Is it necessarily healthy to approach every new relationship like it "could be the one."? I mean like...Is always looking for love really that good?
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I think it's better to just live and experience and let happen what may. It's a lot more comfortable and, in the long term, more likely to land you in a lasting relationship.
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I think it's more desperate than healthy.
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I think one has to have a positive attitude, but also just let things flow. If you put too many expectations on one person, you're bound to feel disillusioned. I happen to meet my bf in the most incredible way...on line, when I saw him on a friend's page. I liked his smile and sent him an IM. I never thought he would be the one I would love like no other. But I do. I didn't approach him thinking, OMG...he could be the one. It just happened! Great question, btw.
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There is no "one". That's Hollywood crap. I'm not saying there isn't such a thing as love, but women are only good for 7 - 9 years and if you go into any relationship expecting more you deserve what you get.
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i think a better approach would be to see how well you get along, if shes looking for "the one" then your in the right spot because some people date to be dating someone and for awhile thats how it should be and if you really hit it off then you can go into that mindset but dont just throw your heart out there or it will get broken i can guarantee that
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no I don't think it is sucha great idea at all. It sounds like you are looking for happiness in someone else. You have to look within yourself first and find the thing you are looking for in someone else. as long as you look for that in another person you will never find it. what you are doing is trying to find something you think is love, but what it is you are looking for is a peace within yourself. You have to be confident, satisfied, self assured, and happy with yourself first before you could ever be that with someone else. So believe me this thing you are looking for is something that is missing within yourself. Find out first what that is and get it then love will find you.
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It seems to me that love is like everything else in life. You know how you can't remember the name of that band? It's on the tip of your tongue though! You quit thinking about it and then it comes to you! Or you cannot remember where you put those keys? Later, you find them. I am not saying not to go out and meet people, just don't go out with the expectation that you are going to meet the one. Go out, have fun! You just might be surprised!
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I think all relationships should be approached that way unless otherwise stated.
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There is always the chance they are the one, but don't let that pressure you into something that is not right. After all the more time you waste on someone who is NOT the one, the less time you have to look for THE one
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Nope. I think the opposite is better. Go out with someone because you like each other and have fun. +5
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Well if they were not approached that way why are you there in the first place? I mean if you are not treating it that way then they really aren't getting the best of you are they? Everyone is different and perhaps some people would hold back until they are sure this person is worth their time and I can totally understand that its a healthy and defensive thing to do but I tend to be friends with people before I get into a relationship with them so that when I get into it I can be myself and give myself fully to that person. So I guess either way can be healthy depending on which way the person approaches it.
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I am relationship oriented and life is too short to spend it with one who is not at leaset a potential life partner, UNLESS you are really just looking for a good friend.
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I just look for fun, If I have lots of fun times with a lady, and we keep progressing to the next step after many (or not) dates, then good, but I'm not sure if I believe in the fairytale love, so,ok, I don't mind saying to a girl I love her, but it's just a word I use. I might care for somebody in a huge quantity, but the word "love" for me, doesn't mean anything. I think if you are looking for "the one" you might be disappointed to often.
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No! I think that proper relationships are more likely to arise when you're not actually seeking something serious. Otherwise I think there is too much pressure and you can create a bit of an edge. I'm not saying I think you should be slack in a new relationship: not at all. But enjoy it for what it is, not what you hope you might eventually find. That way you let it naturally develop.
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I think you need to get to know someone as friends first, then branch out to group dates, than one on one dates. After seeing each other for a while (say six months) and you can't see the relationship heading towards marriage, I would consider it a waste of time and break-up. I think relationships should be about getting to know someone than deciding if it's someone you want more to do with. Marriage would be the ulitmate goal, but I don't think it's healthy to picture every man or woman who enters your life as a possible husband or wife until you know them very well and want to continue seeing them.
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I did not approach most relationships like that. I approached them as I will make a good friend and it it develops into more then that is even better and I did end up marrying my best friend. We had decided to just be friends and just could not.
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