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by Phrenia on January 25th, 2007

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Does it bother you when people spend so much time telling you how much they "care" because they "understand" that they fail to realize that they know absolutely nothing about you? Is there anything you would/do say to people like this?

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  • by killdrphil - reasonable for a madman on December 18th, 2008

    killdrphil - reasonable for a madman

    They probably are saying they understand the situation and not you persay. Besides, it's someone who is telling you they care. You should be grateful.

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  • by SABOTEUR on December 18th, 2008

    SABOTEUR

    First, I never...(CORRECTION)...I'm very selective about who I tell my business to, since telling your business is an invitation for people to critique you or what you say.

    (NEVER say ANYTHING you don't want repeated or you don't want to be confronted with.)

    Secondly, if they know nothing about you, they're obviously talking about somebody else. Don't sweat it.

    Finally...it could be worse. They could be saying something like, "You've obviously got me mixed up with someone who gives a damn".
    -

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  • by Yarnlady is happy every day on December 18th, 2008

    Yarnlady is happy every day

    The "human condition" is pretty much the same for all of us. We do not really need to "walk a mile in your shoes" to understand what you are experiencing. Think about it - do you have to experience the death of a child to know it hurts beyond words? Do you have to have your husband die in a car wreck to feel bad for me? Do you have to see your own son suffer a severe, disabling stroke to know my anguish? Of course not, if you are the least bit human.

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  • by chiism1 is gone 4 good on December 18th, 2008

    chiism1 is gone 4 good

    They are relating, why do you share if you don't want a response like that?

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  • by lovemenotloveme on December 18th, 2008

    lovemenotloveme

    Thank you.

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  • by Valparaiso on January 25th, 2007

    Valparaiso

    No, I'm thankful to have them caring even if they don't quite understand me or know a lot about me.

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  • by somewhere Pll loves her dawgy on December 18th, 2008

    somewhere Pll loves her dawgy

    No, nothing I'd feel strongly enough that I'd have to say it.

    I may take it with a grain of salt if it seems a bit a bit too gushy and insincere...otherwise I do believe many people *do* care.

    Even if we're anonymous strangers. Even if the sentiment is fleeting. Even if they don't really 'get' me...

    But in most likehood they do to some degree - we're more akin than alien as a species.

    No matter how isolated & misunderstood we may sometimes imagine we are; with our own tortured brilliance & uniqueness.

    I doubt there's any new thoughts that haven't been thought. By someone, somewhere at sometime.

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  • by hatenit on December 18th, 2008

    hatenit

    EXTREMELY!!!!! it drives me crazy

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  • by Karkhan on December 18th, 2008

    Karkhan

    Well, my "best" friend says he knows everything about me and knows what I feel about certain things, although he's wrong, everyone who's ever thought they knew me, didnt... I don't even know myself for the moment.

    And I don't say anything to those people, that's how my personality is, the less they know about me, the smaller the loss when I disappear.

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  • by sharpjwe on December 18th, 2008

    sharpjwe

    no one know anything
    each case is so unique , we need friends for sure
    but the answer to all your issues are in our self .

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  • by bigkado69 on February 1st, 2007

    bigkado69

    well when someone says they care then i like it,but nothing is better when someone can care for you in person.

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  • by Skip_2_My_Lou on January 25th, 2007

    Skip_2_My_Lou

    Excuse my language but this is what I would say: "Muthafucker you don't know me!"

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  • by Mud on May 1st, 2009

    Mud

    I never beleive any of this coming from anyone, I tell em "more than words please"

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  • by Joseph has another name on December 18th, 2008

    Joseph has another name

    i appreciate it when people say things like that - surely it means something that they actually could be bothered saying it? if they didn't "care" why would they say anything?

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  • by Tamilze on December 18th, 2008

    Tamilze

    Oh, I hate that. Even here on this website, there are a lot of people who do that, at least to me. Telling me, "I care about you, I really do," or even "I love you." Ugh, gag me....how much more insincere could you get? Uh, anyway, I usually tell these people to get up and stop embarrassing themselves.

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  • by Gone on July 11th, 2009

    Gone

    Thank you so much for your concern and friendship.

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  • by kkk on July 11th, 2009

    kkk

    Obviously they do care because someone who dosen't know you is taking the time to at least talk. And I think the "understand" thing is to try to help. Even if it dosen't help at all...they feel like they have been through someting similar and can relate. Even if you know they can't. Just agree and try not to slap away a helping hand.

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  • by A on July 11th, 2009

    A

    It doesn't bother me, but I don't always believe people. Also, there are some people who care way too much about things that aren't even going wrong in my life, but they seem to think they are for whatever reason. Now, THAT'S annoying.

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