Only you can decide if it's worth waiting for him to be ready to come out.

At some point, we all reach a place where we are no longer comfortable with partners that are lying to the world. Congratulations - it looks like you have reached this point. After all, if they find it this easy to lie about their orientation, who knows what else they are lying about? You have to decide whether or not this relationship is meeting your needs any longer. We cannot decide this for you. All we can do is give you our best wishes for this tough decision.

http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?book_id=53&chapter=6&version=31&context=chapter

I just wish that he could atleast say im his "friend" and not be scared to associate with someone whos bi...

here are some things I want to say to him............. I feel like you have genuine feelings for me. I feel like im your security blanket not your bf. i deserve someone who is willing to put in as much as me in a relationship so it can grow and flourish... Not hide behind a masquerade of lies & storytelling What im mad about is that you CHOOSE to exclude me from aspects of your life because your ashamed of who you are and your relationship. It is important for u to have friends - it is a status symbol for u . u feels compelled to do what ur friends do in order to fit in. Ive made all the nessary changes for this relationship to work and I feel like you are to intimidated to do so. you feel asthough your hands are tied to make any changes..... well, if your hands are tied and you cant make the changes for this relationship to work then expect to see the obvious that you have been delaying for a while...which is, ignoring the problems will not make them go away ..................... your friends are not aware of who u really are. U rely way too much on them.... ultimately they will have to give their approval of who you are going to spend your life with, unless you speak up before its too late.... U seek approval from everyone, u r probley sitting and thinking ...."this is just another issue that I can put a bandaid on and fix it later" Just know in your head, you found true love. U found someone who loves u unconditionally and who will be there 4 u.......do u really want to continue pleasing everyone else.....or do u want to be free and happy and to be in a relationship that makes YOU happy..... Stop pleasing everyone else and start thinking of your own happyness. my concerns are being voiced because i love you and i love us..... you have to see.....that none of the things i ask for are materialistic nor are they unrealistic....they are things that will make US happier..... i feel like i want things that every other couple has.... i dont want to feel like we're not normal anymore...... like we deserve any less of a life then a straight cople would have..... shortchanged. If you loved me then you would make some sacfrafices. If someone truely loves u then NOTHING and I repeat NOTHING would keep you from them. U wouldnt be able to be apart from them....

I want to say these things to him......... I feel like you have genuine feelings for me. I feel like im your security blanket not your bf. i deserve someone who is willing to put in as much as me in a relationship so it can grow and flourish... Not hide behind a masquerade of lies & storytelling What im mad about is that you CHOOSE to exclude me from aspects of your life because your ashamed of who you are and your relationship. It is important for u to have friends - it is a status symbol for u . u feels compelled to do what ur friends do in order to fit in. Ive made all the nessary changes for this relationship to work and I feel like you are to intimidated to do so. you feel asthough your hands are tied to make any changes..... well, if your hands are tied and you cant make the changes for this relationship to work then expect to see the obvious that you have been delaying for a while...which is, ignoring the problems will not make them go away ..................... your friends are not aware of who u really are. U rely way too much on them.... ultimately they will have to give their approval of who you are going to spend your life with, unless you speak up before its too late.... U seek approval from everyone, u r probley sitting and thinking ...."this is just another issue that I can put a bandaid on and fix it later" Just know in your head, you found true love. U found someone who loves u unconditionally and who will be there 4 u.......do u really want to continue pleasing everyone else.....or do u want to be free and happy and to be in a relationship that makes YOU happy..... Stop pleasing everyone else and start thinking of your own happyness. my concerns are being voiced because i love you and i love us..... you have to see.....that none of the things i ask for are materialistic nor are they unrealistic....they are things that will make US happier..... i feel like i want things that every other couple has.... i dont want to feel like we're not normal anymore...... like we deserve any less of a life then a straight cople would have..... shortchanged. If you loved me then you would make some sacfrafices. If someone truely loves u then NOTHING and I repeat NOTHING would keep you from them. U wouldnt be able to be apart from them....

As Dr. Phil says, "How's that workin for ya?" Wake up, and get someone who can respect you and himself. If he is talking negatively and hurfully about you, this is huge betrayal. I consider it abusive.

So you're sneaking around with him behind the backs of his parents and friends? And in public he's disavowing you? You're being used, but of course you already know that. You may not have realized that it will be worse (for you) when he finally does admit to the world who he really is, because then you will be "blamed" for it. And he'll be looking even harder for a crutch to lean on then, and you'll be "it" again. Not only do I think you need to end this 'romantic' relationship with him -- because he's unworthy of your affection and dangerous for you -- I think you need to think about whether he's really even a friend or not.

We all have the right to grow at our own pace. Some folks do this quickly, and some do it never. He is going at his pace, and that is healthy! I feel that you could be more supportive of that. You didn't say if he was talking badly to his other friends about you; you just said that he denied hanging around you. There's a big difference there. But that would completely disappear once he is out of the closet, right? So, don't begrudge him that. The fact is that you chose to be in a relationship with a person who has been honest with you, so you, too, must shoulder some of the responsibility for your predicament. He isn't ready! Whether it's about being gay or something else, commited couples often must wait on each other about something every now and then. We don't all grow at the same pace. It is amazing what a little love and encouragement can do. He is more likely to come out if he feels safe, loved and secure.