Because it is usually my fault anyway. at least my conditioning makes me think that way

i dont blame myself...i either blame it on the person whos fault really is or just move on. forget about whos fault it is, why point fingers, you're not getting anything solved this way. poeople worry too much about things they have no control over...if something goes wrong try to fix it to make it right.

I think this depends on the person. Concience I think plays a role in how we feel and react to situations, if something happens in a personal relationship I always wonder what I did wrong even if it is not about em at all. As a person in authority at work, if something goes wrong I feel the need to try and "make it better" which usually puts blame onto me. It's the type of people we are!

do you? i blame everyone and everything else, even if it is my fault. bad habits die hard i guess...

My son doesn't... he blames me! Even if I am nowhere near him...its my fault. A kid hits him at school...its my fault. TWISTED!

If something goes wrong I always backtrack and think of what I could of done differently to stop or change what happened and wish I did that.

1) I don't do it all the time. There are some possibilities: - it is evident that I am not to blame for it - if not, I'll investigate the question, and if it was my fault, I shall regret it and try to repair the harm I have done. And learn from it to better myself in the future. - according to the situation, if it was someone else, I tell them about it with diplomacy or just ignore it. Anyway, I find it always better first to seek the problem by myself than to start shooting around at other people. But spontaneous reactions can sometimes be better. 2) Here some explanation about false guilt: "The Effects of Sin The consequences of sin are doubtless more numerous than we will attempt to consider in this brief study. We will ponder only two at this time. Look first at the matter of guilt. I mean real guilt, that feeling of having done wrong because I know I did wrong. Sometimes a person is plagued with pseudo guilt, a guilt feeling arising from emotional causes. During my twenty-five years of pastoral counseling I interviewed young people and older people who were depressed and at the same time condemning and punishing themselves for having done wrong and shameful things. In some instances the person was not able to name any particular act or sin that produced the guilt feeling. In such cases I tried to learn the cause of the false guilt feeling. One case in particular comes to mind. I will not burden you with the many details but concentrate on the essential. The young woman who sought help was twenty-two years of age, unmarried and living at home with her parents. Both her mother and father were unhappy and had found it difficult through the years to tolerate their daughter. They had scolded her indiscreetly with repeated threats and warnings all throughout her childhood. She grew up with a guilt complex and a growing fear that her next words or action would provoke another scolding or even punishment. She was made to feel unworthy and in need of punishment when all the while she was doing nothing so wrong whereby she needed scolding or punishment. She had a fine job as a secretary for General Motors, earned good wages, but she anticipated disapproval and condemnation. She was suffering from pseudo guilt caused by emotional maladjustment. Later I learned that her parents were college graduates. They began dating in their senior year, committed adultery which resulted in pregnancy. They kept the matter to themselves for several months, but by the time of graduation it was no longer a secret. Both of their parents learned the truth before the marriage ceremony. And now for all of those twenty-two years they lived in remorse over their sin in sexual behavior. They had a problem which they never solved, and so their repeated warnings and threats with domineering overtones awakened in their only child a sense of false guilt. They vented their feelings on their daughter, and so intuitively the child grew up with the unjust burden of guilt and anxiety. She suffered from guilt because it was put into her mind by the bad behavior of her parents. Thus it is possible to feel guilty without being so. (In time she overcame her problem through counseling in the Bible and prayer.)" Source and further information: http://www.bible.org/page.php?page_id=399 My opinion is that this woman could better be helped from a specialist in psychology than from a priest, because all those bad feelings actually developed on the ground of her religious environment, which created all those feelings of sin and of guilt in her parents and indirectly in her. Source: http://www.bible.org/page.php?page_id=399 3) "Self-Pity My opinion is we tend to be very perfectionistic. So when we don’t have more power than God and make everybody do right, we hit ourselves over the head with, “Bad me! Stupid me!” What are we going to do when we hit ourselves with, “Bad me! Stupid me!” Then we’re going to cry with, “Poor me!” You never find guilt and self-pity separate. If a person is feeling self-pity, they’re always feeling guilt. And if they’re feeling guilt, they’re always feeling self-pity. It’s very simple, very clear, very convincing. And both of these attitudes are expressed by a whining tone of voice. Meaning is in tone of voice, just as much as it is in words. In my opinion, there’s no such thing as guilt. What there really is, is pseudo-guilt. I haven’t read this anywhere, I made it up. I’m 76 years old this month, been in private practice over 45 years, so I’m entitled to an idea or two, particularly since I’ve been studying it so hard. Sincere guilt would commit suicide. I don’t mean the person would commit suicide; the feeling would commit suicide. Because if I’m sincerely guilty about some wrongdoing, I immediately decide and quit. So then the guilt is gone. Because I don’t feel guilty about something I’m not doing wrong anymore. So anybody’s feeling guilty, it’s pseudo-guilt. It’s very self-destructive. It doesn’t help you become a better person, it makes you a worse person." Source: http://www.stopyourdivorce.com/troubled-relationship.htm 4) "Do you know most Christians do not have a problem with true guilt. It is usually pseudo guilt, worrying about little things, staying awake at night, what does so and so think of me? If only I had gotten this done today. I meant to get more done and they worry about that. The devil seizes on that. Here is the irony. True guilt, which is based upon our culpability toward God, sin, is the easiest to deal with. Pseudo guilt is not easy, it is hard to deal with. True guilt is easy because the blood does it. Good old 1 John 1:9, if we confess our sins he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness." Source: http://www.lifetoday.org/site/DocServer/11-22.doc?docID=1288 5) Pseudo-guilt by dogs: could this help us to understand how it works? http://www.dogsense.co.za/docs/pospunishment_10022005.doc 6) A very interesting article here: "And this is exactly what we will have to grapple with when we want to separate from a parental complex. We will be tied down with feelings of both pseudo-guilt and legitimate guilt. It’s important to differentiate between the two because they are really different in its intention. The pseudo-guilt towards the parental complex is extremely strong because it is a manifestation of the complex and it’s hold over us; to the extent we feel guilt we can know that it’s the complex it’s way to entrap us in its power. Whatever would lead us to separate from the complex will instil in us a deep sense of guilt (symbolically taking of her garments which will allow us to no longer identify or be perceived by others as a naive Fool), which if not recognized for what it is, will keep one entrapped in the grip of the parental complex. It will even go as far as to make us feel guilty when we act more "authentic" to our individuated sense of self because it would make the Mother "unhappy" (in the parzival myth, the mother symbolically dies from a heartbreak when Parzival leaves, which needs a whole entry to delve into its different dimensions off meaning)." Source and further information: http://uk.rottentomatoes.com/vine/journal_comments.php?entryid=454510&journalid=199996