by AntigoneRising on February 18th, 2007

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If your spouse was molesting your child and your child told you, would you believe your child?

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  • by thinkin on February 18th, 2007

    thinkin

    yes, as a child that was molested I had no reason to make it up. I gained nothing if anything I lost so much. I was made out to be a liar and my uncle got away with it. he was able to go on with his life I still have issues. I would probably kill the sick son of a b**ch for touching my childran so it better not happen. I have had long talks with my kids and hope they feel ok to come to me at the first sign of "bad touch"

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  • by anonymous on February 18th, 2007

    anonymous

    In an instant.

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  • by nurse7263 on February 18th, 2007

    nurse7263

    Yes, if the child is young, they won't know about (inappropriate touching (for the most part), unless it happens to them.

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  • by Stupid Motheryiffer on October 24th, 2007

    Stupid Motheryiffer

    yes of course, even if they were a liar

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  • by Nom de guerre on February 18th, 2007

    Nom de guerre

    Yes. This should always be taken seriously, even if you have a child with a flair for the dramatic.

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  • by Subject Matter Expert on February 18th, 2007

    Subject Matter Expert

    yes and i would kill the spouse

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  • by Patti jo on April 3rd, 2007

    Patti jo

    Yes I would - No mistake and I would take all measures to deal with it --- My big sister told my stepmom and she didn't beleive it - So therapy for me forever

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  • by Alaskacatalog on February 18th, 2007

    Alaskacatalog

    YES.

    If they're old enough and rotten enough to lie, they'll pay for it, but chances are they're telling the truth.

    Especially about step-parents.

    Do not confront him. Call the cops before he wipes his harddrive clean.

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  • by Redhawk on February 18th, 2007

    Redhawk

    It would break my heart, but absolutely. The Child would be stashed in a safe place, I would be willing for the child to speak to professionals...and the spouse I would be hard pressed not to shoot deader than roadkill.

    When I was facilitator of the Partners of Survivors Group...back in San Diego I learned that an INSANE NUMBER of adult survivors HAD told their mothers of being insested by Dad, Brother, Granpa, Uncle...and the MOTHER had NOT believed them, or had denied that such could happen in THEIR family...sometimes it went on for YEARS. Often not until the child told ANOTHER adult, teachers mostly, did it stop.

    At least three women said that the MOTHER caught the father having sex with them and WALKED AWAY, SHUT THE BEDROOM DOOR...DID NOTHING.

    This is an issue that brings out any anger or violence I have in me...I can't stand it, I can't hardly believe it...If I SAW such an act...I think I'd flip and kill the bastard right there.

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  • by Anonymous on February 18th, 2007

    Anonymous

    Yes. Without any hesitation.

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  • by Anonymous on February 21st, 2007

    Anonymous

    Without a doubt. listen to your child's statements. if what he/she is saying, arouses a suspicion in your mind, then call the police.

    If other events are occuring in your house that also make you suspicious, like child pornography on the computer, pornography in general, then definetely call the police.

    If your child is telling the truth and you do nothing, you will destroy your childs future as an adult and as a married woman. this happens everyday.

    Do not hesitate, call the police now.

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  • by Not Here Anymore on August 27th, 2007

    Not Here Anymore

    YES; kids have no knowledge of this kind of thing and have no reason to lie about it. I wouldn't question them for a second; I would call the police immediately.

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  • by Gina on August 27th, 2007

    Gina

    I would never forgive myself If I didn't believe her. Kids just don't make stuff up like that. Thank God I'm married to a wonderful man.

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  • by Blatantly Beckii on July 2nd, 2007

    Blatantly Beckii

    Definatly. I'd belive my child because they have no reason to lie.

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  • by KOLBYISAROCKSTAR on June 18th, 2007

    KOLBYISAROCKSTAR

    100% !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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  • by Joebobaloshie on May 29th, 2007

    Joebobaloshie

    Any child should be taken seriously whenever any comment hinting at sexual abuse is mentioned. If you're unsure, and dont want to remove the child or press charges until certain, never, NEVER let the two alone together. Observe the two and their interaction when together, listen to types of conversations, and subtly see if any threatening looks are passed from abuser to victim. In any case, let the child know you are taking steps to get the abuser out of the house above all else, make them comfortable.

