Does it bother you when people spend so much time telling you how much they "care" because they "understand" that they fail to realize that they know absolutely nothing about you? Is there anything you would/do say to people like this?
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ANSWERS: 19
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All I would say is, "You acting stupid."
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No, I'm thankful to have them caring even if they don't quite understand me or know a lot about me.
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Excuse my language but this is what I would say: "Muthafucker you don't know me!"
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well when someone says they care then i like it,but nothing is better when someone can care for you in person.
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no one know anything each case is so unique , we need friends for sure but the answer to all your issues are in our self .
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Well, my "best" friend says he knows everything about me and knows what I feel about certain things, although he's wrong, everyone who's ever thought they knew me, didnt... I don't even know myself for the moment. And I don't say anything to those people, that's how my personality is, the less they know about me, the smaller the loss when I disappear.
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They probably are saying they understand the situation and not you persay. Besides, it's someone who is telling you they care. You should be grateful.
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Thank you.
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They are relating, why do you share if you don't want a response like that?
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The "human condition" is pretty much the same for all of us. We do not really need to "walk a mile in your shoes" to understand what you are experiencing. Think about it - do you have to experience the death of a child to know it hurts beyond words? Do you have to have your husband die in a car wreck to feel bad for me? Do you have to see your own son suffer a severe, disabling stroke to know my anguish? Of course not, if you are the least bit human.
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EXTREMELY!!!!! it drives me crazy
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First, I never...(CORRECTION)...I'm very selective about who I tell my business to, since telling your business is an invitation for people to critique you or what you say. (NEVER say ANYTHING you don't want repeated or you don't want to be confronted with.) Secondly, if they know nothing about you, they're obviously talking about somebody else. Don't sweat it. Finally...it could be worse. They could be saying something like, "You've obviously got me mixed up with someone who gives a damn". -
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No, nothing I'd feel strongly enough that I'd have to say it. I may take it with a grain of salt if it seems a bit a bit too gushy and insincere...otherwise I do believe many people *do* care. Even if we're anonymous strangers. Even if the sentiment is fleeting. Even if they don't really 'get' me... But in most likehood they do to some degree - we're more akin than alien as a species. No matter how isolated & misunderstood we may sometimes imagine we are; with our own tortured brilliance & uniqueness. I doubt there's any new thoughts that haven't been thought. By someone, somewhere at sometime.
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Oh, I hate that. Even here on this website, there are a lot of people who do that, at least to me. Telling me, "I care about you, I really do," or even "I love you." Ugh, gag me....how much more insincere could you get? Uh, anyway, I usually tell these people to get up and stop embarrassing themselves.
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i appreciate it when people say things like that - surely it means something that they actually could be bothered saying it? if they didn't "care" why would they say anything?
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I never beleive any of this coming from anyone, I tell em "more than words please"
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It doesn't bother me, but I don't always believe people. Also, there are some people who care way too much about things that aren't even going wrong in my life, but they seem to think they are for whatever reason. Now, THAT'S annoying.
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Obviously they do care because someone who dosen't know you is taking the time to at least talk. And I think the "understand" thing is to try to help. Even if it dosen't help at all...they feel like they have been through someting similar and can relate. Even if you know they can't. Just agree and try not to slap away a helping hand.
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Thank you so much for your concern and friendship.
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