If your son likes to dress up in girl's clothes that is one thing. School, however, is a place where the focus should be on learning. If he goes to school wearing a satin dress the focus is not going to be on learning; it will be on him. The same could be said of a little girl who liked to wear ballet costumes. Just because she likes to wear them does not make them acceptable attire for school. Part of being a parent is making sure children do not always get everything they like, because sometimes what they like is not in their best interest.

That would all depend on the schools dress code.

He will be made fun of and ridiculed, not to mention that it will be remembered for the rest of his life. If he is gay then there is no escaping the torment he will endure from now on, if it is a lark he will pay dearly from now on.

I think it depends on the school's dress codes. His teachers won't approve. (I'm sure.) I don't think I'd let him until he was older, and he could understand that he could be made fun of for it for the rest of school.

OH HELL NO ... You do NOT allow your MALE child to go to school dressed in a Satin Dress ; I don't care what color it is ... For God's sake , do you want him to get made fun of and beat up by some of the more masculin kids ... ? If he wants to dress up at home ; that is one thing ... In Public ; he dresses as a MALE , at least until he is 18 and is LEGALLY in charge of his own dress code .. and style ...

Ok this is not right. Why does he like to wear girl's clothes? Does he have sisters? How did he come about the satin dresses? Anyway, i think you should talk to him about the fact that, as much as he likes it, the other kids will not understand, because boys dress as boys and satin dresses are for girls. Tell him that the other kids will make fun of him and hurt his feelings if he dresses that way. It is something that you do in the privacy of your house. I think you need to talk to a child psychologist to help him with this in the best way possible. So that he can grow up and be healthy about his likes and desires.

Do not allow him to go to school in a dress. I like the fact that you have an open mind, and be mindful that your son may turn out gay, but now is not the time for him to go to school dressed as the opposite sex. He will be ridiculed so much and it will affect him for the rest of his life.

well at school maybe toooo hard to explain, but at home you can let him dress as he likes, as long as it is not causing harm, may be you can take him on a vacation, where he can be a girl for a week, away from people who may know you, maybe Disneyland, can get him the princess dress i think that would make him very happy

Are you nuts? He'll be teased and be beat to a pulp. As a parent of a young child it is your responsibility to teach your son the norms of society. Once he is old enough, he can make his own choice. Don't encourage him just because you had a boy instead of the little girl you wanted

it is your kids life do what he says if he scruse it up like my preant 15 year old daughter sje thout sex was cool if your son says i want to be a girl then let him you know let him choose

let himm do whatt hee wantts youu noww hahahahaha you son is gayyyyyyyyyyyy

dont he is a guy he should dress like a normal kid his age have him get more testosterone around him if possible. he can make those devcisions once he is out of the house

Ok, first of all I think most people DO NOT understand this behavior. I learned about this while in one of my psychology classes in college. Your son is basically having some type of identity crisis. Obviously he feels nice in satin. This DOES NOT necessarily mean he is gay. Although it does not mean he is gay, it does lean more towards someone that is a cross dresser. Some men feel sexy when wearing women's panties or clothes. My suggestion is to try your very best to get him out of this while he is young. When you catch him with girls items on, don't embarrass him, because that will make him humiliated and probably make him worse. Tell him that this behavior is not desired by you and other people will laugh at him if he wears this. Do not let him wear anything like this to school. He will get picked on and this will make his mental state worse than it is now. Just because he saw a girl wearing a satin blouse and skirt gives you no right to placate him, allowing him to dress this way. He is still male. If he is gay, and one day chooses to dress this way when he is grown, it will be his choice, but never go along with a child of this age. He is still so young that he needs a strong willed parent/parents to set boundaries.

How about you let him wear something that he thinks is a girl thing (you can make him belief certain items are girl items) but that looks to the outside world faily normal. Pink shirt/socks? That way you can see if it is a phase or permanent without him getting a lot of sh.. from his peers.

I just want to set one thing straight. Men that wear women's clothes do not have to be gay. There are many in between states.

From reading the responses, I'd be horrified if you even consider taking anyones advice letting him do his own thing. Get him to a mental health person. Asking people here is like asking for major trouble. Would you come here to see if you're pregnant? Hell no, you'd see a REAL DOCTOR. I suggest you follow this advice.

comon he's 8. my brother used to dress up like a girl when he was little too. he loved it and my parents never said 'he's gay' or made him stop doing it. he doesnt know the difference when he's this young. He's doing what kids do. I wouldn't be worried at all. I dont think i'd let him wear dresses to school but at home let him do what he wants. If you involve the school you will pobably have all kinds of other headaches to deal with. Chances are, its a phase and it will pass. But if it doesnt, you'll have a new shopping buddy ;)

I would explain to him that by dressing that way at school he would most likely be teased and mistreated. I would emphasize that it isn't because he is "wrong" but because people are intolerant of differences and will single him out for abuse.

Yeh i woudnt advise that, some of these nutjobs are right, let me go to scjhool dresses like that, we will be dead in the next10minutes, it will be a slaughter house

Your son may be imitating something he had seen and was merely curious. Allowing an 8 year old boy to go to school in a dress would expose him unnecessarily to possible humiliation and social ostracism from his peers. Kids like to "label" and target others they perceive as different from themselves. Perhaps it is merely a developmental phase. Let him socialize with boys his own age. If he still likes the dresses at 14, or 18, then love him and be supportive.

I'm betting he's just curious and/or confused. Maybe he just needs to have 'that talk' about the differences between men and women to clear up the fuzzy grey areas.

No; being beaten up is not fun. This is clearly a case of discrimination-why is it females get all the "nice" fabrics- get him some (male)cloths in those fabrics-and a kilt if you are Scottish. Some marshal arts training would also be a good idea. There was an African male(I'm Canadian) wearing a "skirt" in the laundry room one day, it had pockets and looked comfortable.

This appears to be an old troll question. Other questions about wearing Satan dresses etc. in this users Q.

I wouldn't allow him to go to school dressed in a blouse and skirt or a dress. First of all, the school would probably have some sort of rule against that (boys at our schools would get sent home to change because it would be a disruption in classes). Second, at that age, kids can be very very cruel, and that would be inviting major stress and emotional complications for many years to come. But you would definately have to find a way to help him be himself and not change who he is. I know that sounds hyprocritical, but there has to be a happy medium somewhere!

Dont tell him kids are going to pick on him for dressing that way. Try to avoid that conversation. Encourage him to dress like a little boy while hes at school until you can get him into therapy. A therapist can help to determine exactly what has caused this desire. It could be as simple as something hes seen on tv... Now a days the media introduces children to all sorts of things that kids otherwise would have no clue about.

This shouldn't even be a question. A little boy doesn't necessarily need to dress like a man, but he DOES need to dress like a little boy. Be a parent and stand up to your little 8 year old kid. Dresses are for girls.

OK, so he's curious about dressing like a girl. What are you going to ask when he becomes curious about drugs and guns? Should I let my boy take his drugs to school? Should I let him take his gun to school? Be a parent and show the kid what is wrong and what is right - if you're not going to raise him right, who is? A childs mind is very open to all thoughts, good and bad, right and wrong, and you need to be a good parent to help him sort out these thoughts.

Let him wear whatever kind of dress and blouse he wants. But, if it's cold make him wear tights to keep his legs warm.

well if he gets made fun of it probably wont scar him too bad but he might get mad at you for letting him do that down the road i think i would tell my kid that it might not go over well at all, and make sure hes aware of that? and if he still wants too, then duck it! let him go. hes in control of his own life he might as well start young!! OH btw we were just studying this in my Psychology class..... it has no bearing on whether hes gay or not