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  • by justme32 loves the weekends on February 22nd, 2007

    justme32 loves the weekends

    I would believe my child and leave immediately no questions asked.

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  • by Babycakes on February 21st, 2007

    Babycakes

    Nobody believed me but you can bet if I ever heard of a child being abused I would not call the police but take care of things myself.

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  • by evie32 on February 21st, 2007

    evie32

    I would believe my children without doubt and would remove them from the situation, I also believe I would be doing time for murder.

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  • by singwell-is off researching a lot on February 18th, 2007

    singwell-is off researching a lot

    I would remove the child first, find the truth second.

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  • by slothmister on July 2nd, 2007

    slothmister

    If I were in this situation then of course I would prefere my son to be lying than have it be true, but I would still call the police and demand an investigation! If it turned out my boy was lying then all that is happened is a wasted few hours of the polices time, if he was telling the truth then the police had better arrest the person in question before I got to him!

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  • by mdfn44 on July 2nd, 2007

    mdfn44

    That's something you cannot doubt from your child. A child who actually has the courage to say something about it at all, that right there says everything. Even if you're not sure. The safety of your child comes first.

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  • by trinityofwitches on July 2nd, 2007

    trinityofwitches

    Yes. My child would have no reason to lie to me about that. Kids always come first. A spouse can leave you anytime they want, your child is your child forever. It would be really hard to take that information, especially since I have love for that person. Whether it be my spouse, or a family member. Thankfully, I know my husband would never do such a terrible thing. I hope this is just a question asked out of curosity and not something you are going through.

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  • by Shelby on June 18th, 2007

    Shelby

    Without a doubt, and I would immediately be on the phone with the police.

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  • by Sunblynd 5.0 on June 18th, 2007

    Sunblynd 5.0

    Absolutely.

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  • by lpaw on June 18th, 2007

    lpaw

    i sure would, then i would shoot the spouse, right away.

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  • by confucious on April 7th, 2007

    confucious

    Need you ask? Duh even imaginative kids don't fancy their parents so why on earth would they lie about such embarassing hurt & abuse.

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  • by heathbar on March 28th, 2007

    heathbar

    in a heartbeat, i was molested as a child but my parents never knew until recently. I have told my children that if anyone ever touches them I want them to tell me immediately and no matter who it is I will believe them and protect them. Then i would kill the scumbag that did it.

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  • by Valparaiso on February 27th, 2007

    Valparaiso

    I would not accept it as an automatic fact but I would make it a serious concern to find out.

    I would certainly do everything I could to ensure the child's saftey during this and if that means going off to stay with my parents or one of my trusted cousins (My brother can't handle kids well right now) then that would probably be in order.

    I would investigate it further and be very very watchful of the spouse. I'd do everything I could to get to the bottom of it in a quick fashion.

    Children have lied about these things before but obviously they are not always lying. I don't want to convict someone right away but I'm not going to ignore the accusation either.

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  • by peaches on February 27th, 2007

    peaches

    I was molested also and carried that secret for twenty years when I finally told I was yelled at for not telling sooner and asked what the f*** was I bringing it up now for

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  • by Jade on February 25th, 2007

    Jade

    Yes I would...absolutely. And I would take my child and go, right then, right there. Then I would report him.

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  • by firecracr on February 24th, 2007

    firecracr

    Absolutely I would leave all behind and run! I would press charges and put kids in counseling immediately and I would not let them stop til they were able to have the tools to focus on there future life. Have the tools to handle it when the pain comes back up.

    Wish some of your support would have been in my home when I was a child...sadly no one took me and brothers out until it was way to late.

