Help!Im in love with my married friend.

Sorry, that's not love. That's infatuation. Love would not want to put the person through the devastating pain of a messy divorce. Yes, you may sense a connection, and yes, you may be very attracted to the person, and those feelings are normal, but that's not love. Love is not something that happens to you. Love is a decision. And you can decide to walk away from this to keep it from ruining both of you.

Be careful cause your playing with fire.

You play with fire, you'll get burned. Taboo

Oh, well! Shit does happen

Yes, this is unhealthy, if you truly love him, you would never want him to do anything to demean himself so just ease out.

And your point is what?

Are you saying you have no honor or a pathetically weak will? Are you saying you're thinking of destroying his marriage? Are you saying you're ready to join the ever growing ranks of people who destroy the lives of spouses and children by getting involved with someone who is married? Are you saying you think so little of your "friend" that you would violate the tenets of friendship AND break the bonds he SWORE to his wife when he married her?

What is it you're wanting?

If you want my advice on how to do the above things, then I won't help you there.

If you want my advice on how NOT to do the above things: WALK AWAY.

If what I wrote doesn't put the consequenses in perspective for you, then let me put it to you this way:

NO AMOUNT OF DISHONOR will buy you the kind of love you seek.

Cheat with him, and the fact that you cheated with him will ALWAYS be in the back of his mind...making him think "I wonder if she will cheat again?"

Cheat with him, and the fact that he cheated on his wife will ALWAYS be in the back of YOUR mind...making YOU think "I wonder if he'll cheat on me, too?"

Destroy his family and if he has children, you destroy the safe, secure family they need.

Destroy his family, and you will have YEARS of heartache afterwards, because the ex doesn't go away if he's got kids. That's two or more decades you will have to face her and his kids for what you've done.

Does this put things into perspective enough for you?

If you want some serious help just tell the wife. She will help you get a clearer picture :)

Does your married friend know? Are you already having an affair?

Do NOT start any relationship with a married person while they are still happily married and living with their spouse/family. If they are with the wrong person it is up to them to realise it and do something about it BEFORE they start anything new. In the meantime, back off and leave it alone.

Three is already a crowd, what can I do?

Maybe you should stop hanging around with this married friend of yours.

First you have not said nor does your profile indicate if you are male or female and if your friend is male or female or if you are married or single. I need more information before I can give you a proper non-emotional answer that will be quite different to most I am sure.

Stay away from your married friend then. Do not try and break up the marriage.

Thats not a good situation to be in. Have you fronted your frineds and tell them for problem?

Are you really? People always want what they cannot have. It's always so tempting.

The flaw is in you. Back off and away.....find someone to play with to take your mind off them.

In "mind". . .fine! In "body". . .no touchy!

Arg! Change your mind and contain yourself. If it's meant to be, it will be without actions. That person has prior commitments to be dealt with first.

Intimate relationship with married person = Pain/hurt

Usually someone gets hurt in this type of relationship, just keep it as a friendship.

leave your married friend be and find a hubby of your own. it doesn't do to muck up your friend's life... if you're really friends just respect your friend's decisions.

Hands off

Hi. I understand because I am in the same situation. I have not told my friend how I feel about him and we are not having an affair. I am just patienty waiting. His marriage is not a happy one and it probably will not last but I will not influence that. I just refuse to be that kind of woman. There are children involved and I love the kids and do not want to traumatize them-I went through that myself as a kid. So basically my advice is just let things run their course and be there for him but do not be the cause of a divorce. I really know my friend loves me too and I believe someday we will be together. It might not be until we are old (LOL)but I believe it will happen someday and I have a feeling that it might be the same for you. Just hang in there but take the high road. Please don't be that horrible, selfish, home wrecker type of woman. just because we are in love does not give us the right to hurt all of the other people involved. Good luck to you.

Stop, move out of town, change your job, anything to stop this relationship. Stop before you both ruin other people's lives including your own. It's a terrible foundation to build a good loving relationship on. Run as fast as possible away from it and learn from your mistakes. It's nearly always a big mistake to form friendships with the opposite sex if one of you is in a committed relationship. It's asking for trouble.

If it's real love - You'll love him enough to not interfere with his marriage.

You can't help who you love.
You can help what you do about it.