I like this girl but she's going out with my friend. I really like her and she seems to like me too, but now her sister is hitting on me. Should I date her sister and see where that goes, or wait for the girl I originally liked?
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John Burgos
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You have quite a dilemma on your hands. You have to ask yourself...do I want to do the right thing or the wrong thing? What are the consequences of my actions? Am I a man with self control, or a horn dog? There is a solution to your problem, you could be honest and upfront with her sister. Thats the person closest to the girl you love, she might be hurt, but most women are willing to sacrifice themselves for the sake of making true love work. If her sister feels you are right for her, she will do what she can to help you make it work out, If your smooth and play your cards right, you could very much wind up in bed with both if your into southern style man'ge twa! Maxim magazine printed an article on what to do in such situations. As in any realitionship, your rolling dice, try not to crap out. -- It would be an interesting career move Bev, what should I call my column? lol.
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This dilema has the potential to land you a spot on The Jerry Springer Show--just kidding (sort of). Stick to wooing the girl you "originally liked". If you date her sister just because she's available, that isn't very nice and it has the potential to backfire on you if/when the girl you really like becomes available. Plus it could be awkward to be dating the sister of your ex for both you and her sister. If you get involved with her sister sexually and then date the girl you like. . .well, it's just a little creepy from my perspective. I wouldn't want to date a guy who had been with my sister. And if you really like this girl then consider how potentially damaging dating her sister then dumping her to date her could be to their relationship. Would you want to see that? Hopefully not. If it's meant to be it will happen. In the meantime, date other girls if you wish, but not her sister. :)
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You should move away from this girl you originaly liked because of the main complication; she's dating your friend. You should value your friendship more. You don't want to end up dating your friends girl, then jepordising your friendship and trust between the friend, then later on in the relationship finding out that you and this girl don't actualy have that connection anymore, leaving you with no girlfriend and most importandly no friend either. But also don't just date the sister for the meer fact that you will have someone to just date. If you don't have the same feelings for her as she does for you, then what's the point? So the soloution is go out there and look for someone else, because as the cliched saying goes: "There's many fish in the sea", you will definitly find someone.
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none of them for me. if she likes you and you date her sister, she would be disspointed. but if you date her, you 'll loose a friend and this two girls would probably have an argue. (sorry, i'm not very good in english)
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Do what i did, get with the chick whos going out with your friend ;)
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be outrageous who needs to make her jelous by dating her sister this will only complicate things more wish upon the time she and yer friend gets their lines blurred and its your time to strike the slayer attack then!
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Jerry! Jerry! Jerry!
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let the sister know that you want to be friends with her without telling her and for the girl that you like, go for her,forget about the man she is seeing. if you really like her then you would love her even more than the man she is going out with. good luck
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are u like 15? don't ever chase one of ur boys girls , it will haunt you. and second don'tdate bimbos date a babe u like/
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Imagine if you liked a girl, and she liked you back but then she went for your brother...that would be sad for her =(
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Why would you want to get with the sister if you know u dont like her. Just because shes hitting on you doesnt mean u have to go out with her unless your really desperret There is a world full options you know!!!!
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Well, I would certainly not ruin things by dating the sister if you really like this girl, although if the other girl is not into you, then I would not wait for something that will never be.
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As long as you focus on one sister, I don't think it would be a good idea to date the other. It would be better to date someone completely different and forget both of them. Except if you are a womanizer and don't want to stay with any of them in the long run.
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life goes on. she is in a relationship. if you can like her sister date her sister... and when her relationship fails you better be with her sister enough that she won't be able to take you from her otherwise you are a real piece of slime. do not become her sisters BF until her sister is who you want to be with... or just date around until she is single again so you can go out with her.
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Well, there's a rose in a fisted glove And the eagle flies with the dove And if you can't be with the one you love Love the one you're with Love the one you're with Love the one you're with
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if there's a day that u can b wit the one u really love, u can't because u already dated her sister. so do u want that?? I bet the one u really love won't want that too... and so don't make her sister sad... but reason her that u can't like her bcus u already like som1 else.
