How long should you date before you think it is time for him to propose?I mean the average? We are now in the 3 plus yrs.? am I wrong to give the S*$t or get off the pot speach?
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You changed your question. It is up to you how long you're willing to wait for marriage. I personally feel that three years of dating is a reasonable amount of time. Besides stating the obvious which is that you can propose to him, you're well within your rights to let him in on your timetable. Just be prepared to walk if he's not on the same one. Time's a wastin and none of us are getting any younger;)
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MAYBE NEVER!!!!!!!!!!! wowweee!!!!!!,, If you two are happy, whats the big rush?? Can't you love him for who he is? Can't you just FLOW into marrage? is there some friggen dead line? or did you need that ROCK on your finger?
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No specific rule for it. It depends on the quality of the relationship, the age and maturity of the daters, and finances play a pivotal part as well. And of course the most important factor is are you really in love and do you really know what the responsibilities that that love entails?
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STOP PUSHING THE GUY! WHATS WRONG WITH WHAT YOU HAVE?
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Did you discuss this with him. You might want to do this. Ask Him.
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Ok I'm by no means an expert or even slightly knowledgable in this area, but it would be my opinion that by 1 to 2 years, you should know the other well enough to know whether or not you wish to be together forever. Just my opinion. Good Luck
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If you are spending so much time together that it seems right then that is the time. But 3 plus years is long enough to at least have discussed it by now. If you love each other it should be right. If you feel you are being strung along - say so. But there may be consequences that you have to deal with. Hope that helps.
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You should never date someone expecting them to make certain moves at you preset times. If you are interested in marriage then sit down and tell him so and find out how he feels. If it is so easy for you to basically tell him to ask you to marry him or leave then you should just leave because you are not committed enough.
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If you have a timeline in mind and he doesn't, then you might be dating forever. Have you discussed marriage yet? If you have, are you the one who brings up the subject all the time? Maybe he will never propose. Some guys/gals aren't interested in marriage, believe it or not. I've known people who were engaged for 20 years who finally got married...some who have been together longer than that to whom marriage is irrelevant..and some who met, courted and married within in a few months. There is no "one-size-fits-all". If you are unhappy about the present situation, I think you should talk to him. Good luck and Happy Friday! :)
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I was given that speech and I failed myself in the process. If a slip of paper is what you really need to be happy then go ahead and give him the ultimatum. If he says no, put your money where your mouth is and leave. I'm sure you'll find someone else who's willing to give you that. I warn you however that this man you're with might be the love of your life and you might not find another like him. Are you willing to risk that for a slip of paper? You already have him. Do you really need more than that?
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Six months for my wife and i. this was long enough for us to know what we wanted from each other and our future together. Three years is way too long. sounds like someone either has cold feet or is just using the other person. An agreement just to live together is one thing, but when one party wants marriage and the other does not, there is definetely something wrong. Only you can discover the real problems in your relationship.
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You're wrong simply because that's a vulgar analogy. Try being a bit more charming.
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depending how old the two of you are, if ye re both still teen, theres really no need to rush, get yourself some foundations built before the leap, but youre both over 30 and have been together for 3 years plus, getting along great, i d say its just reasonable that ye two get married, it d better and safer to have children while ye re still young, or if ye re both divorced and have already grown-up children, time isnt pressing on ye anymore, marry if ye think ye ll be happy to spent the rest of your lives(the 2 in 1 life)together, then, marry! but very generally speaking, 3 years plus is quite sufficient!
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In the immortal words of Beyonce... "If you liked it then you should have put a ring on it." 3 years is long enough to know if you can spend the rest of your life with someone. You don't need an ultimatum, you already live with your own answer.
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Well I was with a guy 7 and a half years got engaged, and wound up breaking up cause he turned out to be a selfish mind game playing asshole... So the way I see it theres no rush! But maybe getting engaged and getting used to the idea wouldn't be a bad idea after 3 years! Although if you want it, why don't you ask him?
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Most men know whether or not they want to marry you by year 2, year 3 at the latest. This is the perfect time to give him the speech. The last thing you want to do is spend another 3 years waiting for him to bring it up. Good luck! Best, Lisa Lisa Daily Dating Coach & author of HOW TO DATE LIKE A GROWN-UP: Everything You Need to Know to Get Out There, Get Lucky or Even Get Married in Your 40s, 50s and Beyond. www.lisadaily.com/datingexperttv
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I'm 18 so you may not think I know alot but let me tell you this. Three plus years isn't really as long as you think it is. I know people who've dated the same person for seven years and broken up. They weren't teens either they were in their late thirties. It's not about how long you've dated it's about if you AND your partner are willing to make a perment vow to one another.
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i proposed after 5 months and we were married 18 months later.
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Maybe he's just afraid of getting married.It's not that he doesn't love.Theirs so many reasons why he hasn't. Three years after all isn't all that long after all. I think it should last even longer before you get married maybe like 5-8 years before you get marrried. That's just what i think.Because things are sweeter the more you wait. I'd just discuss it with him and find out why he hasn't yet.
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6 month is to early with rate of divorce , I would say 2 years is a great time to think about it
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My opinion(and granted my own love life sucks!) but this guy is about a year and a half late. If you went for the "Put up or shut up" deal I'd back you!
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after 18 months you should know whether to settle for no commitment or move on
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Well it is different for every relationship, but I do think that if you want to and he doesn't and it is affecting you in a way where you are thinking either he proposes or you leave, then it might be a good idea to just have a chat, and see how he feels about it.
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You know, is it possible that now's a bad time? There are all these people saying "omg three years it should have been a long time ago" -- But Love and I dated for 4 years before I popped the question. We're in college, we don't know what we're doing a year from now... Do you think he should have asked three years ago, when I was just starting my sophomore year? We had an agreeable breakup, were apart for nine months, realised we needed eachother, got back together -- how messy would that have been if we'd been engaged at the time? Now, I will say -- have you been planning your life together at all? If you've never talked about where you'd like to live in the future, if you want kids, can we have a dog -- even if you don't mention the M-word -- you're just going to blindside him. If you say, "I really hope to live in the South someday" and he says "Oh? Yeah, you might like that. Me, I might move to New England," that might be a clue. Basically: The years are meaningless. The status and strength of your relationship are what matters.
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6 months is long enough to know if two people are compatible with each other. He has cold feet.
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I have friends that waited 11 years and two children before they got married. They both went to college and then.... they just waited until it was right for both of them. Good luck!!
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The odds of him proposing to you after 3 years are slim. Sure, it can happen, but the odds are against you.
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well from what i hear its 8 months, but there is the longer ones. my cousin had been dating the same guy since she was 16, shes now 26 and they just got ingaged like in the winter, they waited 10 years!
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I wouldn't bring it up that way, but I would find out how he feels and let him know how you feel and see where it goes.
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