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forgive YES forget NO My oppinion is, a bear never changes its tracks. If he did it once, he will do it again. Besides the feeling of not being able to trust him again,that will always be hanging over your and his heads through-out your entire relationship Weather you want it to or not. It may be time to move on.!
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I am in exactly the same situation as you. What I'm worried about is it happening again with somebody else, and the thing that's upset me most is the fact he lied about it for so long. He said he was confused and that's why he did it, and that he didn't want to hurt me which is why he didn't tell me. What I'm going to do is have a month long break from him. During this time I hope I'll realise my true feelings for him, and that he will for me. Also, if he then does it again I will know that he isn't worth it. If a month seems too long for you, try a shorter time period, but whatever you do don't get back with him straight away as this will lead him to think it's alright to do what he did and lie to you about it. Make him do all the work-tell him he has to make it up to you.
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FFS you were on a break, which means your were both temporarily single - you cant expect normal rules to apply! You have to get over it, or just get even (when you're on a break obviously).
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You have to really consider how you actually feel about this. Do you feel cheated on? Do you feel you can trust him? Can you move on from this? My boyfriend broke up with me bout 8 months ago for a few weeks. He kissed a couple of girls and it really hurt cause I found out through someone else. However I did get over it with the fact that he had broken up with me before doing this and I'm fine now. However, if I found out he slept with someone else, it would have ended us for ever as I know I would never get over that! Lies can destroy trust as much as cheating can. However in this case, he probably didn't see any reason to tell you and upset you as he didn't cheat. But denying it...IS lying! Back to top point... explore your own feelings about it and figure out your next move. Always be true to yourself and never be scared of doing the right thing.
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i can fully understand why he lied 'bout that that whole time, you were seperate and stuff happens... but when you got together again, wel there are some things that are better left in silence, stuff like that, when it comes on surface, it changes everything, when you know that your partner has been with someone else, you think of that, that kinda takes over you, and it changes whole relationships thing. it gets tought to be around your beloved one, you are with him, but you even if only just a bit, but you think of that person who he was with, you don't know if you can trust him. it's just sometimes better to lie,even i that person is your beloved one, sometimes it's just better no matter how tought it is. so, ye, i cn understand him, but the fact, that you get to know about that right now, after such a while, i bet it's hard, but try to understand him too and decide, what that person means to you and can you live on admitting, yea shit happens, but you are together now.
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