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I think if you date her sister it will create a problem for you when the one you really like is single. I think you need to get the good one alone and ask her if she will date you, and if she says no then ask if you can date her sister. Maybe if you involve her a little bit then you will still be considered an option when she is single.
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I really think you should just back off. If your friend is anything like me, you're very lucky. If not, then it sucks for you. Why do I say this? Well, I want my friends and anyone I ever dated, am dating, or will date in the future to be happy. Therefore, if a guy dumped me and wanted to date one of my friends, I would have absolutely no problem with it, provided they both genuinely liked and cared for each other. If they're a better match, then they're a better match. If your friend is the kind of friend who would trash you as a friend over this, then it sucks for you. It sounds to me like you have to decide who is more important to you. Actually, maybe not, since you asked your question in 2004. You may have moved on from these two sisters by now, even. Hmm. Where am I going with this? Well, anyone who's in this situation, just back off. Remember, always respect other people's relationships. Always. Oh, and if you want to date someone's sister, but that someone is the one hitting on you, don't date her to get closer to her sister. That's just mean.
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I was in a similar situation a while back. I think what should come first is your friendship between your friend and you. Is it really worth straining or ruining your friendship over a girl, which in the long run will probably not be the "one" anyway. You don't want to get a reputation or loose people's respect because you take/steal your friend's girl. I would speak separately with your friend and let him know how you feel. And also consider if she's with him and leading you on in time she might repeat the same pattern if your with her. Do you really want to be with someone that does that? You should also consider that girls tend to flirt and like attention so you might be mis-reading the situation. She may not have the same feelings for you that you have for her. When you really like someone it might be hard to see the real truth. Best thing is to just let her be for now, if your meant to be with her in time she will break up with your friend. Once she's single again then it will be much easier and will not cause a fight with your friend. In the meantime see what happens with her sister and give it a chance.
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i have the same thing happening to me and i think you should date the sister then see what happens
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You should date neither of them. If you begin dating her sister, and the girl that you originally like becomes single, you will have a dilemma on your hands. But if you date the girl that you like, both her sister and your friend will be upset. Do you want to end your friendship over a girl? Since this is a no-win situation, you should just find another girl to date.
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OK... This sounds complicated. What would happen if the girl broke up with your friend down the road? Isn't dating a friend's "ex" off limits? Would you be willing to harm your friendship for a girl who flirts with you, while going out with your friend? (She is probably flirting with other guys as well that you don't even know about) If you do go out with her, she most likely will be flirting with someone else (like she is doing right now with you). This girl sounds like she needs alot of male attention.... That kind of behavior doesn't go away until her looks fade and she gets older. Want to make her squirm? Ask her exactly why she is showing interest in you when she is supposed to be with your friend.... Of course, she could just be being "nice" to her Boyfriend's Friends (that includes you), which most guys will consider a come on... Perhaps you are reading her signals wrong??? Good Luck on making a wise decision:) If you make the wrong decision, you could end up losing the girl AND your friend, so be careful.
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This is ridiculosly simple. Take the sister. If you can't get her pants off after three dates, dump the bitch and move on. There is always another.
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Sometimes when it comes to relationships damn if you do and damn if you don't, You will have to decide and hope you make the right decision.
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It would be quite awkward for both her and the sister if you tried to dump the sister for the girl you originally liked. So I'd say dating the sister is a no-no unless you don't think it will last long and you won't have a chance with the other girl for a couple of years. Although you shouldn't wait around for the chance that the girl might split up with her boyfriend because it might never happen. I am crazy about a girl who is with another guy but I'm trying to get other girls too. If she dumps him or something then I'll try and take my shot (like I should have done in the first place), but until then I have to live my life. Who knows? I might meet someone I like even better (maybe...). The same goes for you. So date someone... just probably not her sister. =) +3
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