Should men sacrifice earnings so that they can stay home with their own children, and be their child's caretaker, when the money is not essential?
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ANSWERS: 7
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This is a man's decision, and I certainly will not say that he SHOULD. No way will I say something like that, any more than I would say it about a woman. Being financially dependent on someone else takes a LOT of trust, and it isn't my call to make.
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Yes, I would do that any time.
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I am all for at home dads. I would jump at the opportunity to be an at home dad if my income were not necessary to have our home life function. Traditionally it has been the wife that stays home, but that is simply tradition. Though the bible dictates a headship arrangement, it does not deny the father the option to stay home and care for his family nor does it specify that he must be the breadwinner. You have to remember that back in the day women would breastfeed their children to ages upwards of 7 years old. They didn't have the supplements that we have today that allow a father to care for his child as well as a mother.
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Both parents have to be responsible for raising their children. If fathers only provide for their families, but dont actually spend any time bonding with or getting to know their kids, they just alienate them and their children will possibly resent them for this when they get older.
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If i was married and my wife had a more important and better paying job, I would be happy to work only part time and stay home and take care of the kids and house chores =o) i'm sure everyone will agree if they could afford to work less and spend more time home with the kids then everyone would..
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After my first child was born i quit corporate life and set up my own landscaping and garden maintenance business. I did this because i wanted to spend more time with my wife and child (now we have 2), i made the change for lifestyle reasons, definitely not money reasons. Having made this change i now get to spend more time with my wife and kids which is great. So in my case i have sacrificed earnings to spend more time with my family, mind you as the business grows the earnings won't be sacrified as much. If i could look after the kids and let my wife work i would. My wife doesn't work anymore and has no desires to until both kids are in school.
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I absolutely would love to see more fathers step into this role. I nursed our youngest for 2 1/2 years and it was very hard on my husband's relationship with our daughter. When he moved to the night shift, he stayed home with her and their bond became so strong. I can see him learning new child games and fingerplays with her and he is more interested in her as he became more knowledgable about what made her tick. I think that as a mother, I often just took things over and didn't invite him to participate often enough. It can be hard for a man to feel welcome in diaper changes, feeding, and just play, when they were raised in a home with a father that didn't do those things. Ladies, your men are very capable and will figure things out on their own. It is OKAY if they burp the baby over their shoulder and you do it over your knee. That is why babies are given two parents, to help each other out. Well, not really, from an evolution standpoint, but you get what I'm saying, right?
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