I look around and see so many people who seem to want bigger houses, fancier cars, designer clothing, flawless bodies, perfect relationships. More, more, more. Is this really making them any happier?
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No, but they are too busy trying to keep up with the Joneses to notice.
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I want a more spacious house, to store all my old body parts, and house my harrem. What's wrong with that?
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Where are you at? Where i am no one has any money or jobs.
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The thing that will make me more happier is for everybody to try and live more godly lives and not worry so much about material objects.
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If anything, I think it is giving them more stress trying to make morgage and car payments during a rough time for everyone. Maybe a bit snobbier too, as they want all the materialist and unnecessary stuff only to show it off to all their friends.
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Nahh! They're miserable! Just look at them! Now, wouldn't you love to slap those big toothy smiles off their faces? (LOL!) ..... gt's a green-eye! gt's a green-eye! Nyahhh, nyahhh!
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they think so and then pay an expensive shrink on top of it. A lot of people want to get all they can out of this life. We are all different. I live in a modest home, modest clothing but also try and live within my means. I think living simpler makes for less stress. just my .2 cents.
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I can only speak for myself, but I've found peace and serenity in spirituality and not in material goods.
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You mean the happy people who were buying McMasions they couldn't afford to fill with furniture and are now in foreclosure?
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is it then wrong that i profit from those type of people?most of my customers are in that frame of mind,every couple of years they get a NEW yacht.i swear the day they receive their boat,they are building the next one.nothing small either we are talking about the 120-180 foot range.
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Great question. I live in a very rich neighborhood complete with million dollar homes, SUV's, and every toy imaginable and people are NOT happy. They bust their humps trying to pay for all the stuff so they can keep up with the Jones's. A neighbor once told my husband he envies him because we make time every night to read to our son. He has never in 12 years read to any of his children because there is no time. Oh...and I have a nice little house and a mini van!
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Maybe for few years or month, but not for long. Those things will get stolen, broken, or will be out of style and they will never fill their hearts with true happiness. True happiness comes not from things that you can taste, smell, feel or even eat, but from things that opposite. Like love, compassion, forgiveness, and for me it is God, because He is all of those things and much, much more.
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no no no, it makes them miserable. the only one of those i want is a flawless body. even that isnt something i want for me; i just want my man to stop complaining about me not looking like a model. im happy with being a size 5/6, but he remiinds me daily that im too big and i dont wanna deal with that anymore.
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No. Most people live in big suburban houses and have nothing to do but watch TV.
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Nope, if nothing else it just adds to stress
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A miserable person will be miserable whether or not they're rich or poor.
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Not a car guy. The bigger the house you have the more work you have to do. Designer clothing...I don't know the last time I was in a mall (although I must admit the ex wife and ex g/f bought me nice clothes, designer, who knows, who cares? I don't. No body is flawless. Married for 17 years. Probably 7 without the pill. Never had kids. Who was flawed? Don't know. I do like nice legs however. No relationship is perfect, although from my experience, women get pissed off a lot easier. The only thing I wanted from each of those partners was more more more of them and I simply mean seeing them. The ex wife travelled a lot and the g/f has her own firm and worked long hours. I complained probablly too much which led to arguments. Don't get me wrong. I've got my faults too, but that's my perspective.
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No, it doesn't. When you get the newest thing, pretty soon a new thing will come out and you'll be stuck with the older, unfashionable thing. If you live to have the biggest and best thing, then you won't be happy, and your goal could never be achieved.
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not if they are not capable of happiness. we are living in different places though I look around and I see peole would would like a house, wish they could get a less expencive car but can only get financing for a more expencive one, want cloths new enough not to be thread bare, to stop living on unhealthy food like top ramen. the inability to obtain this because of lack of money destroys both happiness and relationships. I have it even worse by my wife being sick more than twice as often as BOTH my grandmas combined.
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You can thank media for all of those wants. Media tells us that everyone has these things, and that you will only be happy if you do too. It makes us feel like we are not the norm, and that we are less because we do not have these things. All the big houses, facy cars, and designer clothes in the world, will not make you happier, because in the end the house is just a bunch of wood, the car is a tin can, and the cloths is a bunch of sheep fur. When we see that these things are not making us happy, we seak to buy more, because then we think that will make us happy. Truth is material objects will give u a high of happiness for a bit, but will never give you true happiness.
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Nope. I used to go after those things, because it seemed like everyone who had them were so happy and had the perfect life. But once I got any of them, I would want the next, and the next, because deep down nothing would make me happy. The one thing that can make you happy is love and the friends and family around you.
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Depends on the person are they materialistic or not some find out these things wont make them happy but yet some others just keep doing whatever they can to have theses things for me just as long as im not having to rob peter to pay paul and everyone is fed and clothed were fine just me and mine =)
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That is capitalism for you. These wants are actively encouraged, they boost the economy. America at it's finest.
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How many "succesful" americans are on depression pills?
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You left out huge penises and breasts....
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The more superficial you are the more happy these things will make you.
