I'm so sick of the clique-y behavior here. Why is it that Answerbag has started to feel like high school, even though a majority of the people here are past high school age?
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Because people are being people. It's what they do. The best thing you can do is point out their childishness.
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I don't sense any clique-y behaviour here, actually. Can you give me an example or something?
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I noticed the clique thing too amongst the more experienced users, but I did not let it bother me. Now I don't notice it, because people have gotten to know who I am too. I realized it is not a clique, it is commradery. I think it is human nature to form "groups" based on interests. The difference here is that we can form friendships and groups without the superficial facade of what someone looks like, how we dress or even how old we are. I am sorry you are unhappy - maybe you can try answering questions outside of new questions or outside of where you normally answer. I started searching by topic and found some great questions and made some nice new friends that aren't well-known baggers. That is the kind of advice we would never have been able to follow in high school :o)
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I'm sure there are people who have "met" on AB and become friendly. I have met several people I like very much. That doesn't mean I seek out their answers to rate. In fact I make it a point to read answers of people whose names I don't recognize and rate their answers if they are good answers. Since I am aware that AB ranks are based on quantity rather than quality, it doesn't impress me at all to see a high rank, or to give more consideration to a high ranking member.
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Like, duh, don't you want to fit in? Just kidding :) You're right. It does feel that way for a lot of reasons. I think Mirage RF said it best when he said that AB has become a mutual admiration society for a select few (I wish I could locate that answer it was great). I can only speak for myself because I have been here way too long. I try to be balanced and even when rating and/or commenting. There are naturally some users I have a lot of exchanges with because I have known them by reputation on AB for so long. I also think a lot of the younger users stick together for obvious reasons. I know what you mean though. There was one AB user who would rate all answers except mine for some odd reason which was extraordinarily petty. I try my best to interact with as many people as possible though. Don't let it get to you.
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I haven't noticed it. I have not been here long. There are some people who talk to me more than others. I don't know why. LET'S form our own clique. lol j/k I would imagine they have known each other longer and therefore are more familiar. Hey, don't worry 'bout it. Remember that great song........ Don't worry, be happy. :)
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There is kind of a clique-ish mentality amongst humanity in general. People of similar vieewpoints and/or levels of intellect and/or who are geographically (and therefore culturally) close tend to stick together merely so as not to feel alone. Personally, I like seeing someone who knows what it's like to hit a foot of mud AND black ice AND dry pavement all in the same 15-mile commute. I like seeing someone who knows what it's like to live stacked three high in a room with nearly 400 other men thousands of miles from land for weeks at a time. I like someone who agrees that an R-34 can at least hold it's own against a Z06. Basically, I like people like me and I never found any 15 years ago when I was in high school.
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What cliques?
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This question was posted a few days ago and msFortunate has talked and was much happier afterwards.
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A brilliant answer courteousy of our favorite Stableboy; People tend to talk to the people they know. This has been so since the dawn of time -- they feel more comfortable, there's more background of relatedness, they don't worry as much about being misunderstood or rejected, etc. Relationships happen one at a time, and take time. All of this has to be considered when talking about "cliques", because a clique is a group which is implicitly or explicitly trying to be exclusive of newcomers. I don't think that's the case here very often. Newcomers need to understand that it takes time, and old-timers should make some outreach effort part of their diet.
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I have to say that I agree. I am pretty new to AB, and I already notice which users seem to pack together, which ones post to seemingly EVERYTHING, etc. I think the people here just got to know each other and thats all there is to it. Maybe if your here long enough that happens, too. I guess it is natural...
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I have not noticed....
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Very Clique-y as far as I can gather. It's not hard to read between the lines and figure who is emailing who with, I assume, some nasty backstabbing crap.
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I don't participate in this, as far as I am aware. It is just that it is often the same people who post the questions that I find interesting. But I give every question a chance. I don't have this high school feeling at all. I think that the best would be to ignore the click behavior.
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Maybe people who get involved with that stuff just want to feel like they belong somewhere. Is there anything wrong with that? At least they aren't killing anyone. I prefer not to be part of any groups, though. I like being able to do my own thing.
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I know this was posted 2 years ago. Do you still feel this behaviour is prevelant on AB?
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Of course there are cliques, I call them groups of friends that have the same common interest. -
high school never ends... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jp-1-2bTAVA
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