Why do the majority of fathers get more respect from their children then mothers? (in a 2 parent home)
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Not true, I've always respected my mother more
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Because dad usually leaves thepunishment up to the momand so dad is not as bad as mom and they get to see mom more and it is a treat to see dad.
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perhaps more fathers than mothers are strict and enforce more discipline?
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I wouldn't say that is a hard and fast rule....indeed, I think my wife had more influence on our girls then I did. In general I think men are more prone to "take charge" of a situation then women. Call it cultural, call it genetic, but it seems to work out that way - in most cases.
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because Daddy goes to work for 12 hours a day and only see's the kiddies for an hour so its all fun but mommy is the one who has to discipline and enforce rules and chores.
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Women tend to give in more than men. My wife did with our children. I was the enforcer of punishment. My wife and i both demanded respect from our children. I received more respect, simply because i was the enforcer. Does that make sense?
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Well i think it's cause Mums say things like "Wait until your dad gets home!" which strikes fear into your heart because you know as soon as dads home.. somebodys gna get hurtt! (you) Mums tend to be more gentle when asking for things and are easier to say no to (Generally) Plus mums are smaller and not as intimidating
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It isn't so in my home. I think a lot of it depends on where the mom draws the line. In my house, I wear the pants. My kids are loved dearly, but I'm not going to be miserable just so they can have what they want.
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I dont think thats always the case
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When my birth mom and dad were in the home I respected both of the equally. My mom was as rough as dad and neither took no mess. When dad married my step mom he did get more respect. She was sooooo nice that she could hardly bring herself to punish. Daddy never had any problems with it, lol.
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Most males believe in stricter discipline and more firmer in enforcing it they tell a child something they usually mean it. Women are more nuturing and tends to lead the child to believe they can get away with more. Thats why if dad says no lets go ask mom. LOL
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I don't think they do.
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Probably because men know when to stop yapping.
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I always had more respect for my mother, as my dad did most of the physical discipline.
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my dad is bigger, his moustache is thicker, voice is louder, and is wallet is fatter, just kidding. i respect both my parents the same, i'm just scared of my dad, cause he dont play.
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I don't think that's always the case either. However, I will say that it is probably the case in my house. I think it is because my wife tends to whine at them to get something done rather than be more authoritative.
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I think it comes down to the fact fathers often aren't as home as much so their "threat" is still on. I know of one instance where the father stays at home and the mother works, and the kids tend to respect her more because when she says something, it gets done.
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That is not always the case, but when it is, maybe it is due to the fact that fathers administer discipline more.
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My father and mother could have given us the same identical order to do something, for example, but the very same order coming out of my father's mouth--that accompany with a facial expression that said: "I aint playing with your silly ass"--had a very distict sound. While my mother had to tell my sisters 3 or more times, and ultimately whip their asses, to do something, my father, on the other hand, gave his order only once and it was done--no question asked. And yet he never did any whipping. Now, my father has a body frame of 6'2" and 220lbs of lean muscle and a reputation when he was young of putting a few guys in a hospital. We new what our father was capable of doing.
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ONE reason might be that, alot of mothers "use" the father as the disciplinarian of the family. "Wait til your father gets home!"--sound familiar?
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If and thats a big IF They respect one parent they usually respect the other. The mother is just usually a softer touch. There are certain things that wont fly with your father that your mother overlooks. It doesnt mean they dont respect her.
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How do you know that is true.
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If that is true, then I would say because fathers are more violent.
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Where do you get your information from?
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Because the majority of the mothers are the disciplinarians while the fathers don't listen to a thing the mothers say or do...............<did I just get a little serious>?
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I don't think its true. When I was growing up my Mother was the figure of authority, and she was given more respect... not that my father didn't, but you get the point. It could probably be that some men are old fashioned and need to be respected and the head of the household, or it could be that they were violent. I know some friends that would rather not argue with their dad's becuase they were short tempered. Yeah, maybe it's not respect, but others would probably see it that way.
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well in my home he does. I think because for the longest time; they've been telling me "your father is the head of the household" "your father makes the final desicion" my mom always says "im behind whatever your father says 100%" so i guess, i just i just listen to that
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because their personna demands it and they earn it...respect is earned...they know they "have to mind " their dad...they know their "mom" they can get away with ,basically because she probably threatens all day and never does what she says!! its "learned behaviors" and they learn the fastest and most their first 4 yrs of life...its called disrespectfulness ....its neglect and lapse of authority...she probably yells,"wait til ur dad gets home!" which is the worst thing she can do as far as earning "respect" for herself!!! do it and nip it right off and first off and she would NEVER have to say such foolish, irresponsilility toward civilizing and rearing her own children!! they are what u TEACH and ALLOW...:)justme
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Not in our house, just ask my kids who the strict parent is!
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I have much more respect from my kids than their dad. OK he is the authoritarian, and he could come in and make this or that rule then go to work and expect me to uphold it. He gets their obedience, because they value their security and safety, but that isn't respect. My kids care about hurting my feelings; they care about letting me down, and although they can re-negotiate with me and push the rules when I'm around, its because I let them, out of love. My rules have flexibility built in, because every situation is different. They know how far is too far, and they stay on my good side willingly, not out of fear of the consequences. Sadly many point-and-shout dads can't see that.
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Mothers need to learn to be more violent...
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It's all about dominance. Who is the rule maker, enforcer, teacher etc.... If you are all those things than you will have the most respect regardless of gender.
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Because the fathers are men and the mothers are women.
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i personally dont think this correct ,as its different in my house ,,
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I'm guessing because you think so. I on the other hand may not agree with your contention that it is so.
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because moms are the one's making the kids do what they don't like to do, and dads get to be the fun parent.
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How often do mothers threaten the children with "Wait until your dad get home"? Perhaps it's not respect, but she has taught them to fear him.
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I dont know any families that go by this... more like the complete opposite.
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Fathers are usually the disciplinarians. Mom's usually a "pushover", or at the very least, gives much more "gentle" punishments than Dad. (At least that's the way it was when my siblings and I were growing up!)
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its not more respect...its a different respect....the father signifies disipline and structure, when a mother is the childs world, and teaches affection...both hold an incredible amount of importance, and neither should be looked at with less value than the other.
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