You may be good looking and easy, witch would explain the over jealousness and clingy. To put it bluntly (witch I never do) you kind of come off as a tramp in the way you asked this. So your answer to this is Stop being too easy, cover up more and stop parading yourself around like your on the menu.

you could try increasing your dosage of ritalin.

Stop looking!!! After you stop looking or even give up, someone will come into your life.

That's your problem. Stop flirting and converse with those guys normally w/o flirting. Most guys don't know the difference between an innocent flirt, and a I want you flirt. . So, stop flirting. Some guys just don't have a clue. And they shouldn't be allowed to procreate. We have enough dumbazzes strutting around.

It actually sounds like the problem is you, not the guys.

You may flirt too much and come across as easy. Calm it down with the flirting. Most guys don't know the difference between an 'innocent flirt' and an 'i want you in my bed' flirt. The problem seems to be with you and not the guys. You sound like a party girl who isn't ready to be in a relationship with a decent guy. I mean if i saw my girlfriend flirting with someone else all the time and not paying much attention to me at all i'd be pretty unhappy.

No one will ever match you perfectly. You want someone "as chill as [yourself]" and still "interesting", and the person to fill that bill hasn't been born yet. You have to find the balance between "interesting enough, but not totally wrapped up in other things", "chill enough, but still sort of interested in me", "glad to be with me, but still happy to be alone once in awhile", and whatever other continuum of beingness you want to imagine. No one will ever be in the sweet spot on all of those curves all of the time. Part of your maturing process is to find which of those curves is important, which of the behaviors is tolerable, and which is not. That is "not tolerable" and / or "not important". You'll probably find as you mature (and not just "get old") that "boring" is an overly harsh assessment of a person. It usually implies traits such as "steady", "dependable", "reliable", "thorough", "patient" and "honest" among others (also "employed"). You could do a lot worse. Likewise "clingy" can mean "overly dependent", which I would agree is not a good thing, or "totally faithful", which is another thing entirely. Be honest in your own estimation of "what do you want" from a guy, and then look for -- and cultivate -- those values. A lot of times the attributes that you encourage by flirting are NOT the ones you want from a guy that you want to have a relationship with. There's a lot of truth to the "stop looking so hard" line -- sometimes if you tone down your own extroversion, you'll make it easier for the right guy to find you.