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No, it is not making them happier. I bought a smaller house and have less housework. I stopped worring about my weight and started to just enjoy life and lost 24 pounds. My truck is 8 years old, but it runs great and gets me where I am going. The money I did not spend on a new truck made it so I could go out of state to meet my new grandchild. Simple things are wonderful.
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no cause the more they have the more they THINK they have to have. They buy things and in a few weeks it's old and they want something different. That's not happiness. Being satisfied with what you have got is happiness not constantly buying bigger and more expensive things. I know people who have nothing major but are so happy..they are not constantly attempting to buy a newer fancier car or plastic surgery or anything. they are just satisfied with what they have.
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They think it does. Keepin' up with the Jones's is rough. I don't bother.
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"Too much is never enough!" Miss Piggy
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Yes.
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when they get these stuff they willl start a new challenge those people never get happy and never get rest trying to show others there fake achievements where if they spent that time on building a better personality they will really be happy
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I have no doubt that some people are made happier by outward signs of success - I guess on some level we all like nice "junk" in our lives.
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What a good question gtravels. i think it starts outwith that good feeling one gets when one achieves something. but that is exactly all it is. a good feeling. but as with all feelings, it always changes. and all too often we confuse good feelings with happiness. happiness is a state of being and not a sense or feeling. and this seemingly ridiculous race is nothing but a pecking order. the richest has the most influence and/or power. earns the most 'respect' and apparant acceptance. i.e. in my opinion.
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not really theyll only want the next thing theyre told to want by the massive media campagne
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But not everyones dream is the American dream. Why do we feel like we all have to follow the same dream.
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It's healthy to desire things in life and achieve your goals. People should also remember to enjoy the simple things. Some people who have very little are happier than some who have a lot.
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If it fullfills their needs & their families needs, it is. A false sense of anything is not ever good!
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I know! I went with my dad to the AT&T store a while ago so he could get a phone. It disgusted me how people were acting over these little electronic devices, how they had to have the fanciest one, and just seemed to have to have THE BEST of it all. It made me shiver a little, honestly. It was like gluttony but not with food.
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Many people are proud of their homes, and would prefer nicer ones. Car hobbyists seem to get a lot of pleasure from fancy cars. Many people enjoy shopping for and wearing nice clothes. And even if a flawless body won't make people happy, many people who are overweight are very unhappy with their bodies, and losing weight can make them feel much happier and better about themselves. And that people in healthy relationships are happier seems like something of a no-brainer. I think having these things can make people happy, but people who are never happy with what they have may need to learn to take what they can get and be happy with it.
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Not in my opinion. They want more than what everyone else has. One of the downfalls of today and why so many are in debt up to their eyeballs. They also think their children need too many things and their children don't learn the true value of a dollar; they expect everything handed to them even as they age. It forces both parents to work, when many of these families could live on one income (if they didn't feel they need all the unnecessary things they purchase) and bring up their own children instead of packing them off to daycare for someone else to spend more time with them than they do. There was a simpler time when everyone didn't want bigger houses, fancier cars, etc and didn't have all the stress that goes with the debt that comes along with it and the problems that stem from their children being raised by someone else. How can they be happier when all it really brings is unnecessary added stress. I think that's part of the high divorce rate too; too much stress from trying to keep up with the Jones's.
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who wouldn't want to live the good life
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It is a temporary false feel good that will leave them and their family in a pile of DEBT!!
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No, they have the same issues, with or without the material things. -
Honey, in the end, more is less. If you have ever watched someone you love die, it becomes so obvious what is important. They may think these things are important, but they haven't been kicked by reality yet. Trust me, I work for hospice.
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No the only that that will really make them happy is a godly relationship with everybody.
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You might also ask yourself, why are so many of them on antidepressents? Dispite how it might look, bigger houses have bigger worries, fancier cars breakdown just like regular ones, and those flawless bodies grow old just like us "regular" folks. Happiness is a way of traveling, not a destination
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no they just want ppl to think that
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If they were happy they wouldn't be continually seeking bigger/better. So, no it isn't making them any happier. Just giving them nicer stuff to piss and moan about.
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I think your question reflects a real problem with our society. Poverty, real poverty, has nothing to do with the money or possessions you might have. Real poverty is not having friends, family, people who you can call on, depend on, and rely on, no matter what the circumstances. Old joke,(I am an old man,ok?), a real friend will not come help you out of jail, he will be sitting in the cell with you.
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They are happy indeed!
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There's a word for that, it's "affected." It means their wants and desires have been programmed for them by the media. It's easier to profit off these types.
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I ask myself that as well. Does a family of four really need a 3500 sq. ft. house? Or TWO SUV's? I think not, but somehow we have associated having these material things with being happy and I'm sure that's not the case. Additionally, the more, more, more mentality cannot be sustained long term. Maybe the current economic situation will help people come to terms with what is really important: family, friends, community, well-being.
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Maybe some are happy and some are not.Some can afford to to get a bigger house,and others only do so to keep up with the Jones.The latter are the ones who get into difficulties in times of recession as they have problems finding the cash to pay the monthly mortgage payments.In other words their finances are insufficient to sustain their life style.
