Is it equally important for a woman to orgasm during sex as it is for a man...do men feel like they are lacking something if the women doesn't orgasm?

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• I know most women who orgasm easily like myself have been masturbating since childhood therefore know their bodies. The ones who don't orgasm probably grew up thinkng it was wrong to masturbate and think about sex. All women should be able to orgasm if they learn their bodies, tell men how they like it and don't listen to society saying that women are bad if they like sex. Men and women have sex problems and men and women enjoy sex. Women enjoy sex more. We get multiple orgasms, we have about 5 spots where we are stimulated and we can last longer than a man. So ladies get to know your body and enjoy it. Buy Playgirl, have fantasies and masturbate! It's not only for men!

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  by blondie44 on May 16th, 2008

• You go girl!!!!!! Masturbation is a factor I overlooked.

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  by Kizz miazz on May 16th, 2008

• blondie44, I don't think that is a fair assessment of why women can't orgasm during intercourse. I am very comfortable and confident about my body, I started masturbating very young and have never felt ashamed of it. I find it very easy to orgasm from masturbation, from a man touching me or through oral, but find it virtually impossible to orgasm through intercourse. That is just a biological reality for a lot of women - three quarters of them, statisitcally, who find orgasm during intercourse difficult.

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  by Irisibis on July 1st, 2009

• Clitoral stimulation during intercourse with a finger or vibrator. That's why I do it or they can do it, during intercourse. Everybody is different and being a great lover is learning what the person responds to, even things they didn't know about themselves.

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  by Kizz miazz on July 1st, 2009

• Anonymous, The more foreplay and porn watching you have the more aroused you become and the orgasm comes easy. Try it!

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  by blondie44 on July 1st, 2009

• I don't have sex anymore, I am disabled and can hardly walk due to spinal issues.

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  by Kizz miazz on July 1st, 2009

• I have. I like watching porn and my boyfriend is extremely generous with foreplay. I CAN orgasm during intercourse - in the CAT position. But it has to be the right time of the month, and it is EXTREMELY difficult and has only happened a very very few times with superhuman effort. Plus, the orgasms I have had that way are not an intense - more blink and you'll miss it. It just isn't worth it to me so it isn't a goal. I don't see it as a big deal and fortunately neither does my boyfriend.
  As to the clit stimulation during, well I've tried that, but to be honest I find it irritating during intercourse. It really doesn't get me there - it does nothing.
  Most of the friends I have spoken to find orgasm during intercourse extremely rare and hard work and don't focus on it.

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  by Irisibis on July 2nd, 2009

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• You sound dedicated.lol

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  by janacide on February 21st, 2007

• Got to start somewhere;)

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  by janacide on February 21st, 2007

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• I don't agree with you. Many women today do orgasm and enjoy sex. The reason they don't listen to society anymore telling them they are not suppose to masturbate or think of sex. All women like myself who know our bodies and how to masturbate should be able to orgasm all the time. It's not only for men. Sex is Pleasure for both sexes! We need to be aroused and orgasm too!

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  by blondie44 on December 1st, 2008

• I think you've misread what I wrote.
  
  Not all women orgasm. That as a matter of truth I think you'll agree. You say all women SHOULD be able to orgasm and that it's just a matter of learning how.
  
  I agree it's extremely pleasurable for both sexes but it's primarily a biological necessity for males in order to reproduce -- females can reproduce without orgasm. Many women can reach orgasm, but some,due to low testosterone levels, don't have the reaction -- true orgasm is involuntary. Many women also lack the ability to ejaculate though those with well-developed paraurethral glands, due to high testosterone levels, do ejaculate when they orgasm. In such women the orgasm is very much like male orgasm -- four or five sharp involuntary contractions followed by a period of some minutes or hours during which they can't repeat the process.

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  by alex_macdonald on December 2nd, 2008

• I'm sorry but women like men were made to orgasm and get wet. We need to for many reasons. There are just as many men who have sexual problems and many can't orgasm or become erect!

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  by blondie44 on December 2nd, 2008

• In a woman Testosterone has nothing to do with it. Our own hormones control our sex drive, Testosterone just gives you more aggression and manly features!

