all i can soy is be yourself 24 hours aday and if they like you for who you are its better than dating them with a lie then them finding out and then your a 100% screwed so play far be yourself and in the long run youll probably score. course thats how it is for me and then again mabey its cause im a country boy ,hehe!

Start by talking to all girls, both really attractive and those that are just average. Think of it as practice, not trying to pick them up, just a mission to conquer your fears. Becoming more outgoing and an easy conversationalist in general will help boost your confidence when you come upon a girl you're really interested in.

P30K,never say things that will make you look foolish.the nicest girls are the first ones you must interact with.tell them intelligent things that they do not know. usually,they are a little bit dull themselves.you start to give some really funny jokes to a few girls and gradually to more of them.WARNING!don't laugh at your own jokes. i mean really funny jokes,this will make them laugh anytime they see you and that is a sign of appreciation. your jokes must always be on the wild side and use the 'appropriate words'.you are not in sunday school,so open-up a little.anytime anyone of them ask you to do something,leave what you were doing and go and do it for them. oh! they love you when you are willing.girls like to order guys around and this is sometimes a turnoff for most guys.in no time you'll be the errand boy.patience littleman,you would be rewarded very generously.you must share your snacks or food with them.always be tidy and well groomed.girls in general can't stand unkept and smelly guys.there's a lot you have to do but believe me,it's well worth it. i am waiting for an update in 3 months.

come up with something that you would like to be an expert in - study up and then talk about it. The key to talking is knowing. Also try to learn some techniques for the pauses. I keep a line about the legend of atlantis and that paused in conversation are a necessity do to an innate desire to mourn at 15 after and 15 till. I don't believe it for a second but it gets me through - and usually spurs some conversation.

Don't try to "build confidence", that will just mess you up. You have to turn the question upside down and ask "what prevents me from just being myself around attractive girls?" You're fine when you're being yourself -- everyone is, actually. The problem is that when these girls are around there are "tapes" that play in your head which are not helpful -- things which generate anxiety and cause you to tighten up... you can't relax and just be there. What there is to do is to learn how to be PRESENT when girls are around. That means noticing your internal state and just allowing it to do whatever it is that it's going to do. This sounds like nonsense to most people the first time they hear it -- "how can just being aware of myself make any difference?". But it does. If you can just work on being aware of your own thoughts and feelings -- your breath, your body sensations, whatever is going on in your brain -- that awareness alone will start to create a kind of "space" in which you can just BE there and be yourself. You don't have to do anything special, you don't have to change, you don't have to try to be like other guys or images that you have seen in the movies, etc. -- you just need to be able to be there and relax. It takes time and practice, but it really is the only way to get to the root of the trouble and pull that weed out.

I do the tango with them to get to know them better. There is no way to get to know someone better then a full 5 point body contact tango. 5 points of contact are 1. Guy's Left hand, ladies right hand 2. guy's right hand, ladies back (back of hand on shoulderbland extending down to mid back) 3. ladies left arm and hand over guy's right arm and hooking thumb just underneath the shoulder 4. Body (Going from the lady's left breast all the way down to the hips when offset properly) 5. Ladies left inner thigh with guy's right inner thigh. I'm serious I've done this with women whom I didn't even know their name and even some women I didn't even like. Hence the fact that most dancers who do the tango have no sense of personal space.

You start by talking to all kinds of other girls, not just the attractive ones. When you continually talk with girls you will build your confidence and talking to attractive ones will come naturally. Have fun!