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Most likely, NO. That's why they're seeking more, bigger, better. They're obviously unhappy with what they have. They can't seem to get it right, no matter what they get to replace it with. They're trying compensate for their unhappiness with material things, and while they seem to have the biggest and best of everything-they're absolutely miserable. That's what happens when a problem isn't fixed right the first time.
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If you are unhappy where you are you will be unhappy wherever you are. The if I could just ... then everything would be alright is a mirage. You and only you are in charge of your happiness. There are people doing life in San Quenton humming a happy tune and rich, beautiful, successful movie stars killing themselves. It is your responsibility to be happy with you.
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no...because there's always bigger houses, fancier cars, newer designer clothing...flawless bodies don't exist and neither do perfect relationships. No, they are not happier because of this stuff.
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Nope. It seems more likely that they will become MORE selfish and MORE lonely if that's what they want.
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Never did me...
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more money more problems thats how i see it.
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They think so, but it doesn't. In the end it gets silly when billionaires are jealous of other billionaires' bigger houses, boats and jets...
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My wife and I got a bigger house...and we are very happy because of it...why? because its an accomplishment we worked hard for, its nice to live in something nice and it provides comfort. And perfect relationships dont exist, but if you didnt try for it, then what is the point of being in one? to be miserable? having a nice body can also have something to do with wanting to be healthy, after all, it does make you feel better to be healthy. and you dont have to be rich like so many claim in order to achieve such things.
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Not as much as one would think. With greater possessions comes greater fear of losing what you have, since there is more.
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If they were truly happy they would not pursue more.
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NO, it just gives them more things to hide behind so people don't see that they are miserable.
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If it were making them happy they wouldn't keep trying to buy bigger, fancier and more costly things. It has become a competition today and there is nothing wrong with wanting better but when is enough, enough?
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depends, tell me more about this perfect body. and dont skimp on the detail.
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It's suppose to. But honestly it will not work, for having all of this will leave one guessing. A perfect relationship leaves no compassion, a perfect house has no need for creative touches by you. A fancier car is not fancy for too long. Designer clothing always rips, just because they have a name on it doesn't mean it can withstand damage. More, More, More if you have everything already what is it for one to gain. Life with all it's ups and downs is fun in my eyes, but to those who always want more what will one do when there is no more.
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Yes. Live fast, die young, leave a handsome corpse and let someone else pickup the tab. Democracy you gotta love it.
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I think the reason that these people are seeking all these things is because they think they will make them happy, but it won't. Happiness has nothing to do with material things. I think that money and things can make your life easier and maybe give you a sense of temporary happiness but I am sure there are many rich people out there with the most amazing collections of STUFF and they are still the loneliest people around.
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I think it gives us something to hold on to, something to work for, some goal in life...
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IF YOU WANT THE RIGHT ANSWER, YOU'LL HAVE TO ASK THEM.
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They live in my neighborhood too. I am the opposite, except for the flawless body part. I have a flawless 62 year old body, at least I do if you ignore the extra weight and the fact that hair is relocating from my head to other parts of my body. Actually, I have been working on simplifying my life. I argued with the insurance company to fix, rather than total my deer struck car, donated extra usable furniture to Goodwill, and am even paring down my "spare parts" drawers. I would like my house to be set up in a Japanese type with open spaces and a few good quality pieces of furniture. Then I would be happy.
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G'mornin, gtravels! [ hugs ] Actually, all of those things you listed are called "dissatisfiers." The lack of them can make people strive for them in the expectation of being somehow "happier." But once they have them, they begin looking for something else to make them "happy." True happiness lies in a total change of focus: loving others, buidling effective relationships, contributing to the betterment of mankind ( whether by helping one individual or many ), accepting your place as a part of all that lives, and for many of us ... learning to love God.
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No, it is just keeping them busier so they are not thinking about all there problems.
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No the only thing it will make them is to want even more after that then they will see how empty their wallet is sudenly
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Money cant buy happiness, everyone knows that. But believe it or not, certain items can make a person happier. Dont you think that someone who owns 100 acres and a mansion is happier than someone who lives under a graffitied bridge in manhatten?
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If you delved into the lives of these people, you'd find a lot of unhappy marriages (or divorces), people w/o many (true)friends or family, people with serious or terminal illnesses,addictions, abuses, etc, etc,. Don't always think the grass is greener on the other side of the fence. Many times, all these "things" are making up for the lack of the truly important things in life. Always be grateful for what you have, value your fiends and family, and try to help those who are less fortunate than yourself (not always thinking of ME,ME,ME).
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Take a look at Tiger Woods. His a$$ is in hot water.
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No. Just more misery and debt. +5
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It will only make them happier if all those things can be sucessfully used to make people feel superior to someone else. Then that new crap gets tarnished, the "New car" smell is replaced with the smell of cigarette smoke and farts, and the latest technology comes out. Then people aren't as happy. So I guess you CAN buy happiness, it just has a very short shelf life.
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