why is he no good? just asking grl....

Without knowing more, it would really be hard for any of us to give you real concrete advice. However, I would say this. Don't go into a relationship expecting to change the other person. That is a recipe for disaster. Instead find someone who can accept you for who you are and whom you can accept for who he is.

Keep this question in mind...he is the type of man that you would want your future children to have as their main male role model? Do you want your sons to behave like him? Do you want your daughters to date or marry a man like him? If no is the answer, then you know what to do. Be smart! Think!!! You deserve to have a GREAT PARTNER.

You CAN'T change people. My logic? If you feel the need to change someone to suit you, you probably shouldn't be with that person to begin with.

All of his ex girlfriends are "psycho". I broke up with him cuz he kept telling me i was a liar which i am not and then he didnt even try to get back...like after 3 weeks just a mere phone call...thats y im scared of getting back with him...he just probably doesnt love me as much as i love him

:( I feel for you! He sounds pretty shite. It might be harder for you to see because ur blinded by how much you love him. But you cant change people, thats something they have to want to do themselves, he might grow out of it and into a decent guy. But you need to put yourself first and move on.

FORGET ABOUT HIM. but if it gets too hard, give him one more chance and if he messes that one up, then you REALLY have to move on.

First off, if someone is NOT willing to change on their own, you will NEVER change them... You can try to influence but if their mind is set, you are only doing yourself a disservice and you are the one that needs to change and fix your flaws of holding on... I think I could write one huge blog on breakup and relationships and probably answer 99% of the questions I'm seeing here... Breakups are painful, always are... But putting yourself in harm continuously by trying to fix something that doesn't wanna get fixed is like carving your own scars...

hmmm i agree with glen blaylock... most people do try to change there partner. I mean example my mum always told me she trie to change my father, and to a certain extent it sorta did. but now their divorced so i guess that didnt work out to well. besides when you change someone they cease being who they once were and even though i at one stage in my life may have been coyed into this i have enough self esteem to dump someone who would try to do this to me. im not saying that i dont have the ability to reflect upon myself and decide if what im doing is wrong or take other peoples opinions in mind. i just think that it is very selfish to try and do this. however if these problems you tried to change are very obvious ones ie ohysical violence ect well firstly good on you for trying to fix someone whose messed up in the head but secondly if u failed to do that then dump his sorry ass and move on... id find someone who doesnt know your boyfreind and ask them for an outside opinion and sit down and discuss the problem. also i spose you could try counseling for couples. could you be more specific on the actual problems. are they drug related ect.... oh btw if hes taking drugs id try convince him to quit

A person in a relationship is not a house that comes "as is" but can be fixed up. They are the product of many years of their life. You can sometimes buff off sharp edges, but you can't change them. Anyone that is spending time messaging other girls while he is with you, is not truly interested in you. Let him go. Your friends are right.

Your biggest mistake would be to turn against your initial decision, that gut feeling, which made you react. My dear, if everyone else says he's no good for you and you showed him the road once, he's trouble. You're just being sentimental. Time to find out what you've been missing. And time is what you need.

ok girl this is what you need to do GET OVER HIM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!girl if you cant deal with him then find another guy.do that and see if that helps.ok

I am in the same situation as you. I cried for the past weeks, now im over it(not him but the situation im in) I don't think about the past. I think you should think about what you want from him, not what you dont have or missing. It really helps me a lot. You have to leave the past behind and live in your present. maybe one day he'll be part of your future. believe in yourself don't let him crushed you.