Do you think shyguys can really get anywhere in life? People say I should be less shy because otherwise people will look down on me/take advantage of me. Is that true?
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seryeuse
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If someone take advantage of you, it's who they are not who you are. Being shy doesn't mean your stupid. Be who you are that way at least you are true to yourself.
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The way I see it, there is nothing wrong with being shy, it's knowing when to speak up and stand up for yourself and what you believe in is what will prevent people looking down on you and taking advantage of you. I think this will get people far in life.
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I think so because I'm a girl and I'm pretty shy and not too mention short and people take advantage of me all the time and I absolutely hate it.
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Yes they can! I was once shy, and now I have gotten myself up where I wanna be and climbing that corporate ladder! lol and yes, they looked down on me and tried to take advantage, however I used it as a way to prove them wrong. I sure silenced them :P
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There is nothing wrong with being shy. Being shy isn't the same thing as being spineless. Just because you tend to be on the quiet side, and don't put yourself out in the middle of a crowd and attempt to get attention, doesn't mean that you won't stand up for yourself when the time comes, and it definitely doesn't mean you have no self-confidence! Don't change who you are, and don't feel bad for being the way that you are. Have confidence, and believe in yourself. You can do those things and still be classified as "shy."
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no that is so not true....most non-sluty girls likee shy guys..i kno i do so dont think that...but try to get better at it by joing a club where u have to speak in front of ppl...thats what i did.
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Unfortunately, yes it's true. Being quite socially inept myself, I can only recommend that if you can swing it, try to be a bolder person.
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Well it depends, are you "shy" because you're physically or mentally inferior or "shy" just because you don't say anything? I am the latter type and nobody dares tango with me. If you are the first definition then you are likely to be razed so take a stand and establish you are not to be triffled with.
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I don't think that's true. If you are the type that is able to look at someone in the eyes and are able to maintain that eye contact, then you shouldn't have a problem with it.
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I tend to be very shy and it does make things more difficult in my personal life (often have difficulty finding the nerve to ask a woman I'm interested in out) but work-wise it hasn't bothered me. I do what I have to and thats about it, plus I've found that being more inclined to shyness has kept me out of the office politics and other idiocy of that nature. I am all business at work, no frivolity and no horse-play and that has won me a very solidly reliable reputation. This in and of itself goes a long way towards avoiding conflicts and the other landmines, including being taken advantage of. People will take advantage of you only in so far as you let them.
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Depends. If you are shy in the sense that you just won't speak up for yourself, people will take advantae of that. If you just don't talk until it is necessary and you know what to say, the I don't see a problem.
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It is possible for people to perceive a shy person as someone they can walk over. There's nothing wrong with being shy or quiet spoken, but there is a problem if you let people use you as a door mat. Don't do that!
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