or is the hair a little thin and the gut sticking a little further out? How about that ear, nose, and back hair? Getting a little more? If that's the case he needs to cork it. How dare he think he has the right to critize you for getting older and your body doing what older bodies do. I'm sure you don't make comments like this to him about how his body's changed. The only time you should change any thing about yourself is if you want too. Other wise just be happy with who you are. Doing it for someone else does nothing, but make you misrable. It also won't happen. If he can't love you the way you are you need to find somebody who does.
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