In regards to age differences between lovers what do you consider to be over the line? How many years apart would be ok? Why?
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I'd say anything legal is ok. I think if one is old enough to be their grandparent, it's not ok.
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If she's over 18, she's ok with me. Kidding. I think about five years one way or the other is good. You have much more in common and a better chance for a decent relationship. My parents were 19 years apart
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As long as your ages are legal adults, go for it. If I was the older person with a younger women (18 & over) I'd be tickled to death.
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No more than 10 years older
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As long as you are over 21 anything goes. You are an adult to do as you please. As an adult you do not and should not have to ask anybodies permission to do anything. You certainly should be able to make up your own mind and have your own sense of self.
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optimal is 0-3 I believe. However 0-10 would be alright.
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In general, but not every case, the younger the person, the less experience with other people. As people age, their interests tend to change. From this, you can see that a person is less likely to have their interests fully formed before they are 25, so that would be the minimum age for a relationship. The more the difference in age, the more there is a difference in the level of experience, and in the things they are likely to care about. None of these statements apply to everyone, and there are many couples who are far apart in age who are happy with their choice, just as there are couples who are the same age and they are not happy at all. What ever works for the people involved is the only answer that is going to work.
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You are 39 I am 57....no prob...who am I??
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I am 57...you are 39...in prime....problem??
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I don't think actual age matters at all. It's where you are that matters. A 15 and 20 year old have nothing in common life wise. A 20 and 25 year old have more in common, and a 25 and 30 year old have even more in common. My 50 something mother just married a 70 something year old man last year and they get along fabulously. They're both looking to retire and spend more time with their grandchildren, etc. Same stage of life, so it doesn't matter that he was married to his first wife by the time my mother was born. :P
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She is 18. he is 65.
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Once we're talking about two adults, I think the issue isn't so much age as differences in life experience. For example, I would think that a 28 year old dating an 18 year old would be an entirely different matter than a 55 year old dating a 45 year old. Even though the age differences are the same. The latter couple have probably already decided, as individuals, who they are, what their careers are, where they want to live, etc. I don't thing there's anything wrong or illegal about either, but I'd guess on average that the latter couple are more likely to work.
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If they're legal what do I care. Live and let live. F*ck and let f*ck.
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Up to 10 years if the man is older, and up to four if the woman is. Why? Best sex.
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No age difference is over the line if you are both happy. I am 55 and my wife is 31. We may look for slightly different things in life but I accept her as she is and she accepts me as I am
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true love has no difference. it will set it's own boundaries
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Maybe about 10 years or so otherwise you start getting one partner that is ready to settle down and have kids why the other one wants to travel and party more
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I think that about 10 years is the borderline. Maybe becuase my parents where this way. But I think that any thing is fine in the line, as long as they are both 18. Becuase then that would just not be right to be dating someone twice as old
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If they are legal it's nobody elses business anyway, as long as it's not one of my children that is...
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When one or the other is old enough to be the parent of the other! And, of course, anyone UNDERAGE!
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after the legal age...it has no factor in my eyes. Who has the right to say weather or not if someone can be happy with the one they love. as long as it doesnt break the law....be happy.
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i believe that what ever two (or more) consenting adults do is none of anyones business but their own. for example take J. Howard Marshal and Anna Nicole Smith. maybe she was a gold digger, maybe she wasn't but i know if i looked like that i would be happy to sign over my fortune to have a playboy playmate by my side. it's not like he could take it with him and obviousely he hated his relatives so what else was he supposed to do, leave it all to the cat?
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Millenium: Why do you continue to be narrow minded saying that a nine year difference is "pushing it a bit". In love, you shouldn't make those kind of judgements. I have had two marriages, both with a 20 year difference but in oppossite directions. Both have been very happy and successful.
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I'm 30 and my sons dad is 21 but I look and feel young for my age so it really depends on the individuals. As long as they are both consenting adults each to their own I guess
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i think if you're both adults, you be with whoever, no matter how old they are. IF you're both adults, that is. I don't think kids or teens should date adults though. I think if you're 16 you can date up to 20, like I did. but a 14 year old & a 21 year old is gross. it's not right, a child just isn't mature enough for that kind of thing. my sister is 17 & marrying a guy who's 31. i don't agree with it, but if it's what makes her happy & she's above the age of consent in Texas. plus he got her pregnant so...yeah.
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Age differences are not as significant as are emotional maturity and general interests. If two people are attracted to each other, and if they are sufficiently mature to acknowledge some physical realities, then chronological age is immaterial.
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Age doesn't matter at all, where you are in life does. My husband is 5 years younger then I am so once upon a time he was 15 and I was 20. Gross huh? But when we met he was 22 and I was 27. We were both in the same area of life then and that makes a world of difference. My mother just got married to a man who was 20 years old and married when she was born. Gross then, but fine now that she's 50 and he's 70. They're both settled down, retired, and enjoying traveling the US together. Same stage even thought there's a lot of years separating them.
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