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  • by princessemmabelle on February 24th, 2007

    princessemmabelle

    Yes, and the only thing that would prevent me from taking some seriously, lethal, violent action against my spouse would be if he wasn't home at the time I found out.

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  • by NotYourAvgPsycho on February 18th, 2007

    NotYourAvgPsycho

    I would believe the child until it was proven otherwise. If it isn't proven otherwise, then I'd become a single parent in short order.

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  • by Anonymous on February 18th, 2007

    Anonymous

    Of course. You never know how sick people can be and gross. I've heard stories, though that usually the kid is the one who's lying, but still, I'll be careful, and move somewhere my child's safe.

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  • by lil_stoner_26 on November 12th, 2007

    lil_stoner_26

    of course. my child would always come first no matter what. And if the child was young there would be no way they could make something up like that

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  • by JTP on November 11th, 2007

    JTP

    Yes, then I would have to go to prison for pulling an OJ.

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  • by Vampyre Bat on October 24th, 2007

    Vampyre Bat

    As a parent you must believe the child. What if you didn't and it were true? Could you live with the consequences?

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  • by anonymous on September 14th, 2007

    anonymous

    Yes....you would be wrong to break the trust he or she has instilled in you by telling you....plus young children have no knowledge really of stuff like this....;)

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  • by badboy78 on June 1st, 2007

    badboy78

    thats a big question it depends on a) how old your child is b) what your childs like e.g. manipulative and c) what your spouse is like

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  • by slothmister on June 1st, 2007

    slothmister

    You have no choice but to believe it! Call the police asap, ofc your partner should be able to proove their inocense (and I would pray they were inocent) but for something as serious as this, you NEED to believe the child!

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  • by fivers on April 3rd, 2007

    fivers

    Yes I would and I would remove this person from anywhere near me or my child. If and a big IF that my child was telling fibs, this so called spouse would respect you enough for doing what you see fit to protect you child

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  • by Firebrand on April 2nd, 2007

    Firebrand

    Yes I would , even the mere chance that it was happening to a child is reason to believe and act apon that belief

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  • by Pensacoladiva on March 3rd, 2007

    Pensacoladiva

    YES!!! NO one, even a spouse, should be molesting a child. That's sick. The child had even courage to come and tell you. That's good! Now don't dissapoint them with the spouses punishment...and I do mean PUNISHMENT!!!

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  • by mrs.ANONYMOUS on February 25th, 2007

    mrs.ANONYMOUS

    Definatley, even if I wasn't convinced I wouldn't take the chance on my childs well being. I would have the matter investigated for sure.

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  • by Sketchy Mess Jeoffory on February 18th, 2007

    Sketchy Mess Jeoffory

    I would have to know my child and my spouse before I could honestly answer this question.

    I would believe it was POSSIBLE and I would immediately protect my child, remove them so they couldn't be pressured or coaxed, and investigate.

    I wouldn't immediately take the child's word at face value and dismember my spouse out of rage, though. Children have been known to level false accusations or be confused. It is a VERY serious crime and I would of course take it very seriously and might even lean towards believing my child over my spouse...but everything deserves an objective view.

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  • by Anonymous on February 6th, 2009

    Anonymous

    Probably. My mother didn't believe us, although I think she did know ,just wouldn't admit it. Oh well she's dead now and I don't really care:)

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  • by natalienocturnal on January 21st, 2009

    natalienocturnal

    yes i would beleave my chiled
    i would never take my spouse's sied

    i would also check there body for brusese and marks coz then there is a sight that he hase been molesing them

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  • by JuJubee is wearing a COAT of chocolate on January 19th, 2009

    JuJubee is wearing a COAT of chocolate

    kids don't lie about that kind of thing!

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  • by mommyof7 on October 13th, 2008

    mommyof7

    YES I WOULD !! THATS MY CHILD AND I WOULS NOT WANT HIM OR HER TO FELL THAT IT IS OK FOR WHAT IS HAPPENING OT BE GOING ON. O WOULD ALSO GO STRAIGHT TO THE POLICE AND PRESS CHARGES

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