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  by blondie44 on December 2nd, 2008

• It isn't orgasm which causes women to produce lubrication and get wet in the vaginal area -- that is indeed important to the reproductive process. The wet which is specifically associated with orgasm is from the parurethral glands, sometimes referred to as the Skene's glands which open into the urethra.
  
  Testosterone does indeed have to do with orgasm. And all women produce testosterone both from the ovaries and from the adrenals. It's not a "men only" hormone and is essential to sex drive and orgasm. Higher levels of testosterone lead to higher sex drive and greater likelihood of orgasm -- in both males and females.

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  by alex_macdonald on December 2nd, 2008

• I know we have some testosterone but our other hormones play a big part in our sex drive also. When we are aroused we wet ourselves[important for lubrication]. You didn't understand what I meant. It's not true that higher levels of Testosterone in women lead to higher sex drive. That is from an old sexist book. And second of all Many females have higher sex drives than men due to their own hormones! And sex drive is an individual thing. You can't say men have a higher sex drive many don't! Testosterone has nothing to do with a females orgasms! And just as many females orgasm as men do!

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  by blondie44 on December 2nd, 2008

• I just found a recent study. Testosterone has nothing to do with our drive and orgasms. Sight, sound and touch have a lot to do with it as well as knowing how to masturbate.Also women react to small levels of testosterone and men don't. Many women have multiple orgasms very few men can! I am one of them!

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  by blondie44 on December 2nd, 2008

• You haven't identified your "recent study" but a brief look at any standard medical textbook will confirm what I have said.
  
  You are correct in that women respond to small amounts of testosterone and I'm glad that you now admit that women do have testosterone. Women actually produce very considerable amounts of testosterone, but
  1. Some of the actions of testosterone are opposed by estrogen
  2. In most women most of the testosterone is "bound" by SHBG and therefore ineffective
  3. Most women haven't been sensitised as much as males have during early fetal life to respond to testosterone, so the same amount of testosterone has less effect.
  
  You are absolutely correct that most women are multi-orgasmic by very few men are multi-orgasmic. Women with very high testosterone levels and who can ejaculate generally have the more intense male-type orgasms and can't repeat the orgasm for some time.

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  by alex_macdonald on December 3rd, 2008

• While I get your point that a male's orgasm is necessary to "propel the sperm-bearing seminal fluid", I believe that it's also the woman's involuntary rhythmic contractions which help as well. It only makes sense to me that we were created in such a way that the semen is "ejaculated" (ejaculate: to forcefully eject {semen} on achieving orgasm) by the man and the woman's vaginal walls then contract during her orgasm in such a way that the semen is pulled further into her body, yes? The human body is a marvel as far as I'm concerned...but the one thing that I question is your statement that orgasm is "primarily a male phenomenon". I've got a couple of "standard medical textbooks" and I didn't find that in any of them; it sounds to me more like something that you'd find in the standard misogynist's textbook! Of course, I could be mistaken and for that I apologize.

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  by PSO Kiki on July 5th, 2009

• I also want to say one more thing..lol..(sorry but this is more to the point I think) I believe that what a woman has been made to believe, either through her upbringing, religious beliefs or whatEVER, about sex, her own sexuality and the "appropriateness" of her responses TO all of that will have more of an effect on her ability to orgasm than ANY of the hormones her body produces. They say women hit their "sexual peak" in their mid-30's and I believe that it has more to do with the fact that by that age they've become more comfortable with their bodies and they've learned what turns them on, how to get and stay aroused and how to just have sex without worrying about how they look or what their lover's thinking etc...than it does any other chemical/biological factors. Once again, I can only judge from my own limited knowledge and my own personal experiences, but from what little casual research I've done on the subject, I've found this to be the case.

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  by PSO Kiki on July 5th, 2009

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• that is wrong on so many levels... For some guys, myself included, her orgasm is AT LEAST just as important as mine

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  by GreenFreak on April 22nd, 2008

• I am a woman and It's important to me to orgasm!

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  by blondie44 on December 1st, 2008

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