I cheated on my ex husband because I was very unhappy with the sex and the intimacy in your relationship.He completely ignored me most of the time. I would come home from work and he wouldn't even speak to me most of the time. I gave alot, he was a musician and I went to every show most of the time alone. He would get off the stage and talk to his fans and I was just the pretty girl he would tell everybody about, I felt like he used me for show. He was a lay there and let me do everything kind of guy in the bedroom. The sex was really really bad, so bad I would cry afterwards sometimes. I had never cheated before and thought I never would and used to be extremely judgemental of people that have.I'm not using all that as an excuse because instead of cheating I should have just left. I cheated instead because I felt in debt to him because my family had deserted me and his family took me in and plus I just really wanted it to work but I was so unhappy. It started with the clubing al the time first. I didn't feel pretty to him or wanted so I looked for the attention else where and then it got out of hand. We got a divorce and now I'm with someone I love and I get what I need in a realationship with. I regret breaking my exes heart though. I will never do that again.

what goes around comes around

Well, she was young and pretty and very sweet. I had thought about having sex with her for a very long time. One day the opportunity came and it just happened. It was a bit surreal. The weirdest part of the whole thing was I didn't feel guilty at all. I guess I had been unfaithful with her in my mind so many times that when it happened it was not very real.

Paris Review Summer, 2009 Gay Talese on infidelity. "Here's what people don't get. Sex is not that important. It isn't the most important thing in any relationship. Marriage is never about sex, and yet in American fiction so many stories and novels present a sexual dalliance ans an unpardonable sin. (In real life) I never thought that should be true. Marriage is the main event. These other relationships bring me into worlds I would otherwise not know. These relationships have helped our marriage. ..I think of all these people who get divorced over minor matters...I don't see how people can live in conventional marriages. " Gay Talese has a fifty year marriage with a very accomplished,independent and fiscally successful wife.

I didn't think we would work out but didn't want to be the one to break it off. I was under the influence and very horny and didn't know how to just say no. I regret it to this day and will never do it again.

A moment of madness. An opportunity too good to miss. She trapped me. I didn't do it...honest. But I love YOU. There are only 2 kinds of men. Those who cheat and those who feel guilty about it.

I wanted that feeling of being cared for again. The relationship I was in was good in the beginning but soon went to hardly speaking let alone a hug or kiss. It was as if I didn't exist. I needed to be held, caressed and talked to like I mattered. It's not always sex the cheater seeks - it's a compliment or a look and it goes from there. I no longer cheat - I will break off the relationship I'm in before that happens. Just because I may be lacking something from the relationship doesn't give me the right to hurt someone in the heart.

I cheated once... Had a one night stand with someone I really liked just because my SO had been cheatig on me for 8 years with various ho's and bitches. I wasn't proud of myself, but I did enjoy myself. I experienced it for the sheer sake of saying I had. I never did it again.

I had a great sex life with my lovely wife until the kids arrived. Then she was too tired for me, which I understood. But it came to the point when I just couldn’t make an approach without being rebuffed. Over time this hurt and I started staying out after work. I also drank too much. Later I met a woman who was in a difficult marriage and we had a small affair for 3 months. Later my wife lost her libido because of illness. But The affair never really made me happy because I loved my wife; so I finished it. I haven’t had full sex for over 10yrs but neither could I be unfaithful to her again. It’s made me ill. A man needs a sex life. So married women be warned!