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The best I can say is that you're free to define your own reality however you choose based upon your own experiences. However, I think its a logical fallacy to assume that because the family you were born into hurt and restricted you...that EVERYONE's birth family hurts and restricts them. Just because your apple was green doesn't mean all apples are green.
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Nah, I sure don't. All I have left of my family is my sister Angel. (And she is a true Angel :o))I use to call another family my "family" a while back (my late husband's family). Then I realized they were money sucking users that only kept me around to see my kids and to blame me for my late husband's death and I eventually walked away from them. I have never felt better about doing anything in my life. To me, there is nothing like my REAL family although I only have one family member left. She would never hurt me like they did.
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I'm fortunate not to have to draw a distinction because the family I was born into supports and loves me. But I am all for people surrounding themselves with those who do the same, whether they're blood relations or not.
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A very strict line. Because I am very faithful, loyal and giving I can not support when my own kin uses me. The rest of my family say I'm too harsh, but the way I see it is that you are either with me, or against me. Everyone tells me "this is how people are" , "you can't change people" . I have come to realize that some people think it's ok to use, talk shit or even turn their back on you in time of need (after you have helped them). SO since I HATE backstabbers and users, all I can say is SEE YA !!
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Yes. the older you get, the more this becomes reality....
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There may be more to this situation that you are saying. Are you feeling hurt because of the restrictions? Sometimes a family will impose restrictions out of love and care, but because this contradicts with the child's plans, the child feels hurt instead. If another family allows certain things that they shuold be restricting, then just the opposite is true - they probably don't loveyou enough to be concerned that you are raised properly following certain moral and ethical standards. Unfortunately, most children don't realize this until they havealready put their parents through some hurt, Then when they become parents themselves, all they went through growing up suddenly makes sense. Of course,without knowing more about the situation, I may be wrong about parts of this. There are some families that should be dissolved and the child needs to find a home with diferent parents to raise them. I don't know if this is your case or not, but if it is, I wish you all the love and happiness in the world.
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This isn't true for everyone, but for some people it certainly is. I am in this situation, so I can relate to what you're saying. I think of my biological family as people that I'm obligated to by birth, but I love my family of choice because they are supportive and don't verbally abuse me.
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There's a third kind - the kind you're born into who support and love you. I've been that fortunate. Many haven't.
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