What is the most effective way to discipline a child six to ten years of age?
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GARY MARSHALL
ANSWERS: 19
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spray them with water! Only joking! Make them move into a smaller room, (temporarily!) or just get rid of their phone or pretend to send in a letter to school to tell them, 'that at school they are innocent (hopefully) and at home are wicked and sly.' My mum did that one on me - it really confused me! lol xx
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Depends on the magnitude of the misdemeanor. Nothing that includes physical abuse or anything that is going to cause lasting psychological harm. Something like no TV or other similar luxury past time. Ground them so they can't leave the house or call their friends unless they are going to school if you want a more serious punishment. It's more about rehabilitation in my opinion though.
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I have found that natural consequences are really helpful because they get the child to think. If, for example, they lie, then they should learn how lies affect trust. For a week or so, ask them to prove different things they say or do. If they get home after school to an empty house, they need to sign in or call when they arrive. Or when they brush their teeth, check thoroughly. You get the idea. If they stole, they need to pay back the amount of the stolen item (even if they returned it) and they cannot borrow or receive anything from that person or store for a month (week for someone younger). These types of consequences have real-life applications and really cause kids to understand how their own deviant behavior affects themselves and others around them.
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Try to understand the underlying feeling. And then deal with it. If you find you cannot do anything about it, (e.g. it is a peer problem) at least validate it. Keep yourself relaxed, optimistic and loving to the child so that he communicates to you without fear.
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Natural or logical consequences. Natural- If you don't wear a coat you'll be cold. Logical - If you abuse the phone, you loose it for a specific amount of time. With logical consequences, make them fit the crime and be sure to explain the logic to the child.
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I make my kids write sentences. They are related to what the problem was I have note books full of I will not back talk ect. and I do not let them go I I I will will will if i find them doing that i make them start all over. Also if two of them are fighting I make them hold hand and put the free arm around one other and sit there for like 5 minutes I try not to spank my kids at that age.
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I think it may vary from child to child, but we have had good luck with taking away privileges. The more severe the misbehavior, the more that gets taken away or the longer it is taken away. We also start with what ever he's most into at the time. Playing with friends, TV, computer...
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even at 6 kids are old enough to make choices. "you can throw your dinner on the floor but if you do you will have to clean it up and then you will be sent to your room, would you still like to throw your dinner on the floor?" if they feel like they are making decisions instead of being punished they will be more willing to go your way and they will develop good decision making skills for later in life.
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i would give them a time out and tell them what they did wrong and talk it out in a way that they will understand why they got in trouble
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I've always been fond of Malcolm in the Middle's punishing tactics. One time Louis, the mom, took everything out of the boy's room when they stole besides a matress and two sets of close. That's what I would do.
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Issue an appropriate punishment that is consistent and not too harsh. It has to be fitting for the problem. Try taking away priveleges that are related to the bad behavior. Never use a physical or violent or degrading punishment. Treat the child like they have intelligence, reason with them and very importantly, explain the punishment, what behavior was unacceptable, and the consequences they face if it is repeated again.
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Taking away privileges would be appropriate. Of course you take something away that fits the punishment. This really works if it is followed up by reasoning and conversing with your child. Just taking away the privilege and not having a conversation to reinforce the lesson will not be as effective. Remember punishment is about teaching good behavior. http://www.audreymarlene-lifecoach.com/parenting-information.html
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I am all for Thinkins idea on sentence writing. I used the method of writing sentences. My kids learned great from that. I would give them the amount to write and the time to have it done by. If not finished it got doubled. Believe me it worked. And my daughter has a beautiful handwriting because she had to write the sentences neatly or it had to be done over. I use this method now on my stepkids and they are learning mighty quick.
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Okay, I come from the old school of discipline and there wasn't reasoning or bargaining or new-age yuppie psychology. If you do something wrong, you will have consequences. No TV. No going to friends' houses. No computer. And (OMG) I got spanked. It wasn't emotionally scarring, it wasn't child abuse. It taught respect and I'm glad my parents did it. Unlike a lot of the children I see today under the new methods, my siblings and I never swore at our parents and we learned table manners, church manners, and respect for our elders. There is nothing wrong with spanking and my husband and I may use it with our own children, when we have them. Old school it up!
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the more difficult a child's behaviour - the more PRAISE is needed to turn it around. Behaviour that is noticed will increase - behaviour that is not noticed will (eventually) decrease. Therefore notice all the good things your child is doing (any small thing) and praise this behaviour. Reduce the amount of attention you give for negative behaviours. PRAISE IS THE MOST EFFECTIVE BEHAVIOUR MANAGEMENT STRATEGY AND COMES ENTIRELY FREE. Reinforce this with hugs, smiles and spending lots of time together - you will soon see a positive difference.
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Hang them upside down by their feet and tar them and feather them... Wait, that's illegal, isn't it? Darn...something creative, I suppose like throwing away vidoe games
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I have found that no two children are the same. The method that worked for my son didn't work for my daughter. I have spanked before but honestly I didn't see that it corrected the behavior. I'm going with what Bagless said and I do punishments. I do try to catch them doing good too. We haven't had that many problems honestly with my 9 year old...
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My kid isn't that old yet, but my Mom would ground me and take away things like TV privelgaes....Taking something away from me was the worst.....She would call it black out...no electronics of any kind ever.
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Discipline is teaching your child what is right and wrong. The child should know that there are consequences for their behavior. The consequence should be natural and make sense to them. Make sure your child knows your expectations and what will happen when the rules are not followed. If they do not put their bike up after riding it then they will not be allowed to ride it for so many days. The lesson you are trying to teach is respect and responsibility. I hope this helps:)
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