ANSWERS: 9
  • It's possible that 1) you COULD get back together, or 2) you can gain closure by trying ONE last time. The thing is, most "one last times" turn into one more, then another, then... You are going through a grieving process. You lost someone you love. Bargaining is part of that, but usually is only good for you. See my answer at http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2762628
  • i have always found that talking about every single feeling you had during your relationship to your ex well speed the process of getting over him. I suggest doing it. It could end with you two getting back together or it could end with you finally getting closure. Talk about why you broke up and doubts you had. talk about EVERYTHING
  • 3 months isn't very long - even if it seems like a lifetime. it will pass, and one day you'll realize you've not been thinking of him. just keep trucking on. You'll get there.
  • dont chase hiom screw him, if he isnt smaer enough to see what he had with you then he's not worth it. but if you still really really do love him, stop chasing him, thats what he wants for you to fallow him, soon enough he'll realize he's lost you for sure, and will freak out cause youre playing his little game anymore.
  • I don't think you should try to get back with him. Try to move on. Cry all you want, but in between bouts, do stuff to make you feel good. I had a similar experience back in graduate school some things that worked for me: Rearrange your furniture, get new bed linens, get new artwork for the walls. Just doing this helped give me a fresh start feeling. It also helped me to stop being reminded of the guy just looking around the apartment. Do stuff that he never wanted to do with you. Try new restaurants. Go shopping, buy some new clothes, get a new haircut. Hang out with girlfriends. Visit with family, let them bad-mouth him for you. It is OK to be sad, to cry, to rant against the universe. You tried your best, do not beat yourself up over it. Everyone second guesses themselves after something like this, but clinging to it might make you sadder. However, only you can make the ultimate choice of whether or not it is worth it to try to get back together.
  • You have to let him go. Three years is a long time to be together and breaking up is very painful. You have my sympathy. But nothing you do to repair the relationship is going to work and it will just make things worse. The break up itself was your closure and you're going to have to live with it. If you want things to get better for you, you have to take care of yourself.
  • let me tell you what to do. don't call him,don't try to talk to him when usee him, just wear the best clothes you got in your closet and wear the best hair style, act like he don't exist when u see him. people now a days don't know what they love till its gone.then look how fast he is going to call u saying he want you back in his life.
  • aww, I feel ya on this..I've had to move on from someone and still wake up thinkin bout him... My solution for me is...do all the things I find the most fun in life..and find a new (or a few) playmate... let it go...brush your shoulders off..and have some fun..
  • Really think about the relationship and why it didn't work. Can your issues be fixed? Can his? My partner left me 6 months ago after a 10 year relationship...trust me, I would rather he left after 3 years if I knew it wasn't going to work out!!! I suggested counselling - he didn't want it. He's trying to be friends. Now, if he wants contact, I let him come to me. I tried everything when it first happened, but now I have realised that if it's not meant to be it's not. He is the one initiating contact now, but I am about to tell him if he just wants friendly catch ups online that is not the type of relationship I want with him. I will leave it at that, and if he wants more, he will come to me. You have to be strong. I wasn't at all. Believe me if I can do it, you can. I am seeing a counsellor. I suggest you try that too.

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