What do you men by treated you badly?

You should try and look at the situation objectively (and I understand how very hard that can be). What were the problems that caused you to break up with him not once, but four times? Have any of those issues been addressed, or resolved? Are you both willing to look at your own faults and strengths, and work together as a team to overcome the things that have caused a rift between you in the past? Are you both willing to commit to the relationship 100%? Sometimes, as much as we love someone, we have to admit defeat. Relationships aren't as simple as two people meeting and falling in love. They take effort, a lot of compromise, a lot of give and take, and a hell of a lot of maturity. I'm not saying that either of you lack those things, but if you've given your all in the past and it has consistently not worked out, then perhaps the best thing to do would be to move on.

I would say no. Relationships that repeatedly fail tend not to suddenly work out. Also, to be honest it sounds like you do not really want to get back together, and if he has treated you badly in the past, this is probably sensible.

I would suggest that you make certain you establish healthy boundaries at the onset of another try at this relationship. If you want an altar-call, let him know that he'll need to work to keep you...and to HAVE you totally. He needs to see your worth if he is to stop taking you for granted. Part of that is your own self-respect. Ex: my SO and I had an on/off relationship for 6 years. He did he same: took advantage of me, went through spells when he'd only call when he wanted our "guaranteed great sex". After a month of hearing nothing, he made the text/IM/phonecall I expected. I told him that he'd better be careful or he was going to lose me forever. Then I stopped all contact with him. After 10 days, he called me...I quote him, "I need to let you know that I'm ready to step up to the plate...to take care of 'my woman' the way she deserves, because I can't do it without you and only you." I had tried the nice girl thing for years, being loving, giving, understanding...and displaying in that a sense of neediness) but was not setting boundaries for what I needed and did not want. Of course I didn't want to be his guaranteed lay! I love him more than anything...but there comes a time when, if you want a relationship to be healthy (or BECOME healthy) you have to take a risk to be yourself and let him know that you are valuable...and that he has to work for you. Repeat, it's tough to change that behavior when you love someone so much, but it is the ONLY way men come around. Good luck. Be willing to stand your ground and then back off for a while so he can re-evaluate what is important to him!

Sure try it again...IF...you want to be treated BAD AGAIN!! Don't you think you deserve more????

Has he ever assaulted you? If this is the case, then run the other direction. It will happen again and you know it. If words are all that have said in the past, then maybe, just maybe, you might give it one more time. He could be correct about being scared and has realized and matured more now, than in the past. From your question, i sense that you stils love him or you would not be asking this question. Give it one more time and tell him this is it.

I think you're going to run into this problem with a lot of guys... Most guys who take advantage of your generosity and forgiving nature can easily recognize it and will almost always capitalize on it. Stiffen up that backbone and stop taking crap from these guys and you'll do just fine with anyone you want to be with. Almost all guys are trainable. We learn early what we can and can't get away with, then we push those limits... When my wife (then, my girlfriend) finally put her foot down to my bullcrap, I straightened up and have walked the line ever since because I know now what she expects. It's easy math now... If I get too far out of line, she'll leave me. I respect her a lot more now. I treat her WAY better now. Lay down the law. You really have the power if you believe you have it. ****Note**** (and though I do still like to push her buttons every now and then, my charming smile gets me out of it occasionally =)

Past behavour patterns are the most accurate way to predict the future. It sounds to me like he's abusive? Unless you guys are willing to work very hard to address the problems in the past (both as individuals and together), I would not try again. Best wishes xxx

Okay, I dated the same guy for almost 3 years, and due to neither of us being happy, (and treating each other badly) we seperated for a year! When we started back talking I was honestly scared things were going to be the same, so I set up a "trail" time! (Only in my head of course, I didn't write it down and make him sign it) I thought to myself "I will give this a month, and see how I feel at the end of the month." I am happy to report, 4 months later and we are better now than we have ever been! It is always about where YOUR heart lies! It sounds like you both care alot, if u have gotten back together 4 times! I would say give it a try! :) Good luck

If u know his changed and u know it will work this time go for it if ur not sure about both leave it alone it will only lead to more heart ache

a simple answer....NO!!!! thats not love. Getting back with him is for convience. Wait it out. SOmeone will come along. Thats the law of the universe....no door shuts without another one opening. DOnt be scared to be alone.

No, if he has treated you badly in the past, he will treat you badly again

Past behavior is the best predictor of future behavior. And, you won't get different results with the same actions. This guy is not going to treat you any better than he did the first, second, or third time. If he was the right guy for you you wouldn't suffer so many breakups. And, until you realize you deserve better than this, you will continue stand in the way of your own happiness.

I was with you until the last sentence: "He's treated me badly in the past." You deserve better. Why would you keep going into a relationship where someone is treating you badly?

My motto is, if it didnt work the first time, didnt work the second time, then its not gonna work the 3rd time. You are on your 4th time!!! You need to move on. You'll feel better.