god works in mysterious ways

I'm sorry for your loss. If you want to talk to someone about it, I'm willing to listen without judgement.

I'm sorry, Are you going to be okay.

"At least he didn't get confused and kill you." But really, there isn't a lot you can say at a time like that. Just offer company.

You say "I'm so very sorry for your loss. If you need to talk or just need someone to watch the kids, call me. Here's my number."

Nothing. Nothing at all. Keep your mouth shut. If she looks sad, give her a hug. Other than that, keep it to yourself.

"What did you do?"

You say that you hope he was heavily insured? Goodness... that is a tough one. I knew a couple that were going through a divorce and the husband killed himself. I thought "it nicer to be a widow than a divorcee". When some time passes, mention that you would be happy to set her up with some nice single guy friends. In the short term, just tell her that you are sorry about her husband and you will be at the funeral. Are they sure that it was suicide and not just an unfortunate accident?

You say your sorry for her loss and tell her your there for her if she needs anything.

Just say to her that you are so sorry for her loss,and if you need anything doing just ask as you can rely on me.Take her a bunch of her favourite flowers and a thinking of you card,as I am sure this will be well received.I would not mention her husband by name unless she brings it into the conversation.At a later date you might like to ask her if bereavement counselling would help her do deal with her loss.

First of all****and no OFFENSE TO ANYONE ELSE...PUHHHHHLEEEEESE......... don't say: If there's anything you need, let me know. That is a cop out. A person experiencing such tragedy mostly does NOT KNOW what they need... A good friend will do their homework and find out on their own what she might " need" or "like" to make this time a little less difficult and just provide it. Offer to clean her house, wash her car, call her and take her out for pizza, take her to the museum or park, or whatever she likes to do. People tend to let their yard go at times like this or she might need something done in the house that she is not physically capable of , something a strong man could do. These are things that could be said/offered later rather than sooner. Not saying much in the beginning of a time like this sometimes is better also. What can you say? A hug says a lot more sometimes. Good luck, "Sirius" and I know you will be a great comfort to her. If it was me....all you would have to do is call me a DORK, and I would start laughing and feeling better then and there..........................................................................dork.

You have to handle this delicately. You might want to consider writing her a note or simply saying "I know you are struggling right now and just want you to know if you ever want to talk or a shoulder to cry on, I am here" and leave it at that.

be nice to her, but not to nice. she needs some time to soak all this in.

Don`t do the same

Go to the funeral if you can. That is quite a comfort and no more needs be said.